After having been burned badly by the people I've loved more than once, I don't believe I will be able to trust enough to ever fall in love again. Truthfully, I feel weak to it. . .as if I can't let myself love again. I'm not sure if people (read : mostly men) Understand the true meaning of what love is anymore. Comment? Suggestions?
Anything?
2006-09-28 05:27:30 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I don't know how much of this you will understand but coming from a guy who was in the same position as you. All of my girlfriends except the one i'm with right now has cheated on me. So I know what its like to be burned a lot. I'm what you call The Nice Guy and I always thought that nice guys finished last because I was getting burned so much from the few girlfriends that i've had. I stopped beliving in love and stopped beliving that I was capiable of love. Even to this day I still feel like I can't trust myself to love because I constantly have the feeling of being cheated on. So I know what your going through. I almost gave up on love with my current girlfriend until she finally said yes after 3 years of trying to get her to be my girlfriend. So You will be able to love again it just will take a lot of time to trust again and to love again. There is somebody in your life as we speak that is there for you every step of the way. When you learn to trust and love again then you will be able to see the true meaning of love in that person. I now understand what love means but really can't define what it is because i feel that love isn't supposed to be defined but felt and gave. I love my girlfriend with all of my being and even though her son (my step-son 7months) isn't mine He is still my son. I love her and my Bat-Baby to death. I hope this shows you that some men in this world understand what love is and understand where you are coming from in this situation.
2006-09-28 05:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by The Plague 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. Most people don't understand what love really is!!! I hate it when people say "I love you" all the time and most don't even know what it's really supposed to mean.
You may not like this, but I want to tell you that there is only one person who will love and really mean it and He won't turn His back on you ever! His name is Jesus, and He loves you so much He came to give His life for you by dying on a cross!!! He's there for you no matter what and He will always love you, listen to you, and He will never burn you!!!
God says in His word (the Bible) "I will never leave you or forsake you" and He means it!
You may hate me for what I've said, but this is the truth and God loves you and I just wanted to let you know that!
God bless you!
2006-09-28 05:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is your best friend. I broke with my exwife years ago and went through a terrible, messy divorce. I was so burned I said I would never trust another women or get into a committed relationship. But over time, I found a woman who is a wonderful partner to me. I care for her dearly, but have been very protective about sharing my heart. It's taken several years of trust between us, but I am able to now love her as she deserves.
2006-09-28 05:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men do understand the meaning of love. Don’t give up. You just have not found the right one yet. You will. Good luck and enjoy the search.
2006-09-28 06:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by RayRay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, your story sounds like mine and many others including guys.
I try I really do but I can't hold on to a relationship.
It messes up that part of you that is able to trust, when you get hurt so badly.
Even if the guy is the best and I want to give him all I am I screw it up somehow...
but good luck to you I hope it turns out better for you :o)
2006-09-28 05:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzylilhippiechick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if you spend some time alone to get yourself back together, you will be able to open up to someone someday. You need to get your self esteem and self respect back. With that, you will regain your confidence.
I think a big mistake some of us make is that we think that we HAVE to be with someone all the time. If one relationship fizzles, then we jump into another hoping it will be ok. Spend some time alone and realize that the only one you really 'need' is yourself.
2006-09-28 05:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be that disappointed. Love exists. The fact that you haven't find it yet means that you are looking on the wrong side. enjoy yourself, get out, make friends and love will come eventually to your life.
2006-09-28 05:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A life without love is impossible! Jesus loves you, don't ever feel like no-one doesn't love you!
2006-09-28 05:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by trey songz wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life without love like food without salt, it's so sour... so don't close ur heart b-coz of that accident. just keep hoping that one day u wlill find true love :) just have a little faith with love
2006-09-28 05:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by prince_troll83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll get over it. If you shoot for a loveless relationship, I don't think your "lover" will be too happy about it.
2006-09-28 05:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋