I am having a seperate wedding and party. Should i do the party on the same day as the wedding or have it the next day. I will have 40 at the wedding and about 400 at the party. should i just have the party that day so that people dont have to re spend the time getting ready?
2006-09-28 04:17:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you're having the same people at the wedding and the party, same day for sure. It does take a bit of effort on the part of your guests (eg getting to venues, buying new clothes, having their hair done etc) not to mention that they take the time out of their lives to be there with you. It would be best for your guests if you have it all on the one day as it saves them the hassle.
It will save you hassle as well as you will only need to get your hair and makeup done once and you won't need cars, photographers etc for another day.
And if you have the party on other day, I think you'll take away some of the 'specialness' of the whole thing. After all, most of the fun of a wedding day is the party (the ceremony is special of course but it's quite solemn and not really fun). In any case, the party is all about celebrating getting married so you may as well do it on the same special day.
BTW - what do you mean by 'party'? I assume you mean that the 'wedding' is the ceremony and the 'party' is the reception. It seems unusual to have more people at the reception than the ceremony as it is usually the other way around (as the ceremony usually costs the same regardless of size whereas at the reception it obviously costs more to feed more people).
2006-09-28 04:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having a separate wedding ceremony with only 40 people but are inviting about 400 to the party? I would definitely do it the same day. A large party to celebrate your wedding is wonderful and should definitely be after the small ceremony. I know it makes for a longer day but it gives the 400 people a chance to join in your wedding day, your celebration instead of being seen as an afterthought.
2006-09-28 04:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If possible, it should be the same day... Why?
People don't have to give up 2 days for 2 events (sounds a little rude, but with everyone's busy schedules it can be tough to find 2 days to attend 2 events)
People don't need 2 outfits (again, sounds weird but some people have a hard enough time finding one out fit to wear)
You can celebrate ALL day! What a fun idea! You're all decked out for the wedding ceremony and then off to the big party!
Those traveling (if any) don't have to stay in a hotel for more than one evening. If there are 2 days of events they may need to stay at a hotel for 2 evenings.
But really, in the end it is your decision. It's your wedding and you do what you want. Personally, I enjoy attending the ceremony AND the reception and I like when they are one after the other.
2006-09-28 04:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they should be on the same day. It would really inconveniece the guests who want to go to both if they have to make it a weekend event. Plus, the other 350 guests might feel like their party is more of an afterthought...it will be more special to them if they get to celebrate with you ON your wedding day, when you are all decked out in your wedding dress and being radiant bride rather than the newlywed you will be the next day.
2006-09-28 04:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to think of the others that would have to attend two gatherings on separate days. However, think of what works best for you because, more than likely, it is just close relatives and friends that would be attending both and they usually don't feel put out to come to two separate parties on a weekend for a wedding! I have done that many times and it is okay by me! It is your once-in-a-lifetime event, remember that first! It should be about what you and your soon-to-be spouse want!
2006-09-28 04:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kyra P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are better off having it the same day. You will also have a better turnout. This will also save your energy a little bit. Believe me you are so worn out and tired by that day is over because of your emotions and everything going your whole body is ready to crash you don't want to get up the next day and have to get ready again. You will be glad you did it all in one day.
2006-09-28 06:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By party, you mean reception?
Yes, it is fine to have a small wedding ceremony and follow it with a large reception. But you have to do the invitation etiquette right-- Your large, main invitation should invite people to the weddng reception, then you print smaller ceremony cards and slip those in ONLY to the people who are invited to the ceremony as well.
If you google for Cranes etiquette wedding blue book they have a great online guide for the etiquette to do this right. (Oops, looks like their site is down today, I just went to look for it. But when it comes back up it really is useful.)
2006-09-28 05:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 07:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen most weddings and receptions done this way. Just make sure you have a good gap in between for your pictures. Dinnertime is great for a reception.
But in truth I have yet to see anyone do it on a separate day.
2006-09-28 04:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot decide this most simple of things, I wonder what you will do when the REALLY BIG decisions of life come along in your marriage, as they most certainly will. Anyway, dear, same day. And 400 people. Who are these folks, your closest and dearest friends and relatives (chuckle)? Rhetorical.
2006-09-28 05:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋