my bf asked me to marry him and i want to but i wanted to finish college first. what do you think i should do
2006-09-28 03:49:10 · 37 answers · asked by cindy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my bf asked me to marry him to and i said yes, we already set a date and will being preparing in 2007. i will still be in college and so will he, but we spoke about our plans and we decided that just because we are getting married doesn't mean that our goals have to disappear. we love each other and that is a choice that we decided to make...... so u and ur bf should have a long serious talk and let ur feelings for each other answer ur question.
2006-09-28 06:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Desire 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
College and marriage can work just fine together - I'm still in school and have been married for over a year, but you shouldn't get married until you are in the right place to do so. If you feel you should finish school first then you should and if he really loves you then waiting until you're done shouldn't be a problem at all!
2006-09-28 04:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Blair T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to finish college first then do it! You have your whole life ahead of you. Why rush it. If he loves you (which I don't doubt it if he proposed to you) then he will wait and he will understand. Just tell him that you do want to marry him but that your schooling is very important to you and that you would really like to finish that and then get married. Then your senior year start planning for that wedding. Also, this way you won't have babies (unless you already lives together or practice for babies) but still keep your morals. The first part of a relationship should be communication!!! Good luck to you! I wish you both the best!
2006-09-28 06:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people handle marriage and college. The question is can you (or do you want to)? How long do you have left to graduate. How demanding is your major/your classes. Are you also working full or part time. How much distraction will planning the wedding be? Do you want to have kids soon after you are married or do you want to wait? There is nothing wrong with a longer engagement.
2006-09-28 03:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still plan a wedding, but first finish or be almost complete to the satisfactory level in college you desire to be at.
My fiance asked me and we decided to wait another year and half. I am getting my A.S this semester and want to further my study to the field of Doctrine down the road. He is for my education and loves the fact I stick with it. Just make sure he is supportive of your schooling.
A person can juggle marriage and schooling. Just have to switch around some scheduling. There is always time for at least one class of 4 to 5 units worth, which will keep you in enrollment with the college as well.
2006-09-28 20:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had always wanted to finish college before getting married. However, when I met the man who became my husband, I was still in college with at least a couple years to go. But we wanted to be together as soon as possible, so we got married. Now we are both going to school and it really doesn't change much. But each couple is different, so evaluate your lifestyles and consider each possibility, and then make your choice.
2006-09-28 14:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to marry him, accept....but don't get married until you've graduated. You can be engaged for as long as you want.
Don't get married until you're ready. It won't be fair to either of you.
Yes, it is possible to handle both...my friend just got married and they're both still in college and they're very happy. My fiance and I lived together for the last 2 years of college and it was great. But it's definitely not for everyone. It's very commendable to have your education be your priority at this point. It will benefit you both in the future. Do what feels right to you.
2006-09-28 07:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can handle it if you know where your responsibilities lie and so does he.
I would suggest waiting only because college is a whole new world and you may want to experience things that you cannot do as a married couple. Is he going to college? If not he may just be wanting to keep you with him.
I am married, have 3 kids and am getting ready to graduate and go to graduate school. It's rough and I don't suggest having kids until you are through school.
2006-09-28 03:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can do both... are you ready to juggle between the two? Both are big responsibilities. Think it over. But if I were you, I would rather finish school first. I cannot imagine starting a family when I'm not yet finished studying... and I would want some earnings from my job too!
2006-10-01 20:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by francheska888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is right for you. I would think that you would have to take into consideration the economics involved, but if it is a good match up between you two, then being married (together) should make things better, not worse. From the sound of your question, It sounds more like you feel like you'd be taking on additional responsibilities. If you are a great match, then he will wait, & it will be worth the wait.
2006-09-28 03:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to finish college before you get married. Go ahead and be engaged--you do love him, after all, and do want to marry him--but wait until school is done if that is what you want to do. I'm in college--a junior--and my fiance and I are waiting almost 2 years to wed so I can finish undergrad. It's tough, but definitely doable!
2006-09-28 11:40:16 · answer #11 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋