My fiance and I both have children of a similar age from previous relationships ( He has twins and I have a son)and would like to include them in the ceremony...Any Ideas on how to do this? We are trying to show the kids that they are going to be a important part of the new FAMILY.
2006-09-28 06:52:17 · 14 answers · asked by Pixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the children are 41/2 and 5 years old. The twins are a Girl and boy.
2006-09-28 08:12:04 · update #1
My husband and I felt the same way. We included our children in the ceremony. We took vows to be a newly created family as well as being husband and wife. We also presented each other's kids with special gifts to remember the day we became a family. Talk to your children, they may have some idea too. Do your best to make them feel included in everything. Talk with whoever is performing your wedding ceremony and he/she should have some great ideas for you.
Best of Luck with your new family!!!
2006-09-28 06:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have them all participate in lighting the Unity Candle. I did this once during a wedding where the couple had six children between them. All of the kids were already in the wedding party in some shape or fashion, so when it came time to light the Unity Candle, the older children lit two taper candles, and then helped the younger ones to light the rest of the tapers. The bride and groom then lit their candles from those of the children. There was also a beautiful song that was played.
Hope this helps. It's a lovely idea to get the kids involved in your special days since they are sharing your lives as well.
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2006-09-28 08:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by LkyChrm07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We included our children in our ceremony . After we said our vows to each other the children stood up with us in a circle. Then we read a little thing we had written about family not being blood but poeple who find joy in each others lives and care about each other. Then we gave each child a small gift. The girls received a small circle pendant and our twin boys (they're only 2 years old) received a ball and we said something their gift being an unenduing circle of love, devotion, and support just like our rings symbolized our love for each other. You can email me for details.
2006-09-28 07:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before the ceremony have a family dinner planned and set the dinner up on the date that there isn't a ceremony time, the introduce them stating you are including them into the family event.
Or another thing you can do is to take them to the movies and out to a favorite resturant. which ever you prefer.
Any more suggestions out there.
2006-09-28 07:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rietta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say they are a similar age, but how old? Just make sure that they do something that they all have an equal part in. Even if it is just being dressed up and standing off to the side.
2006-09-28 06:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be as simple as having them be in the wedding party to actually walking you down the aisle. My friend is having her fiance's kids in the party and hers will give her away. You could even have only them stand up (in the entire party) while you take your vows or stand right next to you. One more thought. When you are introduced as Mr. & Mrs. Whatever...you could have the person say: "I am pleased to introduce the Whatever Family - congratulations!"
2006-09-28 06:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by justamigal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a "blended family blessing" or family poem following the vows.
Have them be junior attendants in the bridal party.
But, do not exchange "vows" with children. Children do not get married-- adults do.
2006-09-28 07:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a family wedding
sounds weird i know but allow me to explain
i had a friend who was going to get married and her fiancee had a small child
i suggested to her to include the child in the ceremony by presenting her with something like a necklace
2006-09-29 07:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by luckyduck2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice if you did like personal vows to the kids. You could also include them if you wanted them for flowergirls, or ringbearers. Or Junior ushers or junior bridesmaids. Hope this helps. I don't know there ages or anything. Sorry.
2006-09-28 07:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have the girls be your flower girls and the boy be your ring bearer. They're the perfect ages and I think they'll have fun doing it.
You could even have the ring bearer escort both of the girls down the aisle t the same time...that would be adorable.
2006-09-28 08:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋