OK this is the deal me and my b/f was together for about a month before he left to go to the military we got really close while he was here and I decided I would wait for him until he came back. But slowly but surely we started to argue alot we would go 3 or 4 days without talking and when we did talk he was rude and disrespectful and eventually would just hang up on me. I would call his phone and leave messages and he would never return my call. Then I go online one day to his myspace page and it says he is single and he has nothing but females leaving him messages. Not only does he has 1 myspace account he has another that says he is single but that one says he is located in texas where his base is. We have gotten better but I still have not talked to him in over a week we send emails back and forth but thats all. I mean am I going crazy and just over reacting or does it sound like he has found someone to occupy his time and is putting me on the back burner.
2006-09-28 04:53:50 · 17 answers · asked by MizModelMaterial 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may not have found someone else to occupy his time, but he is looking. I would definitely get off that "back burner", and move on. You deserve, more from a relationship than you are getting from this one. Why prolong your misery? Find someone who will make you happy and not leave you pondering over e-mails..
2006-09-28 05:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Echo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with him a month and he has shown you that he is more than cabable of not only lying to you but just treating you crappy in general, so you care what he is doing WHY?
If his myspace at one time said he was not single then he went in and changed it. If you want to really find out I can hook you up with a site that actually investigates people like him but is he worth the 80 bucks?
I am thinking that you should be taking this time apart to decide what it is you really want in a relationship, and if it isnt in this one perhaps it is time to move on. By the way - if you break up with him he may swear his undying love for you but in another month you will be right back where you are now.
2006-09-28 12:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's looking for someone else and he'll probably dump you when he finds her. Sorry, but I think you should dump him first. Maybe that will make him see that he can't play with you like that. And don't take him back right away either. He'll end up doing the same thing to you again. Either way, sounds like you guys are headed for a breakup. Don't leave him any more messages. You're chasing him! You have to have more self-respect than that. Don't give away your dignity to someone that doesn't appreciate you. You're better than that, sweetie. hold your head up high and move on with your self-esteem intact. He's not the only guy in the world and you deserve better than what he's shown you. Good luck. : )
2006-09-28 12:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mary* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not, but I would not waste my time on guys like that. You sound like a caring and really lovely person without any patronizing, and there are millions of better fish out there. I may sound harsh, but I have been dealing with a similar one, and I have decided to get rid of him from my page now. I realised that there are so many people who care about me more than one guy who wastes my precious time. Girl, show him that you are fabulous without him as well! Give him a wide birth!
2006-09-28 12:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by papillonray 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey honestly you will never know...if you really want to be with him then trust him and just give him his time to focus on becoming a good Marine for his future and if this continues then just let it go and move on because honestly long distance relationships really never last unless you are married or have years and years together when you know you can trust them 100% and sometimes they still seem to wonder some where else for pleasure and comfort so just sit back and see what is going to happen and keep your eyes open...Good Luck!
2006-09-28 11:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by MZ.LANDA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever allow anyone to put your life on hold. Do yourself a favor and begin distancing yourself from him. If you are fighting now and you don't feel comfortable being with someone, there is usually good reason to feel that way.
It may be time to get dressed and go out and date other guys. The worst thing you could ever do is be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Regroup, collect your thoughts and enjoy your life.
2006-09-28 12:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you need to move on if he can disrespect you .
you dont need a man like so and i have found that Most men that go in to the military turn in to pigs when they first get in they all think they are all that and more so they think they can have any girl they want anyway thats just what i think i hope it helps you in some way good luck !
2006-09-28 12:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your in a relationship with no trust and no boundries . you should keep it to email and just that . go find someone who will treat you with respect and enjoy life without stress . i went thru this just months ago . I worked myself up and drove myself crazy because the girl I was in a relationship with gave me reason not to trust. like you , i felt uncomfortable with that person. so I cut strings and now Imlooking for that person who will be there for me . you should do the same.
2006-09-28 12:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by lostlally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like hes cheating but it does sound like he is keeping his options open obviously. You should move on, especially if he is disrepectfuol to you as you said. A month isnt a long time, you can trust that this relationship had too hard of a start.
2006-09-28 11:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he's cheating u baby belive me .now he's got a new teenage company wich can play with real slow and gives her pleasure that he hadn't gave 2 any 1 else before
2006-09-28 12:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Cool Muslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋