My fiance' and I have two cats. Reece (girl, 2) was his from before and we got Buddy (boy, 2) about 5 months ago. They fight a whole lot, sometimes its play, sometimes it gets nasty.
Every time I yell "Reece", Buddy comes and takes the attention. I am positive that they konw the tones are different for their names. Buddy is an attention hog and won't let Reece, who is more kept to herself, have us petting her and talking baby talk to her.
It gets very annoying to have him take away her petting and loving time. How do we get the message to him that it's her turn for petting, not his? Please NO comments about getting a dog. I don't want one.
2006-09-28 04:13:21 · 7 answers · asked by Rachael 3 in Pets ➔ Cats
Also, Reece is very timid, and so when Buddy comes to take the attention away from her, she runs. Its hard to tell Buddy "no" and still have her stick around. I think he takes advantage of that fact.
2006-09-28 04:34:55 · update #1
Buddy's fat
2006-09-28 05:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by stigma138 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, every time Buddy come to you when you holler for Reece, you put Buddy down in the floor and say,"No, I want Reece, not you." If Buddy still doesn't get the hint, try doing this, every time Buddy wants petted, don't. Remind him that is he wants to be petted, he first has to let Reece get petted too. If that doesn't work, try giving Buddy and Reece attention at the same time.
2006-09-28 11:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reece ... well have you tryed special treats and give a treat to each cat when it comes to you? hows about special toys for each of them I have dogs and sometimes they have pms! but if you get 2/4 toys each one will have a favorite and the then try to spend time time with them that way quality time is good now matter how it is spent. MEOW and good luck. P.S. I also have a cat and yes the cat and the dog also battle it out over attention. the cat could care less sometimes but the dog wow all the time like I'm her only toy she has to have all the attention in her mind anyway! best wishes. K
2006-09-28 11:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by kbowers41 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a lot like our cats. Bugsy (alpha male) is a Daddy's boy. While Otis (usually timid) is a Momma's boy. But when Bugsy occassionally wants to get cuddles from me, Otis comes running and pushes Bugsy out of the way. Oddly Bugsy will defer to Otis, like he knows that Otis gets mom first.
Anyways the way we deal with it is, I wait until Otis is napping and then I give Bugsy the cuddle time he wants with mom. My husband does the same when Bugsy is napping or preoccupied.
If you can't do it while one is asleep, try to divide your time between the two of them. So while you're playing with Reece, your guy can be playing with Buddy. Just be sure to switch off frequently so they both know you love them equally.
By the way, my boys have play fights that turn nasty all the time. It always starts out with a loving mutual cleaning session and then somebody swats somebody else and it becomes an all out wrestling session. We actually find it quite amusing and we count off the seconds to see how it takes for the fight to start. Top time is 45 seconds.
I only stop them when one of them starts hissing, that's when I yell something like, "hey, don't use that kind of language in my house or somebody's gonna get grounded!" I consider it practice for having kids in the future.
Don't worry about the fighting its natural. I know my boys really love each other deep down, because when one is sick the other one totally lays off and gives him space to get extra cuddles and love.
2006-09-28 12:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by copygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right it is the tone of the voice so when it is Reece time for petting just pick her up and start petting her and talking to her and show who is boss and then put her down and pick up Buddy and play and pat him and soon the two will be able to get along better
thank you
2006-09-28 11:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by cooks delight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you call for Reece and Buddy comes let him know Reece is would you want and his turn is next talk to him cat are very smart . good luck
2006-09-28 11:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by jlwsweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to show that you are boss see the male cat thinks that you are a follower and he is the leader you need to let him know that he cant have his way all of the time. pay attention to the female even if the male is right up in your face.cats are like dogs their feelings aren't going to get hurt cause they live for the moment they aren't like us. if you do this then every thing will be OK but it cant be accomplished over night you have to work on it continuously
2006-09-28 11:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by ns4205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋