well my mother refused to help me have a wedding so i just ened up going to the jp to get married she didnt even help with that and i was only 20 when i married.. but when it came to her having her second wedding i had to help her that just made me feel like you know what
2006-09-28 06:22:49 · 16 answers · asked by gigglezdelight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was a single mom and he came and took us in and hes raising her as if shes his
2006-09-28 06:34:09 · update #1
You did a great job by helping a mom who doesn't care about you. Its not wrong on your part.
2006-09-28 06:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...what a question! I am traditional so I think that parents should help with their children's weddings and I don't see why children shouldn't help with their parents wedding. But that is not the point is it. The point is reciprocity. You feel like you gave to your mother and she did not give to you. That is not a balanced relationship. If you are upset, it is probably about that: giving more than you are receiving. Why not try telling your mother how you feel and see how she reacts. She may react favorably and the relationship may become more balanced, or she may react negatively, at which point, you can either accept and love your mother as she is, or you can't. But don't do things that will make you feel bad about yourself--you deserve better for yourself and treat yourself that way no matter what and no matter in what relationship, whether it is with your mother or anyone else.
2006-09-28 06:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by pre-pastor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is wrong in my book. Why would you even help her? I know she's your mother and you love her,but you should have showed her how it felt. Her second marriage was not as important as your first. I cant imagine my mother not helping me with my wedding. I am getting married in 3wks. and I would be a mess without her help.
2006-09-28 06:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is a taker, not a giver. No, it was not right of her to expect you to do something for her, that she wouldn't do for you. But then again, you are obviously a better person for not being like she was. You can feel upset about the injustice, or good about being superior. The choice is yours.
2006-09-28 06:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom just wasn't happy with the fact of you getting married on the age of 20, or maybe she just didn't like the guy....
2006-09-28 06:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only guess that she did not want to let go of her little baby girl. Perhaps she didn't feel that the groom was good enough for you. It is anybody's guess. Don't you at least have an idea why?
2006-09-28 06:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will you have to look at it as the way it go but on the other hand you should just tell your mother how you feel about the hole thing.
2006-09-28 06:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by DC all day moniemonie1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen i know what you mean and i know how you felt trust me ,but unfortunely she is your mom and just remember there are things that happen for a reason.just help her and please keep your head up and don't do something wrong that may back fire on you.just trust me because i know what you are talking about and if you need to talk my e-mail is ladyloveoneme@yahoo.com. anytime.
2006-09-28 06:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Loveable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya she should be happy your getting married and not like not wanting to be no part of the happiest day of your life i think she should be there to help you through anything you need and to be there for you.
2006-09-28 06:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a major case of double standards&no wonder you feel like c*ap,i think your best bet is to renew your vows,then ask her to help you!
2006-09-28 06:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by kittypinkchuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋