will he after a while hold a grudge against the other woman who pesue him while he was married and end up living or marrying him?The lost of relationship and comunication with his children has to be painful and a constant reminder of why they are not by their choice in his life.
2006-09-28 06:40:59 · 36 answers · asked by jubileejoy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The mother was a good woman and she died of a heart attack do to all the **** he did and the children are 19,20,22
2006-09-28 06:53:31 · update #1
The mother was a good woman and she died of a heart attack do to all the **** he did and the children are 19,20,22
2006-09-28 06:53:46 · update #2
Huh? Can you reread your question and give us more information, I'm confused.
OK, I think I understand what you are asking. The man shouldn't have to lose the relationship with his children unless of course they grow up resenting him for ruining the relationship with their mother. In this case it is obvious the children will definitely resent their father AND other woman. The man may be able to get over this, however it might cause him great pain and conflict to know he has lost the respect and love of his children because he decided to risk his family on another woman.
He may grow to resent the woman but more than anything the woman should probably worry about him doing the same thing to her....KARMA....what goes around, comes around.
Best Wishes, hope you aren't the "other" woman.
2006-09-28 06:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably, Normally when men cheat they still love their wives. Many times they don't have the intention of loosing their wives and children. Alot of times when the man does end up loosing them and he tends to regret everything he has done and eventually starts to blame the other person and resent them for it. Being the other women very rarley works in her favor. And when it is all said and done she can't figure out why he hates her. In a mans mind she should have said no and should have stoped him. It's not fair but thats how their minds work to deal with the fact they have now just lost the most important people in his life. His love (wife) and their children will never look at him the same. Beside many times he never loves the other women expecially as much as he loves his wife, it's just an act per say to get what he thinks he wants, but in the end he already had what he wanted. it goes with the theory the grass is always greener on the other side, then the man sees it's not and wants his original life back...
If he has kids with the other woman, many times he will not want anything to do with them because they are a constant reminder of how he hurt the woman and family he loved and how he screwed up, So in the end the children are innocent but end up getting hurt because they won't get to know there father because he is living the original life that he wanted and when the child becomes an adult he will have to face what he did by either letting the child in his life if that's what the child wants or again turning his back on the child hoping they will just go away so he can continue with his life without the reminer of what he did... This is what usually comes out of being the other woman and thinking that it's the wife fault he is screwing around and or the other woman thinking that he would actually love her and leave his wife for her.. All she ends up getting is a broken heart and in some cases hurting her children in the worst way, by having them with a man that doesn't want to be there father...
2006-09-28 06:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Trouble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that he cheated, and lost his family that way, or was he cheated on, and left his family? Your question really doesn't make much sense the way it is worded and put together. BUT, usually after a bad divorce, some men do hold grudges against women. It also goes the other way around too. If he lost his whole family, and it wasn't his fault, and another women comes around, he probably wouldn't be able to trust them. If he lost his whole family, and it was his fault, than his ex wife would be the one with the grudge. Or if the women that is the cause of all the problems stick around and it was his fault that his marriage broke up, just looking at her would remind him of everything that he had lost. That shows that he regrets what he did, and may wish it never had happened. But he still only has himself to blame for it. He would only hold a grudge if he has remorse for what he had done to someone he really did love.
He abandoned his children and wife to chase after someone else. He is the only one at fault.
2006-09-28 06:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he hold a grudge? He made the choice to cheat while he was married. She didn't make him do it. He should be mad at himself. It is just as much his fault that he has a broken relationship with his children. He should have thought about them first and not some other woman.
2006-09-28 06:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by whiskey_girl0814 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to understand is that once you are a grown man with responsibilities you have to think about the consequences of every situation you are in. Men tend to think about the moment and not the consequences, so now the family unit is shattered over a childish mistake that should have been thought out-especially because of the children. I really don't think the children should suffer, but it would be hard for me to have a cheater around my kids,especially the boys who have to grow into young men. This is a situation that would involve extensive family counseling, but both parties have to be dedicated to the most important factor which is the children's well-being and future.
2006-09-28 07:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by slesheia n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grudge deal you mentioned I guess is totally up to the person but think it would have to stay in the back of my mind, if he did it with me, who else would he not turn away?
The latter half tho is exactly true. You feel like the last choice because they generally continue to show you other choices.
Adults may continue on.....but the children are the ones who pay the biggest price and carry it thru their lives and relationships.
Proceed with caution if you are giving this thought!
2006-09-28 06:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably will not end up hating the skank who enticed him to cheat but it's a proven fact that he won't end up marrying her. Also, his children will hold the cheating against him forever and they will lose respect for him. His entire family will lose respect for him and you can't blame them. How can you trust a man who broke his wedding vows for a horny *** skank? I hate home wreckers cuz they have caused much pain to some of my family members and friends. Believe it or not, they hold all the power as to how far the relationship goes. Skanks decide whether to spread their legs or not- plain and simple! They should be held accountable for all the harm they cause just as the cheating husband will suffer with the loss of respect from his family members and the humiliation he will have to face for his infidelity.
2006-09-28 07:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by liberalthinktank 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they have nothing else, so they stick to that person...deep down they feel resentment towards that person though. Unless he is a real man. A real man, first of all, wouldnt cheat, but all men cheat=)! If he is a real man, he would cut that woman off faster than you can say good bye. He would never talk or see that person again and he would be begging for forgiveness. If he really loves his wife and family, he would never let them go. He would do anything in his power not to let them go. He would go to counseling, anything. But, if he is ok with you leaving, let him go!! you dont want him anyways...Never settle for less than what is best for you and your children. Husband, father, whatever! you deserve more!!
2006-09-28 06:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by jaylove209 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will, as it should be. I tell you a cheating man or woman is not easy to forgive. Although it is possible. It takes a long time.I have seen men who cheated and stopped. I don't think one can be truly happy with the one they cheated with. Remember the cheater did the cheating he/ she always had a choice. There is only the cheaters to blame.
2006-09-28 06:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man loses his family b/c he cheated, then he has only himself to blame, and cant hold a grudge towards someone else for something that was completely under his control. If he cant keep his d**k in his pants, then he doesnt deserve a family. You reap what you sow.
2006-09-28 06:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kuiper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋