How Do You Let Go Of Anger?

Answer 1

I pray for the person, I pray for them exactly what I want for myself. I continue to pray this prayer whenever the thought of the person pops up in my mind---I pray for the person exactly what I want for myself.

This is commonly referred to as the Resentment Prayer.

Yes it takes considerable effort to pray for a person who may have wronged you and to pray more than a simple: "god bless 'em" - but, a sincere prayer, for example if there were a person come to my mind, and I knew that if I coninued to dwell on this person - I would lose my peace of mind, then I would pray for them:

God bless so and so
I pray they are: happy
healthy
safe
secure
sober
prosperous
and doing your will

These are all things I desire for myself, that is how I let go of anger. Do I all ways engage in this prayer? No, it seems at times I prefer to wallow around in the emotion of anger, hatred or resentment .

God Bless You and Thank You

Answer 2

Anger can eat away at you , especially if the issues remain unresolved. One strategy can be to "count to ten" while taking a time out, preferably through some exercise or other positive diversion. The most important thing is to deal with it in a rational way and attempt to achieve resolution by being assertive rather than aggressive. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

First, you decide if you WANT to be angry or not. If you want to be angry give yourself that time to figure out why you feel that intense feeling. It is very important that you do not lash out at anyone during this time because guilt and regret can become toxic if you hurt someone unintentionally. Know that anger is yours to control and decide for yourself if the anger is hurting you or motivatinig you towards good. Be angry, but don't act out ANGRILY. You will know when it has served its purpose and when to let it subside into forgiveness or acceptance. In the meantime keep your anger isolated to the root cause of it. In other words, don't forget to laugh and do things you love to do. This is my personal method i've learned after being a very angry child and teenager. Now at 30, people don't think I ever get angry, but when I do I just say "such and such makes me angry." I figure out why and then I keep it movin'.

Answer 4

When I'm angry or frustrated i find the time to exercise. Honestly a 3 mile run works everytime. I just run and cry or talk to myself until I can reason things out. Its weird but it works! Counting to 10 never worked for me I would have to count to a million! LOLL Also one thing that sometimes works is i just plant a smile on my face and eventually the anger goes away. It works try it!

Answer 5

Forgive the other person. If you don't do forgive, you let the other person live inside your head without paying you any rent.

Sometimes it happens quickly, and sometimes it takes a long time. Somethings are never forgiven, we just wear ourselves out with the anger until it leaves us.

Answer 6

Sometimes letting go of anger can take time. Or try reading the bible or anything positive. Also not talking with who ever your angry with if it is a person. Giving yourself and that person time to clear their head. When you finally talk with that person tell he/she exactly how you fell no holds bar.

Answer 7

Give Up Your Angry Behavior

If you are the least bit annoyed, do nothing. Exercise is the best way to get rid of "anger chemicals," or just walk away and wait till you chill.

Before you open your mouth, stop and think about how and what you will say.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Calmly.

Never, ever raise your voice.

If your partner thinks your voice is too loud, it is too loud. It doesn't matter if you don't agree.

If you are too emotional to control yourself, see an MD for a medication evaluation. Inability to control emotions is often a real physical disorder that can be helped!

Give up drinking. Alcohol use is associated with anger and violence.

Never, ever hit, punch, tap or push your partner or any object.

Never, ever walk away from, walk ahead of, roll your eyes, yawn, breath hard, sigh, frown, or make any other unnecessary behavioral expressions of anger towards your partner.

Make eye contact when addressing your partner or replying to them.

Acts of omission are no less angry than acts of commission.

Your criticism is not "constructive."

Do not make threats.

Everything you think, do, like, dislike, wear, eat, etc., is your responsibility. Own it.

Nobody makes you angry. You do that to yourself. That is why only you can stop it.

Remember all these things when you are angry.


Control Yourself, Not Your Partner

It is OK to disagree with your partner.

Respect your partner's position when you disagree. Especially if you disagree.

When your partner asks a question, answer the question.

If you hurt your partner, apologize. (Apologize because something you did hurt their feelings, not because you did something "wrong.")

You tell someone about your own feelings; ask about theirs.

You decide things only for yourself. For others you may suggest...once or twice. Only.

When your partner tells you something you don't like, don't tell them why they are wrong or don't feel the way they say they do.

Listen to what they have said.

Ask questions to clarify your understanding of their position, but do not add your input no matter how much you want to, or "know" it is the right thing.

Don't assume you know what's on your partner's mind. Ask. Then listen.

Accept whatever answer you get; you have no other (sane) choice.

If your partner asks for something, give it if you reasonably can.

Hear your partner's requests. You are not the judge of whether the request was "important."

Do not impose anything unwanted on your partner, even "good" things.

Do not "count" deeds or things your partner did not ask for and then expect things in return.

Your partner's feelings are the most important thing in the world!

You can only tell someone about your own feelings; ask about theirs.

If your partner does not think a "joke" is funny, it is not.

If one of you wants to do something (together), and the other doesn't, the two of you don't do it.

Don't expect people to read your mind. They can't. Ask for what you want

Accept what you get or don't get.

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings.

Don't do anything with these feelings (including judge, shame yourself, kick yourself, pretend you don't have them, etc.). Just notice them.

Articulate the thoughts, especially if something bothers you; write it down on paper so you can see it in black and white. Do this for you.

If something hurts, let it hurt. Feel the pain, but don't dwell on it.

There is nothing to prove to anybody.

Other people can and will think what they want. Accept that.

It is not your responsibility to take care of another adult; that belongs to them.

Do not accuse your partner of being "selfish." It is their job to be self-caring.

Your partner is not "too sensitive." There is no such thing. Sensitivity is a trait you need to cultivate.

If you remember only one thing: the keyword is respect. Respect your partner. Respect yourself.

Answer 8

1= Find one Muslim
2= Punch / kick / set alight..walk away
3= Be happy that you may have just stopped another bombing.!
4= Relax..... with a nice cup of Tea.
5= Fell the power....
6= Nuff said....Job done .... No Anger.

Answer 9

i get my mind off of it by cleaning up something. the work and the struggle to get sometning done is a pressure release valve for me.

Answer 10

i will punch my pillow or something