My husband and I just have a wonderful life together! We own our own house, we have 3 pets and we both have great jobs. We just don't want kids. In my community, everyone has 2 or 3 kids at our age and we don't have any. It is the "norm" here to have a milllion kids, but we don't want any. we love them, but just are not ready and people look down on that! I guess I am just looking to see if anyone else feels the same or if we are feeling the wrong things! thanks for your help!
2006-09-28 05:02:59 · 44 answers · asked by dezzer85 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I envy people like you that actually are living YOUR life before raising kids, becasue I'm gonna tell you, once you have kids, your life won't be the same! I am a mom of 2, which I absolutely LOVE both my kids, but I wish I would of waited longer and done more things with just me and my husband first. I mean, I know we can still do things together now with the kids, or even after the kids grow up, but if I had it to do over again, I would of waited. My cousin and his wife decided before they married they didn't want kids and they have sooooo much fun! They are constantly doing things like scuba diving, rock climbing, cruises, sky diving, river rafting...etc. Live your life and have fun...if your neighbors are complaining, it's only because they are jealous! lol
2006-09-28 05:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that! I have two kids, because I thought I would feel different as a mom. I didn't feel any different, but only added more responsibilities in my life. I love my children, but I advise you not having kids if you don't feel ready or don't like children. And if people ask when are you having kids, just tell them that your life is just fine the way it is.
Kids are great and a joy to the house, however you REALLY need to feel ready for them. Otherwise, just be happy with your puppies.
2006-09-28 05:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no if u love just being together than that's all u need. But just imagine as u get old together you guys will be all alone everyone else will be with their families. But thats not a reason to have kids. You have them because you want them and love them, but if u don't then there's nothing wrong with that. My friend has been married for 5 yrs. her and her husband aren't even thinking about kids, they love traveling that's why. She also has like 7 siblings so she enjoys their kids.
2006-09-28 05:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what other people think?
That... is a better question to ask yourself.
Besides, if they are looking down on you... it's probably because they are either jealous or you feel guilty for being happy.
THAT... is more the truth than the reason you are using as an excuse, and assume of them.
Why can't anyone ever just be happy with their own condition?
Screw the Joneses babe. Every family now days is nuclear. Some just hide it better than others with their distractions and things.
2006-09-28 05:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been maried almost 7 years and we do not want to have children either. I also love them, but I guess that you could say that I am selfish, because I just do not want any one to have to depend on me and I like to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. My husban has a daughter with someone else, but he does not want kids now either. So it is mutual for us that we do not want any kids. I really feel that this is your own choise and not to listen to everyone else. We gt the same thing and that is when I say to the people that say we should have children, "are you going to come over at 2 am feedings and change dipers and feed and clean up after my child because I want to do what ever I want to do?" At that point they usualy say um no I have raised my children, and I just say to them exactly. Let me know if this has helped you in any way. My email is mistybcc@yahoo.com.
2006-09-28 05:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by mistybcc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. If you don't want children don't have any.
So many people want to clone themselves
to correct what they believe their parents did not do.
When I was 16 I "knew" more than both my parents and by the times I was 21 It was amazing at how much mother and dad learned in 5 years.
Don't let people "force" you into parenthood.
So many children are already having miserable lives-
LOVE is special and you'll know if you get that "urge" to
raise a child. at least 18 years and more like 22 years before college ect and out of house.
By the way- only animal that allows their young to return home after leaving the nest ==people.
2006-09-28 05:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by cork 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have kids! Enjoy life as a couple without kids because once you have them there's no going back! You'll be parents the rest of your life, so enjoy life together, get to know each other in ways you would never get to with kids! The closer you are now, the better you'll be at raising your children.
Good luck!
2006-09-28 05:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lacking Daisies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are wonderful but they really are not for everyone, just becuase you dont' fit in the "norm" of how others are dosent' mean anything about you. I love children but really don't know if I will ever have any of my own - I think it takes strong people to be able to stand up and tell people they just aren't ready or don't want children.
2006-09-28 05:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by TME 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a no-win situation. You get looked down on if you don't have kids, but you would also if you had kids and didn't really want them. Do what you want, don't worry about everyone else. To them having kids is the norm because they all have them. It's not wrong for you to not have them. Enjoy yourselves!
2006-09-28 05:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody has to have kids! And no one should pressure you to have them. You would be the ones raising them...........not those who are pressuring you! My only thought would be to really think about when your older and are you ready for the lack of kids in your future! I have some friends who didn't have kids........and now that the wife is 50.........she is regretting not having kids. Wait until you are ready!!! It's NO ONES BUSINESS except yours and your husbands! Good luck! p.s. I didnt have my kids until i was 39 and 40.........now Im a very happy 41 yr old with two toddlers!!!!!!!!! Do what is right for YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-28 05:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋