Ok, he has some brain damage right, and we always yell at eachother but this time..
I was going in and out of the kitchen and he got mad at me, i dont remember how it all went down but he was being immatu;re and i gues i was too, I just remember getting really mad i went up stairs because he wouldn't shut up and i just got soo mad and i knee'd my door and it broke right off the hindges and flew into the hall way...how can i control this rage when he says stuff too me...he's handicapped.
2006-09-28 05:41:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have already done/said things i have regreted..he tries to hit me and we swear at eachother its brutal
2006-09-28 05:46:58 · update #1
I think you were controlling your rage in a healthy way. The door took the brunt of it instead of your uncle!
It is always a better strategy to leave the scene if you are angry so that you can go away and get control of yourself. Just don't get into a car or onto a bicycle when you do that; a walking distance is better.
Next time, perhaps leave the house and walk as far and as fast as you can until you calm down, then walk home or take a bus. This will spend some of the energy and give you time to formulate your words so that you can calmly interact with annoying people like immature but handicapped uncles.
Good luck!
2006-09-28 05:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wussah! Wussah! Did you ever see Bad Boys II?
Anyway, you just have to be the mature one. You have to take a deep breath, and just play along. It might piss you off, but you can't let him get the better of you. Think like he was your little brother. He's not doing it because he hates your guts - he's doing it because he wants to see how far he can push you before you explode! Don't do that, don't give him that pleasure - and he'll eventually stop it!
2006-09-28 05:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by gatesfam@swbell.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try some counseling to help you through this. It's not easy having a family member in that condition, and it's even harder having to always be the mature one. I understand where you're coming from, but you really have to try to be the one that calms things down and don't take what he says personally. Also, count your blessings that you are not in his shoes. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-09-28 05:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your ways behaving with him....you know that he is handicapped.Give him respect and be compassionate towards him.Make the atmosphere at home good to co-exist.You must tolerate him and request him also to tolerate you.Talk to him and both of you sign a contract that from this day onwards we will coexist peacefully and happily ever after.I am your uncle's age and i am writing this confidently because you may be far far away and you can not yell at me like that.;-)
2006-09-28 05:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, he wasn't being immature, he has brain damage. He is doing the best with what he's got. Are you doing the best with what you were given? You were given the power of reason beyond his capabilities... so recognize that he's incapable of the understanding you are, and understand you need to put a damper on your temper. The difference between humans and animals is we're able to reason and make intelligent decisions that contradict our animal instincts.
2006-09-28 05:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by chris m 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can't really say that i know how you feel but here is a comparison, i have an 11 year old brother who acts like a two year old he has ADHD and a mental problem and maybe autism he is adopted and is mother drank while she was pregnant with him. i get soo mad at him sometimes you just have to remind yourself that he is handicapped and always pray !!!!!
2006-09-28 05:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by formerffagirl05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the mature one. Assume he always means to say the right thing yet his handicap prevents him from doing that. Seek professional help if you cannot resolve this right away.
2006-09-28 05:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My armchair assessment is that you have anger issues. Currently, the motivation seems to be your uncle, but in the absence of him, you would find other target(s)
While you can, seek out a counselor for some sessions regarding your outbursts, and how best to handle them.
2006-09-28 05:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to control yourself is to meditate... First, walk away from the argument, next start breathing exercise... concentrate on inhaling and exhaling. That should help you
2006-09-28 05:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by V L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
buy a soccer ball, and go outside whenever he makes you mad and kick the sh*t out of it.... so that way, you won't be damaging your house and you won't hit your uncle!
glue a string (super glue) to the soccer ball, so that way you can kick it over and over again as many times as you need without having to worry about going across the yard to pick it up every time you want to hit the ball!!!
2006-09-28 05:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by leuceigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋