As my partner has been working away a lot lately, I have been looking after my two young children myself. I now totally admire people who do it alone. So all you single parents say your peice and 2 points are yours!!!
2006-09-28 05:23:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the worse thing about being a single parent is the financial situation one wage coming in but the same size mortgage as a couple,its when the kids have gone to bed and you have to sit alone to watch TV,cant go out for nice meals coz no one to go with but i wouldn't swap it for anything,i haven't bought myself any new clothes for 2 years ,i never go out socially as I'm always skint the kids always need shoes,trainers,bags for school there seems to be something every week,i work 7 days a week and am so tired but yet i cant even afford to take my holiday entitlement from work.Well I've had my moan for tonight thanks for listening.
2006-09-28 10:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's no picnic. I raised three kids alone and when I sit down and think about it, it can be overwhelming. That's why I didn't think about it, I just did it!
You see, their dad is a true dead beat owing over $20,000 in back child support. Not to mention he never spent time with them. I was both their mom and their dad. I made sure my son knew how to throw a football and play fight while making sure my girls knew they're ladies and to demand respect from their little boy classmates.
So, I deal with my situation as if I had a sperm donor. My kids are the best things that ever happened to me and if I had to do it all over again, I would. But I would've chosen a profession that would have my bank account big with little time away. That way I could've spent more time with my babies.
Now days, I have a great man in my life, another baby, and I now struggle with sharing time with him and the kids and also letting him act like a father to them. I used to get jealous watching the kids play or go to my fiancee with their problems because before it was just me and them. I'm happy to know they have a stable and decent father figure in their lives that will most definitely always be there for them, no matter what. I know that anything could happen to where I could be single again and I am fine with the idea.
2006-09-28 12:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rica_Venia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I raised my child alone, while serving in the U.S.Navy. While I had a lot of Navy friends who would help in a pinch, my family was no where around. What irritates me is people who are the sole parent, but have their parents who baby sit all the time for free, or live with their parents, yet claiming how difficult single parenting is. Try being Mom, Dad, and grandparents all rolled into one, having a career and paying all the bills on your own. THAT is single parenting. I enjoyed single parenting, no one to disagree with you on parenting, much easier that way. My child is now 28 with 2 of his own children and thanks me all the time for raising him as I did. It wasn't always easy, and it wasn't always fun, but it was certainly worth every second.
2006-09-28 12:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kathy H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am no longer a single mother...I got remarried this past June...but I totally know what you are saying. That was one of the most trying, tiring, challenging, and REWARDING part of my life. I grew as a person and I believe it made me a stronger parent. If I had to back of time and do it again....I would because it gave my daughter and I a very strong bond to base our relationship on.
Yes....single parents are very much to be admired!!!!
Bless you all!
2006-09-28 13:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single parent my self, i know just how hard it is, bringing up 1 child, let alone 2. My husband left me when our daughter was 10 days old, and i've never heard from him since. My daughter is now 7 and we do just fine on our own.
2006-09-28 13:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by flowerpott80 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is hard being a single parent with two young children, wait until they become teenagers - I had three teenage girls when I became a single parent, in a foreign country with no family support, and my hat goes off to everyone who manages to stay sane in this situation!
2006-09-28 12:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i admire you more as you have two i only have one!!
I do it as i have to, it wasnt up to me to end it with the father, and truth be told even for few weeks we stayed together i was rasiing her by myself anyway!!
it worse having someone there that doesnt help, than having no one there to help.
i work part time, i am now in college, and volunteer in a school so if she doesnt tire me out that does!
it is hard work but i wouldnt change her for the world, even though she is now 2 years old and becoming *ahem* lets just say more challenging!
but hey i do my best and i hope its good enough!
thank you for your lovely question and admiration!
2006-09-28 12:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for that, we don't get much credit. Although you now know mentally how it feels to bring up your children alone, can you say you know how it feels financially?? I work full time by the way and wouldn't want it any other way, have no problem bringing mine up alone, either mentally or financially as i know no different but imagine if you took your husband's money away too, you'd be even more impressed with us girls (or fellas) that go it alone. (without any handouts from the government i hasten to add!!!)
2006-09-28 12:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by waspy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mother for years. I also have four children it is very hard especially when you work and go to school full-time.
2006-09-28 12:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am not married yet
but my mom is a single parent
she take care of me and my bro
very well
ahe cooks wash and celan the house
and go to work from 9am to 5pm
she is really good on Saturday and Sunday
she will bring us out for what ever there is in town then she will let me and my brother
come back from school and go to school by ourselve she will prepare some food for us for lunch and she will help me out with our homework
2006-09-28 12:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by astrid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋