We broke up 2 and a half months ago. Not talking to him. Iiv'e been told he is hurting really bad. But he broke up with me!
2006-09-28 04:28:12 · 24 answers · asked by icarrillo19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't have the balls to call and appoligize then forget him for good. He needs to be a man about it and admit that he ****** up when he chose to walk out. Whatever you do, don't be the one to call him first and forgive him for the pain he caused you. You'll be giving him the message that you don't mind being dumped whenever he wants! Make him show remorse and send you flowers before you even think of taking him back - of course, that's if you still want him back. I wouldn't, after the humiliation of being dumped.
2006-09-28 04:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by liberalthinktank 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, may be I see one of the reasons you two broke up. The martyr routine huh? Well, sounds to me like it may be a case of missing the water when the well runs dry. If not, then he has realized how nice it was being with you and that you ARE moving on. Perhaps, he thought you could not do that after knowing him. If that is the case he believes himself to be the all important one. If it is not, he is miserable and wants you to be too. He broke up with you and if he is sorry, he has your number. If he is jealous that you can move on, he still has your number. If he realized what he lost and wants to get it back, he has your number. If he just wants attention he won't use that number. If he does use it I don't think I would be real anxious to give an egocentric person who looks for attention another whirl in the dating scene. At least not with me, but that would depend on how your feelings for him stand. He broke up with you and did not worry about your feelings, so I would not bother to give him the satisfaction of a call to stroke his ego. It doesn't need it. It also looks like his maturity level is rather lacking-do you need that? My advice would be to speak in passing and just be friends. If he finds that unsatisfactory maybe he will think further before he does the same to someone else--but probably not. Maturity problems can correct themselves in years to come but if it is an ego thing then that is more probably his lifetime love affair. I would say consider yourself lucky to know that now and not further down the line. Just be smiles and casually friendly. Who knows, that attention may even satisfy him.
2006-09-28 04:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyne feels bad after a relationship ends. Even the one who breaks it, after a while atleast. Being alone is strange and at times you do want to get back with your ex. By default, you should think that he's just having a bad season or a bad day, and starting a relationship with him would just lead you two back to where you were when he broke up with you. If you do get a lot of information towards the fact that he might actually regret his decision genuinely, you should look into yourself and find out if you want to rekindle your relationship. He could have seen what he's missing but I'd tread carefully.
2006-09-28 04:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
classic..he doesn't want to be the bad guy..he's got a complex about being the bad guy..possibly he could be doing that to get you to contact him. My advice is to ignore this and ask people not to tell you about him..just explain that he broke up with you, his decision, his problem. Accept that regardless of how he acts or what he says....how he feels is NOT your responsibilty!! It's up to him to get over it. Truth is..even if you were being nice to him and being his friend..he'd still be saying the same things..because he plays the martyr role well. Ignore him & keep minimal contact if any. You're broke up because what you had was broken...Good luck!!
2006-09-28 04:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he broke up with you then why do you care if he is hurting he did this on his own . Do not feel bad maybe he is realizing what he did was wrong and now he regrets it. I certainly would not take him back after all of this. just move on with your life. Good luck I hope this helps.
2006-09-28 04:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. Let him suffer. It's builds character. Move on. Have a happy life without him. He's just looking for attention, and who wants a man who seeks attention by playing a martyr???
2006-09-28 04:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
there can only be 2 reasons
1) he is looking for sympathy so women find him on a rebound and he gets lucky. i know jerks who have used this method and got what they want
or
2) he is regreting breaking up with u and wishes u were toghter again. its human to err but divine to forgive
i strongly feel that its 2 and hell be divine and forgive him if u still love him. hopefully it will work out this time
2006-09-28 04:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you took time to ask this question must mean that you are still interested in persuing a relationship with this person. If he is hurting over it and you are too, then wouldnt it make sense to sit down with him and talk it over? Good luck.
2006-09-28 04:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he really is that shattered.. let him call u since he is the one who broke up, u just need to be strong and move on
2006-09-28 04:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he'll just have to suffer for his own mistake. I guess he's bummed because he now realizes what a great girl you were to him and wants you back. But I wouldn't do it, let him LEARN from his mistake so the next time he has a girlfriend he'll be more appreciative of her.
2006-09-28 04:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋