with my new boyfriend. My Ex-Husband is mad about this, but there is really nothing he can do about it. I divorced him because he was boring and I was getting tired of him. Do you think that this is wrong that I use the Child Support Check to have fun. ( I have a good job so I can support my daughter)
2006-09-28 04:03:55 · 56 answers · asked by Cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's wrong is you're using it as a weapon to hurt him... Maybe you're not quite over him yet?? I doubt that you're signing his check directly over to your travel agent so you could just as easily be using his check to help support your child while your job is paying for your shopping and trips...
Same money spent on same things...
2006-09-28 04:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What can I say? After reading through all the answers other nice folks wrote down, I think it's pretty obvious what you gotta do.
You divorced him for your own reasons. Now you're having fun. Thats great. Using the child support money to have fun. If this doesn't bug you then carry on using this money and have fun. One day it will come back to you in the form of your child, all grown up. It may cause unnecessary bullcrap in the future.
Sweety if you have a good job to support your lovely daughter, then how about this: Tell your ex hubby you don't need the child support anymore. That way he won't have any right to even talk to you about your personal life, and ur bf, and you will have the upper hand, with a clean conscience. With a clear head, you'll be able to enjoy your life even more. Great sex, lovely daughter, what more can you want in life?
Now go do what you think is right. You're taking ppl's opinions but in the end you will make the decision. So just do it.
A friend
2006-09-28 04:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that "Child Support" should cover what the check is for. This isn't your money: this is the money he is providing for the care of his child. For you to spend it like your money is wrong.
Now, that said, it can be a simple matter of re-allocating funds: if he's paying for all the groceries, the rent, the electricity, the water, the sewar, the garbage, the car payment, etc, then you're left with a whole pay check you can do whatever you want with. And all of those things are support for your child. In the end, you have the same amount of money for fun, it's just comming from a different source. And really, once the money goes into your bank account, there's no way to track which nickle goes for this and which goes for that: I'm sure the check doesn't cover all your household expenses, so if he complains just show him the things that are supporting your child and say those are the things he's paying for, not the vacations.
2006-09-28 04:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are your for real? Yes, this is wrong. If you have enough money to support your child, then you can pay for your own trips. The money from the ex should be going into a college fund for your daughter. Grow up and stop being selfish.
2006-09-28 04:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Agaricales 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that you spend his child support $ on shopping & trips for you, & that you work & support your daughter. How is that really any different than if you spent the child support $ on your daughter & the $ from your job on shopping & trips ? As long as you are working, Isn't it really the same thing ? Sound to me like it all comes out in the wash.
2006-09-28 04:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since the money is not supporting the child, and you are, I guess the check should be called "Having fun on your Expense" I think the money should be put back for your daughters education, or saved for something she may want in the future. Besides that, I would of never told him!
2006-09-28 04:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your child is well-fed and cared for, nice home, etc there is no way that youre spending his support money on you.
Let me put it another way.... put his checks into a seperate account. Use that money for ONLY bills, food, clothes for child(ren), etc. Then spend your own money on the shopping trips for you and the expensive trips.... the money from the child support is only paying a portion of the support (as it is meant to) if you spend the child support checks on yourself the support of your child is still coming from your own money so it all comes out even in the end.
Just make sure youre meeting your child's emotional and psychological needs as well as her physical.... sounds like youre putting a little too much emphasis on you and not enough on her.
2006-09-28 04:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a your daughter is taking care of it doesn't matter.
If you want to make him feel better, deposit the child support check and use your own money to go on expensive shopping trips with your new man. I mean really, the money goes in the same pot. How can it be seperated?? He's jealous.
2006-09-28 04:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by NoPeace4Me 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to your question.
The child support check is not for you to spend but for your child. Whether or not you can support your child or not is not an issue. The thing here is the money was given to you in trust for your child. You hold a great trust. And that involves the life of your child.
Instead you destroyed that trust. For what? For a boyfriend who for all you know might only be interested in your money.
Tsk. tsk. Poor child.
2006-09-28 04:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by ethereal_beauty06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me that is just worng. sorry because that money is intended to go toward that childs needs cloths food etc. not for you . and or start putting some away in a checking and saving account so one day when she's old enough she can have some money of her own to learn responsiblity to save and spend money wisely. and for her future. or if some day your not there she has a fund to fall back on. doesnt matter if you make enough it's like stealing from your own kid.
be happy your childs dad is paying most aren't forutant enough to get a dime.
just hope in the end you don't get caught or the IRS comes after you for some reason and ask to explain and show proof you didn't spend that money on you or other stuff other then the will being of that childs needs first.
your the adult parent . your needs are last. hope your putting hers first.
but not tring ot make you mad but that is my own opinion form someone who wishes they had there own child but can't
in this day and age too many parents expect there ex's to pay the child support but don't spend a dime of it on there kids that isn't the reason for it.
Just becareful so no one reports you for abusing the funds other wise.
2006-09-28 04:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are a horrible person TWO TIMES! Divorce because of boredom? Then you take the child support money and spend it on other things than your daughter??? I can't believe this. My mom practically had to beg for her child support check every month when I was a kid, and she spent it all on me, and your doing this? I suggest going to a therapist or something, you are horrible.
2006-09-28 04:07:10 · answer #11 · answered by Ryan G 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋