Is the way that I been living good at all?

Question

I usually never talk to new people. I only talk to new people when they talk to me but the new people that talks to me rarely happens. I just cannot talk to new people at all. I have few friends. When new people talk to me, I smile at them a lot. I have tried practicing talking to myself in the mirror but that didn't help. I have tried asking complete strangers what time is it but that didn't help. Maybe I was born shy. The only friends that I friends that I have is the new people who talk to me. I can never initiate talks.

I tried God for a while but he didn't help at all. So I am now an aetheist. I know there is no way that you can prove there is a god and if there is a god, you do not know how he looks like.

So in other words, what do you think I should do?

Answer 1

Yeah, there is no problem with the way you live now. Many people live just like you.

Answer 2

woah, you had a few different things you are talking about there... I am not an atheist so this answer may not be that helpful to you, but the way I see it is this; if God made you shy that's part of who you are. Now you can become outgoing but it takes time and practice. There is nothing wrong with having a hard time talking to new people. Everyone struggles with that a little bit. I find that the older I get (and the further away from the highschool years) the easier it is to strike up a conversation with people. You may be overanalyzing this too much and making it harder than it is.

Answer 3

You have been trying, that is the important thing. Don't give up.

Perhaps the reason you have not seen satisfactory results is that you have been trying the wrong methods. You can't just ask God to make you brave/popular/charming and poof! He'll make it happen and if he doesn't, then it must mean He doesn't exist. That's faulty logic - maybe He's challenging to be all He knows you can be. He has more faith in you than you do.

So keep trying, and trying new methods. Yes, you were born shy, but shyness can be unlearnt and overcome. I strongly suggest finding a therapist - they can help you figure out what is holding you back and suggest things you can practice. They can coach you through the process or even suggest a support group of shy people. Check your phone book for therapists and psychologists - you don't have to figure this out alone.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Shyness is a form of pride. You are self-conscious, so you prevent yourself from just speaking up. You could, for starters, inquire about their health (indicating you actually care). I used to be painfully shy--it's okay when you're a child--but when you're shy as an adult and should be effectively communicating with people, it just makes you look retarded.
"I tried God for a while..." If you treat people the same way, you'll never have good relationships. See what happens when men marry, then decide they don't love their wives--("I tried her for a while, but it didn't work out.") Actually, many marriages go that way.
You can't say that God didn't help you. He works in mysterious ways (as you may have heard). You became an atheist, just because you thought God didn't help you? Hmmm. You certainly can't expect immediate results.
I don't need to see God, to know He exists. Besides, He is a pure spirit, so He is invisible, and usually chooses not to be seen.

Answer 5

I think you need to quit going to the extremes, you say you tried God, how do you try God? He is not there to be our wish master. He is not there to do our bidding. I am not saying you should belive in God, but look at your past, you hop from one extreme to the other when things don't go your way. I am not being mean, please understand that. You are shy, okay so it is not bad, God didn't MAKE you shy, but YOU need to take steps to make yourself happy. Happy is not what you see on TV. Do you like to read, so go to book stores and meetings, do you like movies, so join movie critique clubs, look for things that you like first and foremost. Take speech classes at college or school. Dont' blame anyone else, YOU need to work to make yourself happy. Who cares how many friends you have, it you have 2 GOOD friends it is better than 50 okay friends. Friends don't make you worthwhile. Do you like children or animals, volunteer, if you are in a situation you feel comfortable in, then you will fell more confident.

Answer 6

I think you should sit still and maintain the faith that god intended. There is beauty in all things- and alot of good in you as it shows when you question your aetheism. God does exist. as does Jesus. He died so that you may have ever lasting life. Dont you want that. Satan is causing you to doubt the truth- dont let him have what is rightfully Gods. He loves you- dont turn away from that. It may be your right to question, but it is our duty to assure you. The day WILL come you will regret chosing lucifers side if you stay on the path you are on.

Answer 7

There is a god . But anyways . Just go up to them and find out of what there into. Just be yourself and if pepole dont like you for who you are . They're just rude. Pepole should like you for who you are. Good luck and I hope you find some friends . Just keep trying.

Answer 8

step 1) stop being so nice
step 2) stop worrying what other people think
step 3) focus on pleasing yourself, not others
step 4) stop respecting other people so much.
Do these things and you will see a big change for the better

Answer 9

Give God another chance, he's always listening, he doesn't always respond at the moment we want him to. As far as making friends goes, try getting drunk first. I am always more talkative after I've downed a few beers. I call it liquid courage.

Answer 10

I'm kinda poly theoistic (many gods) I prey to the chief god to keep people safe, but then if I want someone's butt kicked I pray to Thor. He complies usually (Iraq in 91)