I have a shyness problem?

Question

What the hell can i do to make it stop >.<

Answer 1

It might sound stupid, but you need to put yourself in places where you'll be forced to talk. School and college are great for this. also, find a group of people who engage in an activity you enjoy that way you'll immediately have a common interest to facilitate conversation. Don't worry though.. everyone else doesn't know what to say either.

Answer 2

Being in Mensa I can tell you that shyness is a far more common problem than most people think.

Have you ever taken an IQ test? If so what was your score? Take an on line test if you haven't. ("Tickle your brain" by e-mode is a good one, or go to Mensa.org)

As for changing your behavior, you need to find a social group you are comfortable being in. Particularly a peer group, not just a group for the sake of being in a group. Your peers are your social, economic, and IQ level. Not just your age or gender.

Answer 3

Understand what shyness really is: FEAR. One great way to get past any type of fear is to just DO IT ANYWAY. Practice, like with anything you want to do well. Have confidence in yourself and show interest in others. Ask questions. We are all as much alike as we are different. You're bound to have common ground with just about anyone. Turn yourself outward and realize that more people feel insecure and shy than you would imagine. Even famous or popular people struggle with shyness.

Answer 4

The key is not to focus on making it stop, but to focus on loving yourself for who you are. Once you have confidence, and self-esteem, you'll still be on the introverted side, but not shy. I am learning a lot about myself as an introvert, right now, and here are a couple of books I'm reading:

The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When The World Overwhelms You by Elaine Aron (I highly recommend you check this out on Amazon to see if it sounds like a fit for you).

The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extroverted World (I haven't started this one, yet, but it looks good)

Again, you must realize that you are not flawed in any way, just introverted (Our society's ideal is the rugged extrovert, so sometimes we think we're flawed). Being comfortable with who you are is the first step to opening up.

Answer 5

I use too have the same problem in fact I kind of still do. I just got to know people. The only thing you can do is to start going places and meeting different and talking to them. The internet is good too place to meet people you don't see them else you want to.

Answer 6

You can't really make it stop or go away just like that, but you can try to manage it day by day for you to overcome it someday.

I think that it is best for the shy person like yourself, to begin to reach out in ways that are most comfortable to you. You may want to practice communicating in email or chat rooms online, which tends to be less threatening to many people than face-to-face interaction. Or you may want to practice social skills with friends or family members with whom you feel comfortable. The goal is to eventually feel comfortable enough to reach to whomever you want, whenever you want to.

Sometimes our worst enemy is ourselves. We get so focused at how people perceive us, how they may judge us, or whatnot. You only have to accept yourself for who you are, that you are not perfect, and that some people will like you, while others won't.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Put yourself in situations you would think twice about. You need to be really stubborn, and self willing to do this, i did it and it's worked a treat, i still have problems, always will, but those are the ghosts of my past that will always be with me.

Answer 9

the only way is by mingling with people or join a callcentre,if u are still young its good to do it from now itself ,if not u will face many problems.

Answer 10

go to the mall, bar with some friends, use town functions to get to know people, church/synagogue functions, Join a group of people that are shy. I did this it works. I hope this helps.