You hear it all the time. People in abusive relationships (Verbal and Physical). They know they should leave but the sex is good so they stay. They’ll tell you themselves when you ask “Why are you still with him/her if he/she treats you so bad?” They said “Because the sex is good”. HOW GOOD IS IT? You can find good sex anywhere. Go to a club or the corner. Just have plenty of money and some protection.
On a serious note, is their stroke game all that good that you stay with them for sex and nothing else? It makes me sad to know there are people in the world who have that much low self-esteem to settle for a zero than a hero. Do you know somebody who has been through (or is going throw) this? Have you been through this?
I take this question very seriously so I would expect a serious answer.
2006-09-28 05:37:44 · 11 answers · asked by Lady Tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i stayed with my gf cos the sex was good, but she cost me everything that i loved,my kids,my family and my friends,she was a heavy very,very heavy drinker and made my life hell for 3 years.now im with someone else and i relies that i wasted 3 years of my life,i wish i had never met her. p.s my new partner is even better in bed and i could nt of asked to meet anyone as nice as her. its not just female that stay in abusive relationships men do as well and if i can find light at the end of the tunnel then so can others. hope this helps
2006-09-28 05:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by steve o 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of anyone staying in an abusive relationship because of sex. It seems to be quite the opposite - once the relationship turns abusive, sex life kinda goes down the drain together with the emotional connection. I've pursued relationships that were based on sex to a various degree - even when it was clear that this would not be the person I would end up with long-term; but they were never abusive. It seems to me that people who tolerate abusive partners have somehow been led to believe that certain things are acceptable, or that all relationships are like that, or that they are not "worthy" of anything better. Many times, they are simply afraid of the unknown, and lack the emotional strength or the financial resources to leave. It simply doesn't make sense to me for sex to play much of a part in all of that.
2006-09-28 05:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people stay in abusive relationships because even though they are getting hurt, they are still in their comfort zone with this person. They're so used to being with this person that they don't feel like they can be with anyone ese. Also, if the abused person has a low self esteem, then they will easily belive the lies of the abuser who says, "No one else will love you the way that I love you." That can be terrifying because deep down inside, everyone has a very strong desire to be loved by someone. Or maybe the person is providing them with not only good sex, but also with money, so they feel afraid to leave this person because then they may be unable to provide for themselves financially. One more thing - abusive relationships can cause the abused person to lose their identity, make them feel like they don't even know who they are anymore. At this point what seems reasonable and common sense to most people doesn't even register with the abused...
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship at one point (not anymore, thank God). The guy was like my father figure because he taught me many things about life that my own father (who is still alive) has not taught me. I became very dependent on him and felt like I could never live without him. Our "relationship" drained me emotionally and often left me feeling very dejected and low, but I always wanted him because of the way he made me feel when we had sex. He even raped me once but I still kept going back to him. It took time apart from him for me to finally come to my senses and see how selfish this man was, and how the relationship was damaging me.
2006-09-28 05:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
good question! I don't think it's safe to stay in a verbal/physical relationship strictly because the sex is good. I would never. The sex life would have to suffer from the abuse anyways, so what started as great sex is probably more of a chore for the victim.
2006-09-28 05:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me sex is more of a connection to the person anyway. If there is no connection, the sex is always just going to be that.... sex. When there is more there behind the doors.... sex becomes AMAZING! its that fine line between the McDonalds version.... and a fancy restaurant... Any one can get off from sex alone... but doing it with passion is AMAZING!
2006-09-28 05:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well most guys won't agree,but if the girl is making me miserable then to me the sex is gonna suffer.Then I'm gonna dip anyway so why draw it out.When it's over you should get on with life cause if you were paying attention your feelings change and you can't get that back based on sex.
2006-09-28 05:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by sjwest74 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do know somebody thats been in that situation. And I hate to say it the situation esculated to the point where he rapped her. I hate to know there are people like that. But on a good note that somebody I know is now with me and she now realizes what she thought was there in sex was not.
2006-09-28 05:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by The Plague 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally , I feel as though sex is only as good as you make it and it takes emotional attachment, mutual respect. So, i would not be attracted to someone who would treat me badly, my desire to have sex with them would be non existent.
2006-09-28 05:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would never stay with anyone because of sex the way that I see it everyones got one so.......
2006-09-28 05:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no seriously it aint a reason to stay with your partner
2006-09-28 05:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by annie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋