I have a friend I play music with. I find him very attractive. From time to time, I feel like he is flirting with me, and like he would like to ask me out. I do not have a problem being bold myself, but I am uncomfortable, because of the musical nature of our friendship, and because I really need a cellist to play with. I heard some timeback from another source that he has a girlfriend, though, but that was a while ago. I am starting to know him pretty well, but he never mentions anything about another woman, except as a "friend." I wrote him an email recently where I said I was very tired from all sorts of moving, I needed a little time to recuperate, but that I would like to get drinks with him in the near future, maybe with some other musicians. I also said that I really enjoyed playing with him, and how appreciative I was of how he had been supportive of my music. He didn't respond at all, but he respnded immediately to my invitation to play music. What kind of signal is this?
2006-09-28 06:50:01 · 2 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like he's taken, or considers you "off limits."
My daughter has male friends like this - guys she likes, but would never consider getting into a relationship with because it would "spoil" the friendship if they didn't "work out."
You can dance around all you want, but he (being a guy) will never get the hint. Guys don't take hints. My best advice to you is - if you want to know, ask him. Say something like "I really like you, are you free for drinks tonight?"
Don't say "sometime," because that gives him an out to say "sure" and then never set a time.
2006-09-28 06:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a girlfriend, but for some reason he doesn't want to tell you. Probably because he's a attracted to you.
2006-09-28 06:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by newmom06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋