I think I'm ready to break up with my girl and I'm hurting?

Question

We have dated for 6 months. We do care about each other (i think me more than her).I think. Shes not great at expressing herself. She has told me all along about her needing alone or apart time. I'm the kinda guy at the end of the workday that likes to be with his partner and dont want to be alone. Shes a college student. During the summer we had good times for the most part but school has started again. Man, am i going thru some serious withdrawls. I really only see her once every few days and only for short periods. I realize school is important. Even when she is done studying unless i'm very persistant, I dont get asked to come over. I dont like to come across as needy so i dont really ask.I want to be invited! Whenever I express how i feel (like, "i feel like i'm in a long distance relationship or can we have some me time") her responce is always "I know".Last night i suggested we break up. She said why am i giving up so easy?She doesnt want to break up and no there is no other guy

Answer 1

if u wanna break up go do it like a man

Answer 2

The girl has her head screwed on to be honest-I know that sounds hard but her studies have to come first. If you think so much of her you will try to understand her and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You need to add something to your own life to make it more interesting. This girl cannot be your whole life-we all need much more. There is nothing wrong with your relationship by the sounds of it but yes, you are needy. When she has finished studyig she probably just feels tired-it is tiring. You know that things are different in the holiday periods so that is a good sign.Don't keep being persistent to go over even though its so tempting, it could put her off of you eventually. Just hang in there and try to find a hobby to occupy yourself. Maybe study something yourself? We can never learn too much. So many girls at college drop out or perform poorly simply because of boys! She obviously knows this and knows where she wants to go in life. She has a strong mind of her own-do not try to change her-if she was diffrent I doubt that you would like her so much. Never try to change someone-either take them as they are, or not at all. Some people need time alone and get resentful toards people if they don't get it(I'm like that)so she has just been honest with you. Honesty is to be honoured-its rare!

Answer 3

Honor her request for her alone time. While you are not with her, try to figure out if you think/feel she really wants to continue the relationship with you or if she is just content with having a bf out of convenience. I would suggest that you tell her you respect her decision to put so much into school and you'll be there for her if she'd ever like to talk or meet up. Don't give her an ultimatum but don't hold your breath. If she decides she wants to be with you, it could take days or weeks. Just make the most out of the time you do get with her and see where it takes you. And relax! So you are not everything important in her life. That is normal and healthy. Find yourself a hobby.

Answer 4

Well first of all if we all thought we want to be invited over instead of inviting the other person, we wouldnt be seeing other people that much. If you want to see her, invite her over or ask if she wants to do something. If she declines, ask her again later, if she declines again, suggest her that she tells you when she's available and wants to do something or wait for her to ask you instead. While you're waiting, just do other stuff, see friends (not other girls though, you're still with her), do stuff, go out and things like that. Youre ment to have a life outside of your relationship too.

You shouldnt really put pressure on her as she might actually be having a tight time at school. She might want to relax on her own every now and then. I guarantee she'll ask you over if she wants to be with you and has time for you. If you were really tired and busy with all kinds of stuff, you wouldnt probably want a person you like an appreciate to see you all cranky and stuff. Have patience and trust her that she'll tell you if she doesnt want to be in a relationship with you or doesnt appreciate your company, instead of believing the worst from the situation.

Answer 5

I just got out of a relationship that was kinda like this. My boyfriend wanted to spend so much time with me that I couldn't take care of myself. It was burdensome. He moved here from another state to be with me, so he didn't have any friends here. When the relationship is new, yes, you do want to spend all the time in the world with your partner. But when other aspects of your life are falling apart or becoming difficult to maintain, it's the relationship that needs to give a little.
Here's my suggestion, go out with your friends and only ask her out once a week. Don't go out drinking, this will only make life more tiresome and difficult. She needs her time to study and take care of herself so you don't want to put more obsticles in her way. When you do get together, just plan on staying a short time.
When she sees that you are spending less time with her, she WILL ask you to stay and invite you over more often.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Hold on loosely...
So don't suffocate your relationship. We all need air to breathe.... give her some. You may want more, but be patient, everything will fall in line

Answer 6

If she feels the way you do about her, then just give it some time. She probably has alot going on with school and everything. I would also just straight ask her, "Why don't you want to spend time with me." If she likes you that much, she would make time. This is a hard question...most of the time in things like this, I would say "Move on and find better" but you sound like you really love her, I just hope she likes you as much as you like her! Sorry I couldn't say what you were probably hoping to hear! Good luck, and take care of yourself, don't dwell!

Answer 7

Ask yourself this question: Is what I'm getting out of this relationship worth what I'm putting into it? Not in an opportunistic sense, but think about it. If you're doing all the work and getting nothing in return, it may be time to leave. Her inability to express her feelings isn't your fault.

Answer 8

You sound pretty smart for someone so young. It is very mature of you to realize that it is time to end a relationship even though you still care so much for the girl. It really sounds as if she wants to keep you hanging on until she finds someone else---you deserve better than that.

Answer 9

At least you are being honest about how much you need to be with her. If she can't undrstand that, then you are not on the same wave length. I know that I want to be with my man ALOT, no matter what is going on in my life. If she's not there for you, as much as you want her to be, then I suggest you break up. You are NOT giving up easily, you are just being honest with your feelings and what you NEED from a relationship.

Answer 10

y break up when both of u still want each other? talk to her..there must a solution to this problem. try to find out what is the best way for u to have ur relationship happily. try to understand what she wants from the relationship, n get her to understand ur opinion too..i'm sure things will work out. u know, because ur relationship is still in the early stage, there will be problems trying o accommodate with each other. talk to her n try to make ur relationship work out...good luck!

Answer 11

It sounds like she isn't committed to your relationship. She's too busy with school to be with someone right now and you want someone in your life. There are plenty of ladies out there who will make time for you, so go out and find one. It sounds like you're just spinning your wheels with this current girl. Good luck to you.