I've been with my bf for almost 10 months. He talks about what would happen if we were to break up. But lately he's been really bitchy. He keeps calling me a *****, whore, and keeps telling me "**** you". IDK whats up with him. He says that he flirts with girls online. I think he might be cheating so lately i've been going through his msgs (email, myspace, quizilla, etc). Is that a wrong thing to do?
2006-09-28 06:40:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, read criminal code - invasion of privacy
2006-09-28 06:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. If you can't trust him than dump him. You'll only regret it later. Think about how he will react to finding out that you were spying on him. That's exactly what you are doing. Again, I say if you can't trust him dump him. Their are plenty of other guys out there. Oh yeah, if he's flirting with girls online, than he's probably flirting with them in real life too. Find someone who is interested in you. Not you on the side while he's flirting with everyone else. Also the fact that he calls you names and stuff is another indicator that you are not the one for him. If he cared about you or had any real feelings he would be able to express himself with cursing at you. That is definitely not love! It's actually bordering on an abusive relationship. Get out now while you still can!
2006-09-28 06:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by mystri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, and you want to stick around for the verbal abuse? I say he probably is cheating, if not he's thinking about it.
I don't really think it's wrong to go through your b/f's messages, I do the same. I know he's not gonna cheat on me, but sometimes it does make me wonder. He now knows I do that, but he told me it doesn't really bother him because he's got nothing to hide and I'm proud of that.
If he's flirting online it's ok, don't you think, it's really actually harmless that's if it's someone he doesn't know in person. Ouch that would hurt. I can't belive he calls you down like that... if I were you... I wouldn't put up with that bulshit.
2006-09-28 06:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry yet you're being a fool, you're being very naive and way too trusting. the lady confirmed you data that he reported he became employing you, what extra do you like. If he's not commencing as much as you its for a reason. He needs her and for this reason he keeps to handle her and open as much as her. Take your blinders off and end it. anybody can say they love you, its only words. The data is of their movements.
2016-10-18 03:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by haan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, that isn't right. its understandable if your bf has bad days and closes up with you for a little bit, but no guy in general (especially if he loves you and is your bf) should be calling you those names. i think it's werid that he tells you straight out that he flirts with other girls online. maybe he is cheating..maybe he's trying to make you feel like this so that he won't have to break up with you. HE WANTS THE WORK TO BE DONE FOR HIM. ask him straight out. things will be clear.
and about you checking his stuff...i dont think its a good idea. i know its nerverecking that he's doing these things, but you should always play by the rules because one day he can find out and then he'll be able to fight back with what you did. he can always counter attack you with "what were you doing looking through my personal stuff?!"
i've seen too much of that. warn him that things aren't going well for you and him and that you guys have to straightenn up and talk. i hope this helped!
2006-09-28 06:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety... you need to understand that this relationship is over.
He thinks its over - he just hasn't had the guts to tell you its over.
Is it wrong to go through someone elses email? yes.
but whats more - you no longer trust him. He doesn't respect you. so why stay with someone like that?
Move on... tell him you want to date other people... then do it.
I'm sure he is seeing other girls on the side and has been for a while.
2006-09-28 06:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong.
But of course you now do not trust him and are looking for proof to verify what you have been thinking.
trust your gut. If you think he is cheating then most likely he is
2006-09-28 06:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's wrong. Your relationship doesn't seem healthy to me. You can't let someone abuse you verbally just as you can't be snooping around. You guys need to reevaluate your commitment to each other and act accordingly.
2006-09-28 06:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother yourself? You don't need to take that type of verbal abuse from him--dump the guy and find someone who will respect you.
2006-09-28 06:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very wrong just break up if things are getting this itchy. Privacy is meant to be private.
2006-09-28 06:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him. Sounds to me like he doesn't have the balls to break up with you, he just wants to have his cake, and it it too. Whoa, that rhymed. Anywho...get rid of him. He's a waste of your time.
2006-09-28 06:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋