how come people have fake friends??

Question

why do u have so called friends who are only there when they need you and want something from you but they cant have the common desency to say hey to u outside of school or wherever??

Answer 1

"Friends" has now become a loose term to label people who you may or may not feel are your friends. From the sound of it, they're merely acquaintances who have taken advantage of your generosity and called you their friend but privately, they want nothing to do with you unless it benefits them. They're not your real friend. A real friend will acknowledge who you are and will stand by you through thick and thin. Additionally, like any relationship, it takes time and effort to build.

Answer 2

First of all, it's not because there's something wrong with you! You must have a good heart to bother with these people.

There have always been false friends - they aren't even true to themselves!

My advice, if you want any, is to be a good friend to yourself first. To start: don't make a big deal of how you feel about these people; be cool, close them out of your life (except, if it suits you, as polite acquaintances), and move on. There's always someone else who could use a friend. Be careful, though, and don't go for overly needy or possessive friends. (That doesn't mean reject troubled people, who need adult help, but this can be a real problem down the line, as I learned from a boyfriend who didn't want to break up!)

Take your time, and pray about it, and make sure any friends you make are actually good for you. The whole point is that friendship needs to be mutual, where you receive as surely as you give.

Don't wait for others to let you know if you are special or where you belong. It's an odd facet of human nature that if we empower other people to help us feel right about ourselves, they all-too-often misuse the power to feel good about themselves. But people can be sheep-like followers - especially the 'popular' ones - and will believe what you tell them about yourself. Act like you know you're fine, and they'll believe you; act like you're not too sure about yourself, and they believe that.

Stay true to yourself, and get into things you enjoy. It will draw good people and good times to you, while these so-called friends are stuck with the "benefits" of their so-called friendships.

I'm twenty-three; my older brother and high-school sister went through this, too. It wasn't easy at all, but we all came to have the best of friends.

Hang in there!

Answer 3

It's because we cannot trust people nowadays as they keep changing all the time + we don't really know what are their true feelings & opinions. So, it's more likely that people will try to use you and they are called 'fake friends'. The worst thing about them is that they use you but you cannot use them and it's better in this case to avoid these people.

Answer 4

It's better than having no friends because fake friends hurt your feelings too much or you stopped having anything they wanted.

Answer 5

yes, but i dont call them my friends. they are my acquintances. and i treat them exactly how they treat me. if i want to borrow thier assignment, i'll be real good to them. outside school, i pretend i dont know them.

but i dont worry about this because they are the same with me.

my advice for u, dont worry about this kind of people. its okay to have different sets of friends inside and outside school. its a way of survival. if they dont want to have any 'connection' with u after school, then fine. find other people who are interested with u outside school.

Answer 6

These people aren't friends. They're manipulators - using others & being friendly when they find you're of use & will not hesitate to back stab.

Answer 7

There are friends and then there are acquittance's.And you will have far more acquittances in life then true friends

Answer 8

because people are fickle