I'm terribly shy, and at work i always have to go in busy offices. I get terribly embarassed because there's this guy i like(he asked me out today)and i feel awkward all the time because of my shyness. People only have to say hello and i go beet red and sweat like crazy. I've definately got anxiety problems. How do i calm myself?deep breathing doesnt help me by the way. alcohol calms me down but i dont feel like drinking it first thing in the morning.
2006-09-28 07:35:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Start taking the Homeopathic Remedy PULSATILLA 30 thrice a day half hour before meals and you will get over your Shyness and blushing very soon. Can I say something more, you are a person who weeps very easily and you are highly emotional,! Aren't you ? :-) Well all of these are the symptoms of the Remedy PULSATILLA :-) I am totally not psychic! You will be lots better off taking it, trust me and Homeopathic remedies do not have side effects or cause any complications. To read more about this remedy please click the link below.
Take Care and God Bless you
2006-09-28 07:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from extreme blushing aswell, and have done since I was a child. There are ways to help the problem, but unfortunately for most, it just has to be lived with. For me, the hardest thing is people not understanding the extent to which the anxiety affects me and my life.
I think you will be surprised how little you blush when you are enjoying yourself, so go out with this man by all means! But having been through this myself, the most important piece of advice I feel I can give you is - do not let yourself get attatched to comfort zones - just keep going out, speaking to people and following people's advice no matter how much more anxious it makes you feel. Have patience too - the anxiety will fade away eventually.
Have a look at the website below (click on "Blushing" on the left hand side) - it might help, but the main thing is to keep trying. Good luck!
2006-09-28 11:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it is to do with shyness or not. I also blush terribly sometimes although i am not a shy person. Someone whom i have been friends with for 20 years could ask me something and i will blush, i dont know why. I think you should go on your date and enjoy yourself even if you blush you cannot remove yourself from situations as this will lead to anxiety problems. In my own experience of blushing and sweating i try just to get through the moment as best as i can. Most people especially your friends may tease at first but if they become aware that you blush a lot then they will realize that it is something that you cannot control because of shyness or embarrasment and will not mention it. Gradually with more time and situations you find yourself in the problem will ease as you will learn to control it a little better.
2006-09-28 08:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ben H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have an anxiety problem and don't worry about feeling terribly shy. Everyone goes through times like that, try thinking through what's going to happen next and imagine yourself walking into the room, chin up, and everyone turns around to see the beautiful girl, who's witty, etc, etc. It's like the books and movies that everyone reads and watches as a kid where the adult says "that all you have to do is believe that you're beautiful, talented, just like everyone else and then you will be". You may not start to feel different at first but, if you start thinking these things about yourself you will feel a difference, people will notice you, (you can't be plain because someone's asked you out ;) and whatever you do don't try drinking to solve it because liquor is actually a depressant and will cause you more problems than you started with. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-28 08:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find patterns of thought and action that you can depend on.
You can do this by a simple exercise, which you should repeat daily.
1. This of a difficult situation, say, meeting people at a party.
2. Then close your eyes and think of something familiar that is reassuring to you, such as your bedroom.
3. Imagine doing something there that is routine and calming, such as folding clothes and putting them away.
4. Then return in your imagination to the stressful situation.
5. When you are in a real life situation (say at work)imagine the calming scene and run through it in your mind several times a day.
Repeat this exercise every day and in a fortnight you will experience much reduced senstaions of embarassment and stress.
2006-09-28 07:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have an anxiety problem, you are just sensitive to the energy that other people give off. It is natural to blush when you are a healthy person. Years of caffeine & alcohol will rid you of that, in an office setting, guaranteed! You are just young & unsure of your surroundings & the people you are surrounded by. Have you considered another line of work where you could be in a different setting with more of an outdoor surrounding & more down to earth people? You just may be out of your element & your body is telling you something. This doesn't sound like a healthy invironment for someone like you!
2006-09-28 07:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For shyness therz no medicine except Anti-depressants.
Bt drugs make u dependent and may create other medical problems. So i will never recommend u for those drugs.
U hav 2 fight ur Shyness urself. U hav to change ur thinkings and dare to talk to people without thinking that what they think of u.
U may b thinking ur self inferior to other people. Isn't it?
Think as if u r only d best person in d World. Do everything freely. Don't b afraid of anyone. No body is going to eat u.....
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 20:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blushing can be really attractive sometimes.
Anyway, I was shy for about 12 years, and only then began to tackle it myself, often in small ways.
Talk to people, even if is a word or two in a shop to the assistant.
Shyness is a kind of social phobia, and all phobias are very treatable either on an amateur or professional basis.
2006-09-28 20:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sciman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say that i am also this away and apparently there is nothing we can do to take this gene away from us...seriously u really cant well not yet anyways....sorry but just try to think of the positive things, luck and best wishes
2006-09-28 07:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by angelbaby8087 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try going to a night class in something like Drama. You'll have to speak and act infront of others. It might boost your confidence.
2006-09-28 07:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Nathan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋