its my 20 birthday..sad to say my dad is drunk.. he saw me and my 22 yr old bf slept at my room.. he said he didn't want to see my bf again, but they both had a good relation before.. the reason why my bf was at my room coz i work at night and he at day shift.. there is a storm that coz my bf to walk from his workplace until our house it was miles away no kiddin! the city got mess, billboards are all fallin down, tress are everywhere and accident that why he decided to walk, then he got home really tired and wet.
he invited me to go out for dinner to celebrate my birthday but i refused becoz i didn;t have a sleep 3 days ago.. tired of waiting i allow him to sleep next to me.. then my dad come in..were not doing anything bad.. it just our scheduled didn't met.. y need to slapped at me many times on my birthday..
2006-09-28 06:53:35 · 29 answers · asked by aerosemith_nirayvana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your dad is a jerk, this has nothing to do with you, he is drunk
you are old enough to leave if you want to, and if you feel you are not safe with him then i suggest you go. Hope every thing works out well, Happy Birthday:)
hey guys, she said they didn't do anything, he was there because he had no where else to go, there was a heavy storm.
Regardless of this girl's grammar i understand her, a lot of you need to stop being so hateful and intolerant; she is seeking help and you guys take every opportunity to bring her down some more, did you ever stop to think that she is not a native English speaker, it is obvious that many people here have personal issues they need to fix before ever trying to give advice to anyone, you people need to feel ashamed.
2006-09-28 06:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear that happened. violence should never be an answer, however, you do live in his home and even though it was TOTALLY INNOCENT, you should have had your boyfriend sleep on the couch. Daddys especially don't want to admit the fact their "little girl" is growing up. Alcohol is also a bad mix when added to the situation. Give it some time to cool off and then maby you can all sit down and have a talk. Your boyfriend should definatly try to apologies to your dad. I think that would score some points back. If you continue seeing your boyfriend and it turns into something more serious, it will be very stressful for everyone involved if they do not get along with everyone in the family. I believe you that nothing happened, but when you get older and have children of your own you will understand. I hope all works out for you. Happy belated birthday.
2006-09-28 14:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by RACHEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as your bf sleeping in you room if you weren't doing anything he should have gone to another friends house. That doesn't mean you dad has ANY right to ever hit you. Wait till you dad is not drunk to talk to him. If this is a regular thing or if it happens again GET OUT OF THERE. You are 20 you can get out on your own.
2006-09-28 13:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn_small 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no excuse for your father to slap you!
That is abuse. Don't let it slide. It is not your fault no matter what you did. No one, including your father, has the right to be physically violent with you!
There are many other non-violent responses your father could have chosen given his feelings about your bf being in your bed.
Physical violence often goes with drinking. Your father has a problem. You can bet he will slap you again or even worse.
I think it is best to move out asp! Where was your mother during all of this? It is your mother's job to protect you.
2006-09-28 14:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by KathyL 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of hard to understand your story, your writing is not very clear, but even though you are an adult you are living under his roof, did he hit you? If he did then thats wrong, you need to get your own place maybe, or youll have to respect his wishes that he doesnt want boys in your room regardless. You need to tell your dad the circumstances, and then your bf can sleep on the couch if your dad says its ok.
2006-09-28 13:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kuiper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most difficult thing to decide in family matters ( or others) is when d and where does the story begin. I am quite sure your birthday incident must have had a pre-history. ( Why does not your father like your b/f?)What it is you alone know. I do not think you can benefit from advice , because no adviser has the total picture.
2006-09-28 14:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rajesh Kochhar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No drunkeness is an excuss for hitting on anybody ever. Calling the cops is your best option, or wack his *** with a hammer in his sleep. Yet you must always be aware that you are 20 years old. Move out, get a place and have your so called "f***den" all to yourselves.
2006-09-28 14:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by nathaniel49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what your reasons were, you should respect your parents house if living there.
You must realize how it had to have looked.
This surely was not the only place in the house where he could have "rested".
Many parents feel that regardless of your age, if you are living in their household - their rules rule.
Apologize for your lack of choice.
Forgive him for not staying sober on your birthday.
May you have a blessed birthday otherwise!
Also - as old as you are - you should be seeking your own place anyway.
Great way to find out just exactly who you are.
Best wishes!
2006-09-28 13:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am not gonna read the rest of it sounds like a big lecture but if he slap u u got to make him understand that is very wrong but u got to find ur own channel with him and do not make him feel guilty for a long time i personally do not like such methods i think there r other ways of express that he got mad on u even if he cant understand ur point and with hes ignorance to it replys back with violence .and first of all he as a man should have saw that he as slapping a young woman ...
but anyway do not get the blues try to solve the thing out out of a man he is ur father and am sure upon all hates and tempestuous days u love each other u two just have to find out a proper vocabulary that both of u understand
2006-09-28 14:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by the black crab 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
its just a slap, you live..my concern is your grammer...Please...stay in school.
Respect your fathers house rules, I'm pretty sure your boyfriend could have spelt on the sofa or something...
If this is not the first time your dad is slapping for then move out or call the cops.
2006-09-28 13:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋