Icame out of the shower and my 3yr old girl saw me undressed and asked what was that...pointing to my breast, then she wanted to grab them, I said No to her and explained she shouldn’t touch other people's privet parts or she shouldn’t let others touch hers. But I wasn’t sure if not letting her was the correct thing.
2006-09-28 06:45:00 · 12 answers · asked by melinda 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
but what about her touching me, should i let her know what they feel like
2006-09-28 06:53:46 · update #1
Personally I was raised in a very open house where my mom would change clothes and not close the door and Im now 23 and I can still walk in my moms room while shes cahnging and aske her a question (she is 63 now) and with my kids its the same thing. My kids know the body parts of both males and females by their proper name (aged 5 and 3) and its normal for them to see me naked while changing in our house its not a big deal. Again this is the way I was raised and it dosent turn children into perverts itrs just teaches them there is nothing wrong with the human body its natural. You are correct intelling her not to touch other ppls privates as well as telling her she shouldnt allow anyone to touch hers!
2006-09-28 06:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have hangups, not your daughter. While the advice was sufficient you might now have frightened her. I raised 3 daughters, where we always changed in front of each other, would all be in the bathroom at the same time and there were no hangups with regard to our bodies, we discussed any and everything and we still do. I guess how you were raised depends on how you raise yours but I do believe you need to loosen up some, as far as your body and your daughter's body are concerned, you seem to be making it more serious than it really could be. Yes with child predators, etc., you want her to be able to speak to you about anything, be more free, open up the lines for communication, tell her about the different parts of the body and their purposes, before she gets it in school, from friends or a perv. God Bless.
2006-10-02 06:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter to questioned me at that age. I regrat the answer I gave so I can tell you what not to do. Don't tell her you will explain later. Take this time to explain to her about your body since hers one day will be the same. I finally got a chance to do this with my daughter a few years later and feel better about it.
If you are comfrontable with her touching them Then it's ok if not then don;t let her touch them
2006-09-28 14:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by ellc123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did well in taking a surprising situation and turning it into a learning experience about not touching private parts. As long as you were laid back about it, I believe you are ok. If not, try to be more natural when discussing natural things. It may be time to begin donning a robe, too.
2006-09-28 13:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by sadiemylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were right to tell her not to touch others and not get touched, but I think you should have explained what they were and that she'll get them when she is older. She needs to know the parts of the body. My daughter is 3 also, been through it.
2006-09-28 13:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think what you did was the right thing to do. it is good to teach her that those are private parts and that she should not touch other peoples or let other people touch hers. i would just tell her that when she gets older she will have them too.
2006-09-28 15:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by krystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my kids were little and wanted to know things like that i explained as much as i thought they would understand. but no matter how young they are you should always instill in them the importance of never letting anyone touch them in certain places, and as they grow and can understand more keep letting them know that their bodies are theirs and to let you know immediately if someone is trying to do to them the things that you told them was not allowed. when my kids saw me unclothed and wanted to know what was what i explained using the correct terms so they will know what is what.
2006-09-28 13:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by pamelaq 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually i just had this problem w my sons who are 6 5 3 2! I asked a counselor and they said you should nt make them feel bad and explain what it is and that its not a bad thing if you shame them w there sexuality then they become self conscience and will think that it is bad!!!
2006-09-28 17:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by weirded out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing you could do is tell her what they are.and explain that no one can see or touch hers.all kids just want to know about their body's. i think you did the right thing by not letting her touch your.
2006-10-01 17:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by mom0195 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my family( I and my seven children) we all can walk naked in front of each-other and nobody finds it embarrassing or something he/she should hide.
2006-09-28 13:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋