I don't want to be a Mother to my own Mother any more!
I don't want her out on the streets.. but i'm sick of giving my money away to here while i'm still in debt!
She has no goals, no friends, no motiviation, she don't want anyones help, she stubbarn! she says she tries but how by waiting for it to knock on her door or step on her toe! I love her with all my heart.. i try to help i guess i'm not doing something right!
she finally got health insure threw the state!
and now we find out she has very high blood pressure and is about a step away from a heart attack!
we are in the process of moving! well she is i'm still getting my stuff out of the house! I do understand how she feels i mean she feels like she lost me her b/f and daughter because now i have a lover and moving on with my life! she has to move to a smaller place so she can keep her help from the state and go by her income and that's nothing she can't find a job maybe too old! she is in her 50's what to do help!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-28 07:17:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so anyway! i feel she tries a little but she is so down and tryies to be up but when i'm with her she brings me down! so much tht when i think about her i get down!
I don't want anything bad to happen to her but WHAT CAN I DO I CAN:T GO ON LIKE THIS ANY MORE
even my boyfriends feels for me i don't want pity i want answers help ful answers!!!
please someone help me please
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pretty please!
2006-09-28 07:19:04 · update #1
she is getting food stamps she is applying for jobs all been rejected we think it's because of her age!
only child...
and i have moved out i see here maybe once a week! I can't take it bringing me down! so i don't vistit much!
2006-09-28 07:26:28 · update #2
I worry that if i don't give her money she will end up living with me and my parnter... that is unacceptable! i can't put her out on the streets!!!
2006-09-28 07:27:54 · update #3
You are enabling your mother - that means that your constant help is preventing her from living her own life without you. If your mother is capable of working at SOME job, you need to step out of her life, even move away, so that she can start helping herself. 50-something is NOT too old for her to find a job.
Good Luck with YOUR life - you deserve it!
2006-09-28 07:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a program at a hospital for her. She sounds depressed or bipolar and can't concentrate or focus(ADD) .....I feel so sorry for you. Do you have other siblings or relatives that can help you.
She is not too old to get a job. Most people don't retire until 55 or older. Call a church for help. Get her involved in something. You have a right to have a life. I know it is hard. But sometimes tough love is needed. Move on and let her figure it out. Even if she hits rock bottom...sometimes that is what it takes....don't be her codependent....don't always let her know that you will be there to help her....she has to be strong on her own. But she hasn't had any practice if you are always helping her. Seek Counseling for her at the churches or hospital. Good Luck
2006-09-28 14:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called tough love hunny. You got to be firm and say get a job I'm not giving you anymore money.
2006-09-28 14:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just help ur mother , try check foood stamps or whatever u can only ur mother try it if she like it or not my thought at all it
2006-09-28 14:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by college20079 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life and love
2006-09-28 14:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋