How do I stop my 2-year old son from throwing EVERYTHING he touches! PLEASE HELP! I've tried timeout and spanking (I am not a big fan of spanking and do not want to try it again). I can not get through to him that throwing is unacceptable. He has hit his 8 month old brother in the head with hard toys many times. He has broken many dishes, glasses, candles, etc..... If anyone has any suggestions I would greatly appreciate them. Thanks!
2006-09-28 05:40:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He sounds like a wonderful son. You should spoil him and his father. A little wild nature is good in a boy of his age.
2006-09-28 07:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Bapo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to stop it is to ignore the trait you want to illiminate. Okay, so We'll call the toddler with the behavior Bob. Bob just threw a cup of milk on the ground. You pick Bob up, get a towel and tell him to clean it all the while saying something like... throwing is a no-no. it makes a mess. messes are dangerous. then take bob to a time out, and explain why bob is alone. ALWAYS DO THE SAME THING. even if it's funny. even if it's REALLY inappropriate. even if you're so tired that you could care less. It's important that Bob associate throwing and hitting with a negative consequence. Let him know that he's not going to get your attention that way. That by doing something that's unacceptable, he's going to get punished FOR A REASONABLE AMOUNT OF TIME! don't let your emotions get the best of you. use calm authoritative voices. don't touch him while you are telling him why he's in time out. don't argue. look him in the eye. then WALK AWAY. after a while, it won't be so fun for him. and he'll start to realize what happens when he does something "bad". you can use it to weed out quite a few negative behavior traits. god luck ;0)
2016-03-26 21:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is old enough to know right from wrong, my suggestion would be to take him to a park with a ball and teach him this is the only thing you can throw and this is the only place you can throw it. If he throws his toys pick them up and don't let him have them back. If he is throwing glass dishes start giving him plastic dishes until he is past this stage. If he is picking things up from the furniture in your then he needs to be taught those are not his things and he is not allowed to touch them. Some very consistent routines are going to be the key. He obviously is bored and needs more outdoor time or something more challenging.
2006-09-28 05:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Scooter Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "Positive discipline for Preschoolers" or "Positive Discipline for the First Three Years".Both of the books are written by Jane Nelson and will give an answer to your questions,especially the misbehavior.You are right not being a fan of spanking - violence is not the answer to our problems.
2006-09-28 05:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put everything you don't want him to throw away for a few weeks. Give him only soft toys. Tell him that these are the only toys that he can throw. Give back one toy a day and say do we throw this toy? When he replies no ask him to show you a toy that's okay to throw. Do this with every toy. He'll eventually get the idea.
2006-09-28 05:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, first of all...he doesn't need to be picking up stuff like that. I was never a fan of childproffing my house, as they needed to learn that those were mommies things not to touch. When he pick's something up to throw....in a stern voice tell him NO, PUT IT DOWN. Then walk over to him, take it out of his hands and tell him NO! Then just walk away...if he throws, then put him in time out...consistency, consistency, consistency is the only way to teach something to someone...in other words don't change his punishment if it doesn't work right away...you will only confuse him. Put him in time out and tell him...we don't throw in the house.
2006-09-28 06:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a toy he throws you could try putting it in top of closet and tell him he can get it back when he learns not to throw.Also you can get him a soft spongy ball and a goal and tell him to try to make it in the goal with a small reward to encourage him to try to change where he throws things.
2006-09-28 07:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by KaeMae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the toys out and give him a time out. Each time he throws a toy, add 5 minutes. If he doesnt stop, take them away and say 'if you dont stop, Im not giving them back'
2006-09-28 05:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Christina M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god i wish i knew i have the same dam problem i have a 2 year old daughter who always is throwing things at her 1 year old brother. I don't know what to do so if you find something that works let me know.
2006-09-28 06:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare the rod and spoil the child.
you cannot reason with small children. they are NOT adults. children understand things more simply, and children understand physical pain.
my mother spanked me when i was bad, and i soon came to understand that she was the boss. she was the woman of the house. i never resented her for it, and i still dont. i've become a well adjusted adult, and i'm not a sexual pervet, or masochist, and i love my parents.
the idea is not to spank your child every time something bad happens. the idea is to teach them that your word is law, and they will obey or be punished.
2006-09-28 05:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him get into dishes, glasses, candles, etc. in the first place!!! Slap his hand every time he throws something.
2006-09-28 05:48:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋