In a relationship w/boyfriend for 6yrs. he still has a cell ph that basically we have come to a unspoken agreement, that I cannot have access to his ph. Because every time i go through his ph and see something I dont like I call him on it or I call the number I have a question or "funny feeling" about. Am I wrong, if so how? If he sounds like the cheater I feel he is.....I knew I was right!
2006-09-28 06:09:32 · 15 answers · asked by msbleu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, calling odd numbers or numbers you don't reckognize on your bf's cell is pretty nutty. And its usually a good idea to keep certain objects away from nutty people. I go through my bf's cell sometimes, and he doesn't like it, but I'm not banned from it. Probably because I don't call the numbers in it and demand to know who they are & why they are talking to him. Crazy.
2006-09-28 06:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Annabelle418 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has been faithful to you for six years, then why do you need access to his cell phone? Your distrust of him is going to drive him away. As a matter of fact, I am the same way with my cell phone. A phone is a private and personal thing, and I don't like anyone going through it...not even the person i'm with. Just because you're in a relationship with someone, doesn't mean you have an "all access granted" pass. There are some things that are not your business, and if he has never given you any reason to suspect him of cheating, then his cell phone is one of those things.
2006-09-28 06:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest issue here is 'trust'. A relationship is built on trust, and right now he feels that you can't trust him which leads to thoughts of disgust and annoyance that he's been faithful for so long and you still have doubts.
The best thing to do in this relationship is to leave the phone alone, chances are he's just annoyed that you don't trust him to the point of having his own personal space. And evidently that personal space also has to do with the phone as well. He probably doesn't like it that just because you see something you don't like you freak out over it.
Just try showing him you actually trust him, don't worry so much about what he's doing. If he's been faithful for that long then don't start doubting his faith now just because he has a few phone numbers on his phone that you don't like. Chances are you do something he doesn't like as well and puts up with it because he loves you so much. Just chill woman :)
2006-09-28 06:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason that he's hiding it from you & there's a reason you get a "funny feeling". Something is definitley going on here. Don't let yourself get walked on! Do something!!! Steal the phone! Call the numbers! Then, when you find out the "secret", dump his ***!
Or, you could mess with his head. Don't let him have access to your cell. Or, depending on how strong this "funny feeling" is & how sure you are he's cheating, you could start having your own secret conversations.
2006-09-28 06:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, I think you are invading his privacy. I think you are very insecure of your boyfriend, because you can't trust him with his cell phone. My boyfriend and I have been together for nine months, and I NEVER went through his cell phone. Besides, you have no business messing with his cell phone, because I won't allow my boyfriend to do the same thing with me. Why would your boyfriend give you a reason to cheat on you?
2006-09-28 06:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really shouldn't have access to his phone if you're going to freak out over what you see in it. you have no right to call people from his phone book, or to give him a hard time about who he called. you need to learn to TRUST him, and trust that if he wanted to be with someone else, then he wouldn't have stayed with you for 6 years. you better change your snooping habits now, or you're going to cost yourself your relationship.
2006-09-28 06:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two don't trust each other. Maybe its time for a relationship change.
2006-09-28 06:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure its just his business line. Does he seem like a gangsta type? Can u picture him doing some grimy, sh*t? Selling drugs and such? Does he have unexplained funds? Have a gun? If so drop it, its his business and not yours. Let him be.
2006-09-28 06:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust, you have nothing ! End the charade(relationship) now, and work on your personal issues of mistrust
2006-09-28 06:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by jerry4_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have your answer. If you want a man who will be devoted to you alone, move on.
2006-09-28 06:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋