My boyfriend and I have a good relationship and all don't get me wrong, but here lately I've been wanting to move on with the relationship, I'm looking for someone to be with and perhaps fall in love with and live with and start a family with. I do feel he is capable of this but I'm kinda scared to even bring this up with him. I don't think he's ready to have all this going on, should I even tell him how I feel about this or should I just keep to myself and see how it keeps going.I'm just ready for another stage in my life but Im just unsure if he's ready, help me please!!
2006-09-28 04:25:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should always communicate with your partner and if you fear talking to him, that is a problem. Tell him you would like your relationship to go to the next level. If he don't want to, you set a time limit on how long his decision will be alright with you. and if he doesn't respond within that time limit, find someone who will tend to your needs. If you are good enough to sleep with, you are good enough to be in a relationship with him. You are putting him in the position of why buy the cow, where I can still have the milk? Good luck and take care.
2006-09-28 04:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmkay Babe here is what you do:
Tell him you are ready for a relationship that is going to mean something in the long run. Tell him you are ready to fall in love with someone and settle down. If he isnt ready you have two options : a) stay with him and SEE if eventually this will work out if hes just not ready B) dump him and find someone that will love you and want to have a family with you
good luck
and no matter what you do
rember that everything is determinend by faith
and it happens for a reason
2006-09-28 11:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youve been ready for this for a long time! I can relate to how you feel, it took me ages to tell my partner that I wanted to move in with him incase I scared him off. The thing with blokes is that they hate being told what to do, you have to make it out like it is their idea. Try hinting about the future and see what he says if he's not interested leave it a couple of days then try again. But do it suttely! It will get him thinking about it but he wont think you are pushing him into anything. If hes truly not ready in the slightest then you have to ask yourself is this what you really want? Are you ready to wait for him? Will he ever be ready? If not then at least you have the chance now to break it off now instead one day he realizes he wasn't ready and you get stuck with a house and 3 kids to look after by yourself! Try the hinting thing, every now and then sujest something to do with kids or marriage, see his reaction. You may just be worrying about it too much and he might just be thinking the same thing that you are! Good luck!
2006-09-28 11:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by AMY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are u? how old is ur boyfriend? how long have u two been together ? these are some points which would have helped in giving u some sort of suggestion but anyhow...since u say that u r ready to start a family this shows ur @ mature age and there is nothing wrong with ur thinking ..every sensible woman has / should have these thoughts and plans....good on u....now the matter of asking him....ok..have u seen / noticed him ever talking about future relationship / future commitments ? Look i suggest there is nothing wrong in asking him NOW ...if u wait and he comes out to have other ideas in his head u will feel sorry for urself and would have wasted ur precious time with him...remember u r getting old not younger..come on be brave start this conversation with him on asap basis....good luck.....
2006-09-28 11:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by mature_male_online 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got engaged a two months ago. It was perfect, and Im only 20. But when you know you know. I think that if you are worried to even bring the subject up, I would ask myself if this is really the person I would like to further a relationship with, or is it just that you, personally, are ready for the next step?
2006-09-28 11:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about it. He may feel the same way and you may never know unless you talk. Communication is a huge part of a relationship. You may be surprised. If he isnt ready then you can think about just ebing friends and moving on. Good Luck
2006-09-28 11:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ember B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lay it out all at once or you mary'freak' him out. The issue of family is an important one. I suggest subtly mentioning the prospect of family. Once that seed is planted let some time pass, then at a later time discuss 'family planning'. You'll know if he's into the idea and at what point. Behind this everything else should fall into place.
2006-09-28 11:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you really care about your boyfriend and his feelings then yr going to have to bring it up. It's not fair for you to assume he doesn't want the same things as you and then you move on and he is without you? You should give it a try and shoot for the best. Good luck.
2006-09-28 11:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by DiVenanzo™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think he's ready for the long term commitment it's probably because he is not. However, I defiantly think you should tell him whats on your mind. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship!
2006-09-28 11:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if this is how u feel then u need to tell him cos if u love each other all u have to do is say and sit down and talk it through with him i did and he has turned out to be more mature than i thought your guy might be the same just take the time to find out or u will regret it
2006-09-28 11:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by spud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋