I split up with my g/f about 5 months ago and she had a 2 month relationship with a guy. My g/f and i remained close mates which was cool even though probably more painful for me. Anyway a month ago we were having a conversation and out of the blue she said to me, you know if u want me just have me, and basically she asked me out. So we got together and agreed to keep things simple. Anyways now and again i wanna take her out but she says she is skint but i said ill pay, she says she dont wanna take my money cus im out of work (student) and says i cant afford it even though i can. So we dont go out, then i ask her round to mine she says yes then the night before cancels cus she has to see her dad, and i wonder if im bein messed around or bein inconsiderate to her situation and commitments. she works at the pub i drink in so i see her there every weekend so its not like i dont see her but all the same i still feel like there is summat odd
2006-09-28 05:57:36 · 16 answers · asked by Tom1983 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please dont just say forget it and move on thats so annoying. She knows i love her and how i feel about her and i ask her if she is ok wiv us being together and she says yes, so from that point of view i see no problem, i dont wanna smother her but i still feel we should see each other with time alone, and not just when she works.
2006-09-28 05:58:59 · update #1
Before we split up we were together for 8 months
2006-09-28 05:59:30 · update #2
sucker on stand by being messed about. get your head in your books pass the course get some money then you can choose.
2006-09-28 06:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some time and re-assurance. Just be considerate towards her situation and like you said dont smother her. Be there but not in 'her space'.......she'll come around once she knows you are consistent.
Further more, start working towards securing your future because that would be the real clincher. A lady looks for security and that is truly the essence of a stable relationship. It beats emotions, passion etc. If you dont have a job/regular income.....you cant survive on love and fresh air......it will catch up no matter how intense the attraction and how strong the emotion
2006-09-28 06:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it may be hard to accept, but it seems her feeling for
you may not be a strong as you have for her... you are both
young, although that does not take away the pain of love gone
haywire... whynot result to romantic tactics, tell her you have
a surprise outing.. then go to a local Museam/Swimming Pool/
Gallery/ car boot .. anything cheap or free, and take a picnic
this CAN BE EATEN IN A BUS SHELTER with the right
atmosphere.. keep things light, amuse her, but do not
smother her.... I wish you good luck and like the old
adage, plenty more fish !!!!!
2006-09-28 06:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by landgirl60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to wander away and bypass on which includes your existence. you do not choose that style of rigidity fairly now. delight in, savor and cherish your being pregnant. there is not any way absolutely everyone can impregnant you presently, so there is not any turning lower back. merely look ahead for your destiny which includes your toddler and comprehend that is going to likely be a reliable one in case you unload this guy's a**! you're not any further the first, nor the perfect, make this entire adventure nicely worth even as, ignore about him or what in the front of you or says. He sounds like an incapable low existence who would not care about his own baby! Ugh i'd kick his a** vast time if i changed into you, and in no way pregnant!
2016-12-06 07:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a cooling off period, put your mind to something else to give her and you some time to consider where you are. I think she needs space, so I don't think its either you being messed about or being inconsiderate. Set a time limit and keep to it, try not to contact her within that time, she may realise what she is missing and speak you. If you do get back together I think you need to lay some ground rules so you both know where you are coming from.
2006-09-28 07:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, everyone needs quality time with those they love not just when theres other people around, i think shes being inconsiderate to your needs, some people dont like going out without money n relyin on the other to pay but theres plenty of stuff you could do on the cheap. I think she feels secure having you there when she needs you but dosent really want to be with you, harsh i know but you need to be straight with her n tell her what you want n need out of the relationship n if she cant deliver then you'll have the choice to move on. if it were you messing her around or not turnin up when u said you would she'd bin u n rightly so.
2006-09-28 06:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by lavix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to hurt you. If she had any intention of having a relationship with you she would find time and wouldn't keep blowing you off. Maybe you should find someone who feels the same way about you that you feel about them and just remain friends with your ex.
2006-09-28 06:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your not gon like the answer BUT the answer is to move on. If there is nothing stopping her from seeing you and yet ...she doesn't see you...take the hint and see that she really doesn't want to see you the way you want to see her. You can not make her spend time with you so yeah ...you need to get a grip and move on.
2006-09-28 06:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its either one ..you want to know the honest truth have a serious conversation and tell her how u feel and how are you looking at things she could be telling u the truth but understand u and her was on and off can the other person be still in her picture just be honest and speak the truth ....good luck
2006-09-28 06:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by LEsley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have sat down with her and discussed things with her openly and honestly.... then now you are just being messed with. If you really haven't sat down with her and expressed yourself truely then maybe she has a different idea about what is going on in your relationship.
2006-09-28 06:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by Just being myself! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋