I tried to just ignore her because I will not disrespect her since she is my mother. However, I can no longer deal w/ her calling me cussing and fussing then hanging up the phone. I avoid her because she has a nasty attitude. Although we live in the same town I only visit on holidays briefly and for her birthday. I recently limited her time with her grandchildren because she spends the time cursing and complaining to the children about me and indoctrinating them with negativity. They should not have to exposed to that as I was a child. I do not want to feel guilty, but I do not feel that I should have to deal with that type of behavior because she is my mother. I have a family of my own and I need peace in my life - not my momma and her drama. She has an explosive temper and lacks the maturity to have a conversation about why I think it is better to love her from a distance rather than having me lose all that's calm and peaceful within me and go off on her. I'm on the verge!
2006-09-28 07:15:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As soon as she raises her voice, hang up on her. If she calls back and yells, hang up. Repeat until she stops calling back.
The next time you can talk in a civil manner, tell her clearly that you will no longer tolerate her anger and will simply cut her off when it happens. Mean it and follow through.
Be ready to walk away from her if she ever does that in person; be ready to order her out of your house or call the police if she refuses to leave.
In time, she will improve, either by will, or through brute training by you or the police.
2006-09-28 07:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that mother is having quite of bit of issues that she can't cope with. Is there a history of this? Mother needs some type of counseling.
Whatever the problems are they would have to be listen to and sorted out. If she did these actions when you were a child and still doing it `she does need to seek some professional help before it's to late.
This only way I feel will help you. I have experienced this with not only one sister, but two.
You nor your children don't need this atmosphere, not healthy at all.Tell her I still love you, but you need some help in a calm manner. Try telling her that. This is not good.
2006-09-28 07:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rietta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that unless she can keep her opinions about you to herself, then she will not be allowed to visit with the grandkids. I would also tell her that you still love her but if she can't respect you more then don't bother calling anymore. If you can't do it face to face then write her a letter and spell it out for her, you don't have to be mean about it, just lay it on the line.
If she calls spoutin and sputterin just tell her that you refuse to listen to that and hang up.
Good Luck, I know this will be hard but you need to stand up for yourself.
2006-09-28 07:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by hisladytish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear your story.why dont you write her a nice long letter ,explaining how she upsets you.and your family.there is a limit of how much abuse a person can take.tell her every detail that you can think of.the bad mouthing that you dont want your children to hear.if i was you ,i would take time out ,until she sees reason .you are in my prayers good luck and dont be so down hearted,from mikhal in israel.
2006-09-28 07:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by mikhal k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then just tell her and keep telling her unitl she understands
2006-09-28 07:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by bprice215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋