2006-09-28 05:23:47 · 31 answers · asked by tinker 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
if you guys progress positively and think about getting married then he "may" want you to convert, so discuss the future prospects at the get go, peace
2006-09-28 05:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by HK3738 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long term relationships are difficult in the best situations and you are not going to find someone who has the exact same outlook and opinion about everything that you do... and I doubt that you would want that anyway. How else would you grow as a couple.
But there are core issues that you will want your boyfriend to have in common with you. These issues vary from person to person. Here are some examples:
abortion; politics; conservative/liberal; do they like to
save money; are they sociable; are they homebodies;
would they rather spend a night out at a party or with
a few friends or just you; do they believe in God;
eternal life; do they put the toilet paper so that it comes
over the top or underneath; are they control freaks;
are they timid and shy not able to make any decisions;
And so many more. You need to find out which ones are important to you. Sit down. Write a list of those things that are important to you. How does your boyfriend measure up to that list.
If being a Christian is very important to you then it is not fair to either you or him to continue the relationship. You have no right to force him to change his mind and it is just a fantasy to do so. And it isn't fair to you because won't it be very sad and disheartening when you find you cannot share you faith, that which is very important to you, with the one who is the most important to you here on earth.
If Christianity is not important to you then it won't matter if he is or not. If it is important to you then it will be an issue that will tear you both apart with a pain that will not easily go away. This is the reason that Paul says in I Cor. 7 - "Don't be unequally yoked (joined together)". The union will harm both of you, not just the Christian and God loves you both.
I don't know if this was the answer for which you were wanting to get but I hope this helps.
2006-09-28 08:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religious mixed relationships are hard to say the least. You have to do several things if you want this relationship to last. First you have to accept him for him. You will not change him. If he is not interested in being a christian then you have to accept that. You have to accept that you are a Christian. You have to compromise a lot, some on the way you think and feel as he may not understand compassion if he has had no training to be compassion. You have to understand that you will do some things alone with out him in your relationship. If you can do all these things and stay happy with him, and not lose your Christianity then you will be fine. Good luck
2006-09-28 05:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being an atheist, I don't know how I'd feel about having a Christian girlfriend. Depends on if we known and loved each other for a long time, and she then just converted to Christianity afterwards. I would most likely ask that we reach a compromise that neither of us pressure each other on our personal beliefs. But since that most likely won't work, we'll have to agree to go our seperate ways, but still keep in touch.
2006-09-28 05:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Daemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make..If you love him does it really matter, besides one of these days he may become a christian too..I really don't see what being a christian makes any difference he may be thinking the other way round "I'm not a christian why am I dating a girl that is"..
2006-09-28 05:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to pray for him. If this is really important to you, let him read to you verses and stories from the bible daily, to help him understand your Faith.
Just love him because you have already accepted him, just like Christ has accepted you. Share with him how important this is to you, and be sure that he respects your Faith in God. It is important that you both have the same values.
If he will allow you to pray with him, that would be a good start, and leave the rest to God.
If you are considering marriage, really ask and pray to God, only God knows if this is the man for you.
Be sure to discuss the no-sex before marriage.
Keep the Faith.
Blessings
2006-09-28 05:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Donovan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about your religion. It took my husband a month and a half b/f he started to come to church after i did. Now I think he is more devoted than I am. We have always been Christians but we fell of the bus a long time ago, after we lost our daughter I decided I need to get back into church. In order for you to be happy with him in the long run you really need to be with someone of your faith, it will work so much better and you will live a better happier life.
2006-09-28 05:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? Not to be insensitive, but does it really matter what religion you are? Shouldnt you love him just because he is who he is and not for what he believes or dosent believe?
My wife and I have been married for 14 years. I am an atheist and she is a Christian. If we would have let that kind of thinking stop us them we wouldnt have the two beautiful children we have today.
Stop thinking with your head and let your heart decide.
2006-09-28 05:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by wilchy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who really loves you will stay with you no matter what;explain to him that you are a Christian,and you need to be with someone that shares the same beliefs as you .If he really wants to be with you he WILL make an effort and at least consider you religion if he just does not care,HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!!!! pray for him and let it be Gods will.
God Bless you.
2006-09-28 05:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by elaineport3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who was in a similar situation. They were in love, but there was always that part of her that he would never understand. It ended up not working out, and now she's dating this great christian guy. Things have a way of working out, it just may not be with that guy. Pray about it.
2006-09-28 05:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on maybe pursuing a long term relationship youll both have to be honest with yourselves and see if this is something you canlove with? IF your considering ever having kids together,how will yu raise them? Are you going to be expected to perform rituals you dont believe in? Can you accept this? Can you both practice your sepereate religions peacefully? This has worked before bu8t it can just as easily fail.
2006-09-28 05:27:18 · answer #11 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋