Right, my g/f has been playing games, by games she somehow has me chasing round after her and only sees me when she wants to. This week she couldnt see me on tues because parents were flying back from south africa, wednesday she wanted to see her parents, thursday she said that she is getting ready to go out on friday after work and has to get her change of clothes ready ( sort of leaving party as she is leaving work on sat ) anyway so cant see me on fri leaving party, Sat cant see me promised a friend in london would go out with her. Cant see me on sunday as her mums birthday.
After hearing all this I said that she should call me when she wanted to see me.I havnt heard since.
Do you think I should cave in and text her or be strong.
Oh and forgot to mention that she is due to goe to south africa for two weeks soon.
2006-09-28 04:26:19 · 49 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wrote wednesday I meant tuesday night.
2006-09-28 04:28:15 · update #1
sounds like she is not making time for you... you need someone that has you high on their prioity list
2006-09-28 04:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong I know you want to pick up the phone and call or send a text but dont. She has not had time or tried to find the time to spend with you. Why would you open your heart up for more heartache. This seems to be a very busy woman and she isnt including you in her plans. If this is your girlfriend what would be wrong with you going to her parents house with her. I know theyre just returning but 2 days to visit is a bit much. I think she is seeing someone else and is stringing you along in case things dont work out for her and this person. I am a busy woman as well but I do make time for the people that are important in my life. You seem to be a patient person with a good heart. Believe me some other woman would enjoy all the attention instead of chasing on down find someone new and let her enjoy your company.Her co workers know about you so why couldnt you be a part of some of these events. I know its hard to move on but you deserve better.
2006-09-28 04:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to talk. The way she is acting could mean 1 of 2 things. Firstly she isn't interested anymore or secondly she likes you a lot and has got scared. If I were you I'd lay it on the line, you have nothing to lose. Text are rubbish, they can always be misread. Write her a letter telling her how you feel about her and that you care and want to see her more. Also ask her to be honest with you and let you know if she is not interested. At least you'll have an answer one way or another. It might be tempting to phone her, but you will be forcing her to talk to you when she might not want to. A letter she can read and re-read in her own time and it is not intrusive. Good luck, I hope it works out for you x
2006-09-28 04:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've taken the a reasonable approach.
However, it might be worth phone her just to have a nice chat; keep it brief - 5 or ten minutes maybe, just to remind her you exists - and so that she can't throw the silence back in your face over the weekend (This is all about prempting that particular strike - if she's playing games she'll somehow make it your fault).
Besides - just because SHE's playing games, doesn't mean that you have to. One of you needs to be grown up.
People sometimes do have busy lives which can deprioritise a partner temporarily.
However, if she doesn't start making you a priority pretty damn soon - move on. Especially if she's not pulled her head in by the time she goes to Africa.
2006-09-28 04:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not making time for you and you definately should not cave in. She's treating you unfairly and she can't expect you to take a back seat whilst she gets on with her life. You should be her priority. She sounds a bit immature to me (having answered some of your previous questions) so I think a good sharp reality check is what she needs right now. Don't text her - go out yourself and have some fun! I know it'll be hard because you care about her and want to see her, but when she calls you saying she's free and wants to come over, tell her you're busy.
2006-09-28 04:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, you made yourself clear. She is to contact you when she has time. Do you really want to be left hanging though where she calls the shots? Is she even worth it because she sounds very selfish and self-centred. Not to mention busy! It sounds as if she is very immature and wants you to fit around her plans.
If you really really like her and breaking up just isn't an option for you then wait for her to contact you but don't wait on her, go out and do things. She enjoying HERself, so you go do the same.
If you don't think she's worth it then i suggest you jack her in and find someone that will make time for you because that is what being in a relationship is all about, sacrifice and compromise, not to mention consideration and affection. You girlfriend obviously isn't aware that a relationship is a two way thing
2006-09-28 04:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call, don't text, don't email...Shoot, if she calls and says she wants to see you, tell her you have to change your shoe laces and that you just do not have the time. She is either just trying to break it off with you or she is playing you for the fool. Chase her now and you will chase her forever because she will know you will cave...Stay strong and fill your schedule up with things to do so that when she calls you can not see her...
2006-09-28 04:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong.. Find you some extracuricular activities, and move on. If she was meeting her parents and you are her boyfriend, seems like you would be invited to some of these things.. but since you aren't take the hint.. and find someone worth your time.. Remember be strong..she will probablly only put you off again when you do call or text.
2006-09-28 04:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like much of a girlfriend. If you cave, you just make room for this kind of behavior to continue. I'd have a serious talk with her and if things don't change, I'd reconsider the whole relationship. You should be worth your girlfriend's time.
2006-09-28 04:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate - she clearly has no regard for your feelings.. I think it would be only fair if you make copies of all your nudy pics of her and post on your 360 page for everyone to see... you'd be doing the world a service... why should any other men have to go through this also....
She'll realise the error of her ways and thank you in the long run
2006-09-28 04:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by ShowMeTheLite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Just Me. It seems to me that lots of those things could include you if she wanted them to. It seems like she's just not interested in seeing you. I would talk to her and get a clear answer on if this is the case and why. Putting off talking to her is only going to delay you getting to the heart of this issue.
2006-09-28 04:32:17 · answer #11 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋