If you were single and met a male/female that was also single, but already had children, what is the most number of children that person could have in order for you to still be willing to date them? Only one? Two? More? Would you not care, or would the fact that they have children prevent you from considering the option? I've never dated anyone with children, but I know others who have. Some people have no problem with it and have a great relationship with the children, while others refuse to even consider it. What about you?
2006-09-28 05:40:11 · 11 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he was the "right" man for me then it doesn't matter if he's infertile or if he's got enough kids to start his own cult. I don't particularly like being around obnoxious kids, they're Satan's little helpers, but if he was "right" for me then his kids would not be monsters.
On the other hand, if I met what seemed like a "perfect" guy and then it turned out his kids were actually monsters, then I'd know he wasn't the right person for me.
I've dated guys with kids and guys with out kids. While the kids can add extra stresses to a relationship, it also helps mature most guys. Plus it's better than the Rohrschach test for getting an idea of someone's personality. They're little mirrors reflecting back the good and bad of the adults in their world.
2006-09-28 05:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this answer is really different for men and women.
for women I think (being a woman) that dating a man with kids while risky is doable. the risk comes in the attachment to the kids (especially if they are young) and the resentment of the kids (if they are older). I don't know if there is a certain number that makes it a deal breaker... and I guess it would depend on how the marriage ended (divorce, jail time, death) would play into this as well
For men... and this is funny because I had a looong discussion with this with a group of guys just this weekend. For men.. the answer is 0. for men who are dating the fact that a woman has a child means that if something happens and there gets to be a bun in the oven.. then he knows what she will most likely do. And for most men who are dating they are dating because they don't want a committment or a child. they want to have fun.... so.... single mothers are akin to the plague. whats more in some states just dating a woman with a child can put the man in a position that when he terminates the relationship he starts owning child support to the children - even if they are not married!!!!!
2006-09-28 12:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, when I was younger and did not have children i refused to date men with children. Now, that I am older and my children two are grown and two still at home. I don't want to date anyone with children still at home, perhaps older in college, yes. I know that sounds very selfish, however, it is my choice. And i think you have to do what is best for you. And dating a man with children means Baby Momma Drama. You may however, get lucky and find a man that does not have this issue and the female and he have a good mature adult relationship. Good Luck, however in making your decision be true to yourself. What is good for you, may not be good for the next person.
2006-09-28 12:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter if he would have kids, but I wouldn't like to date someone who has more than 4 or 5 kids. It would be great if I could be friend with the kids, because if we wouldn't I don't think that I would go on with the relationship, but I would try to explain the kids that I don't want to take there mothers place if they understand good if they don't the same, good.
2006-09-28 12:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Eri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before I met my girlfriend, I would have said no more than on1 (I also have 1) for a grant total of 2. But then I met the girl of my dreams, and to tell you the truth, if she had 4 kids (she has 2) I wouldn't care!
2006-09-28 13:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by wittster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't care how many children a person has. I like a person for how they are. If u get along with the kids and u get along with the person then I see no problem.
2006-09-28 12:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Adam K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have a problem dating guys who have kids, its the baby mama drama that i cant stand, as far as the number of kids, as long as its not 5 kids by 5 different woman then i would be ok with it.
2006-09-28 12:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have no problem dating a man with children, but I suppose it also depends on how many children with how many different women....
2006-09-28 12:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by noambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might date someone with kid(s) for fun or sex...I'd NEVER, EVER marry someone with kids. I would absolutely refuse to even consider raising or contributing one dollar to a kid that wasn't mine by blood.
2006-09-28 12:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, not my bag. Have no desire to take care of anyone elses children or have my husband sending out his money to another women.
2006-09-28 12:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋