I ask her sponser my 5 chldn for come to US. She sign lots paper for INS and help me get greencard too. I could done all this without her help me. Chldn here now and she mad about stupid thing. She tell me they no respect her or no wash their hands in bathroom. I work 16 hrs by day. She’s only work one month in 2006. She say to help and watch my childn is hard work! Ha, no it not! Plus she not cook like womn here from my country and needs do something! She on many perscripton medicums,seeing docter. Docter tell me she sick. I think this is lie. Many time she crying and whine how I no help her with my childen or discipln them. She not give money to this house so need to shut up! Mornings she reading book about suicide or she vomiting or she on PC. 5 months after they here she say my oldest sons need go work! They only 18 and 21. They going part time school and no need work when spoiled American womn sit home remnd me how she help me and them. Need to leav this bad womn. How to do?
2006-09-28 04:24:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
Many peopl here are make fun joke of my english. It 2006 you know not erybody speak only english.How good do you type in *my* languages French and Arabic? I needing help not ignorance. Thank you.
2006-09-28 04:38:30 · update #1
I happy for October girl and other good American womn here who say this bad womn is use me. She manager at company when I meet her. I cab driver she my customon. Now she sick the docter say. I go work she stay with my three little chldn because I no have money for baby sitter. She every day ask 5 dollars from me! Next tim she ask I say no you don't not need any more my money. Other American womn say you just use me!
2006-09-28 04:48:53 · update #2
I say you are a fake and a troll
If its the truth you are a uncaring bastard that used this woman and after you got what you wanted you want to dump her.Please dump her she needs to be free of your ignorant ego infused azz.
2006-09-28 04:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You are the one with the problem. Yes your 18 and 21 year old should have a job and be out of the house.I have been working sence I was 10. Taking care of one child is hard she is taking care of five that aren't even hers. If their English is as bad as yours, they probably can't communicate well with her. She is right. Not all American women are spoiled. I am a house wife. I take care of my child, my house, and I also do school. My husband cooks because he likes it. Here in America the vast majority of men cook. They are usually better at it too. She has done a lot for you. She has allowed you to bring your obviously spoiled children into her home and life, and you ***** at her for need help with them. HELP HER! They probably don't respect her at all. The vast majority of immigrant’s children are horrible people. This is from personal experience. You may work, but her job is much harder. If you are a house wife, it is equivalent to two full time jobs. And with five children, and two of them already grown ups, and o=you expect her to let you and your children walk all over her, GO BACK TO YOUR OWN DARN COUNTRY THEN! American women do a sh!t load! How can you come off and say that ALL American women don't do sh!t? You asked her to sponsor your children, so obviously, you DID need her help. If she is on med's, and her doc says that she is sick, she is. Get a ****!ng clue. Stupid male chauvinistic pig.
NO, American women are saying that you are taking advantage of her! She should leave you, and have you and your children deported back were ever you came from!
2006-09-28 04:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by gin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 and 18 are old enough to get jobs and go to school. Your children should wash their hands when leaving the bathroom it's calleD hygiene and it helps stop spreading germs. They probably don't respect her if you don't. If you condone this behavior your making it harder on her. If the doctor says she's sick then she is a doctor wouldn't lie. It sounds like you don't respect this woman and in turn your kids don't either. Have you ever thought that she's just not used to handling 5 children at once. I'm sure this is very hard on her. Have one or your kids cook food that you enjoy- she's not from your country and doesn't know how to cook food you enjoy- have you tried to teach her? It sounds like your not helping the situation either.HELP HER MAKE IT BETTER.
2006-09-28 04:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by arl21amber 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she is doing you a favor, if you don't like it just go back where you came from and take your 5 children with you. Yeah, buddy, 18 and 21 year old children do need to get a job, even if it is just part-time. She is correct in that SHE HELPED YOU AND YOUR 5 KIDS!! She don't cook like women from your country, HEY, go back to your country!! How to "leav this bad womn" - Just get up and walk out the door holding the hands of your children as you go!! I don't think you will get a lot of sympathy here big guy!!
2006-09-28 04:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your 18 and 21 year olds are not full time college students they need to be out of the house and working with a place of their own. In the US, we don't have multiple generations living under the same roof.
Why don't you admit you were just using her to get your green card, to get your kids over here and to get them a full time baby sitter. So now she's using you to pay all her bills. It goes both ways, buddy.
If you want somebody else, turn in your greed card and start over or just shut up and pay the bills. Or quit, let her work and you stay home and watch your own kids.
2006-09-28 04:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pam 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See in a lot of households in this country some people believe in the woman staying home and basically being a housewife..that is cooking, cleaning, running errands and taking care of the kids, but in this day its not really like that...the husband and wife should work and split up the daily chores. However she is right about one thing, your children are not too young to work...I am a woman who's been working since I was 15 years old. My advice to you is to go back to where you came from because thats where you seem happier with your country's customs and traditions. Goodluck to you!
2006-09-28 04:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You and your children are spoiled. You are what we call an abusive husband here in the US. The work involved in taking care of 5 spoiled kids and an idiot husband is worth some money. How much would you have to pay a stranger for this service? I'm guessing that you couldn't it.
2006-09-28 04:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You went into sort of a deal with her: that she sponsor your family, and you will provide for everyone.
She did sponsor your family; unfortunately, she has no intention of going back to work. As a parent, and as the major income generator, your opinion should also be heard and respected. You need to talk more openly to your wife, and be more assertive. You need to do the budgeting yourself as you are earning and working more.
If your wife is depressed, make sure that she gets health and medical insurance to cover for her medical care.
Hope that your fortune change for the better.
One more thing Amadou, what happened to your fluent english when you posted this same scenario sometime ago? And the number of children miraculously increased from 3 to 5 in the span of 10 hours.
2006-09-28 04:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by tranquil 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Buster your in the wrong country and should go back to where you came from. Sounds as if you married this woman to not only hold down a job but to take care of your kids 24/7 too. Stick it in your ear and go back to where you came from. Women in this country have the same equal rights as men where most likely in your country they are worked 24 hours around the clock and are suppose to be your slave. Your wife attempted to provide you with a safe country to live in including your children and you have failed to acknowledge that. The blame is entirely yours.
2006-09-28 04:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by AL 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok -- that wasn't too bad -- I got through it and I think I get your problem. You are with an American woman (trust me....we're not all alike). She helped you so you sort of feel obligated to her, right? So you want to leave though because you are not happy. It sounds like she isn't helping much financially - and you are. Souds like you can afford to go out there on your own. Go for it with the kids!! If the 18 and 21 year old are working and going to school -- you have to give them credit. But they are old enough to go to work. My son's been working since he was 15 and I (American 48 year YOUNG woman since I was 12 and still do). He also goes to school and will be a new father soon. Just get out of there. Sounds like she is starting to take advantage of you.
2006-09-28 04:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What? 5 kids? Are you insane? what else do you want from this woman? I'm sure you wouldn't be able to handle them by yourself. 18 and 21? they better find some work! They can't be freeloading forever... they can work and go to school, its no big deal. if you wnat to leave her, leave her. but leave knowing that you're being a big baby and you need to be thankful that this woman did those things for you.
Ingrate.
2006-09-28 04:28:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋