Ok,
I am homeschooled first of all. That's why I'm here at this time. Ok, me and my dad are going for a haircut today and I want to ask him about sex. I know what it is and all but he doesn't know and I wanna ask him. How do I approach it. What is a exact question I should ask, how should we get on the subject? He doesn't know that I know what sex is, so it can't involve what is sex. I am 13 and a male. Yes I have a mom, she is getting a haircut with my two brothers next week, cause 5 is to many at a time. PLEASE HELP!!! I don't feel comfertable asking my mom so I wanna ask my dad. HELP!!!! HOW DO I APPROACH IT AND ALL!!!
2006-09-28 03:40:00 · 21 answers · asked by Jesus Freak!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-09-28 03:48:24 · update #1
Your dad is a person too, just talk to him. In the car on the way, say "Hey, dad. I was thinking about some stuff and I want to talk it over with you." It's perfectly normal at your age to be curious about sex, and I think it's awesome that you want to get the straight-scoop from your dad rather than listen to the garbage your friends! When dad is paying attention, just tell him that you heard some stuff from your friends about sex, and you don't know if it's right or not. And let it go from there, I'm sure your dad will be as embarrassed as you are but you can't let stop you from talking to him.
2006-09-28 03:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like what Cyberbrat_9 said, but I have to say that by the time I was 13 I knew more about sex then my parents ever did. i could still teach them a thing or two about it.
I have 2 children of my own now and I try to keep an open channel of communication with them both. But I'm sure they will find out about sex from friends long before they ask me.
Try to stay casual. If you freak, he will too. Keep things general, don't get too specific or it gets very personal. Stay calm, all of this is natural even if it seems a little weird at first.
2006-09-28 10:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are books out there that can help answer any questions that you may have regarding sex. Books that I let my son read where Girls and sex, and Boys and sex. They are Wardell B. Pomeroy, Ph. D. They answer many questions that parents are not comfortable talking about. Maybe you could ask your local libranian if they carry it and then ask your parents if you can check it out. Or see if you can find it on the interent at a book store somewhere and then ask your parents if you can get it. Then, they would get the hint that you are wanting to find out some answers and maybe that can help open up some discussions as well. Below is a site where I found the author and his isbn numbers for the books. Boys and Sex (New York: Delacorte, 1968) ISBN 0-385-30250-9
Girls and Sex (New York: Delacorte, 1970) ISBN 0-385-30251-7
I hope this can help you out some.
2006-09-28 14:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by your friend 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 13 he should've had this talk with you without you having to approach him. I'd say "hey dad, when ya gonna tell me about sex?" Or if that's too blunt.... maybe "Ya know dad, ______ talks about sex all the time and I don't understand why." That should atleast get him on the subject. I sat down with my son at 11 and had that conversation. It's not an easy thing for parents to do so try to be gentle. LOL Good luck, and shouldn't you be in school today?
2006-09-28 10:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can start by saying Dad, there's something I want to talk to you about and then go from there. At your age its way past due for you to have had the talk. And if for some reason your day needs some time......then suggest that you can continue conversation when mom takes the other siblings for haircuts. That might give you all a little more time to discuss. If he hasn't brought it up, you just need to just point blank ask. Good luck.
2006-09-28 10:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casually say dad I have a few questions about you regarding sex (if he starts to freak out remind him u haven't had sex yet ur just asking) then proceede to ask him your questions...if you can tell he's struggling say something like oh well I can see this is hard for you maybe we can go to the library together and find some books on the subject that will answer my questions
2006-09-28 10:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are 13, your dad knows you know what sex is --- I can assure you on that one. No one gets to 13 not knowing ANYTHING. Just say "look dad, it's time for me to learn some things and I think it would be more appropriate and intelligent to speak to you about this than to my friends as I want the real truth."
2006-09-28 10:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a father - I have girls, so it would be really difficult for me - I'd probably just lock them in a closet until they were 30...but seriously.
He's your old man. I don't know him, and most people are different, but level with him. You're 13 - it's that time! He probably knows it, being a father himself - I mean, how do you think you got here?
Just casually bring it up. Just tell him - "Dad, I've got something that I need to talk to you about. It's a bit embarrassing to me, but I want to get the facts on it from someone I trust, rather than from a bunch of other guys that don't really know anything. I want to talk to you about sex. Can you talk to me about that?" Let him know that you know "enough", but you're smart enough and concerned enough to get the facts straight - and you want to hear it from your Dad.
He'll realize this is the talk he's been dreading his entire, fatherly life, but he'll talk to you.
It's serious. If he talks to you seriously about it, you'll be armed and able to make decisions on your own in the future!
Good luck!
2006-09-28 10:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by gatesfam@swbell.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all..you would say my Dad and I are getting a haircut. Just ask him...what do you have to loose? He will probably, feel proud that you feel you can talk to him about sex. Trust me he has to know you know something about sex...you are 13.
2006-09-28 10:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be ok sweetie...Just say that you have to ask him something.I would just say that you're curious about it. Ask him in the car either on the way there or back home. It's perfectly normal for someone your age to be curious, and I'm sure your dad has been expecting this conversation to come for some time. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 10:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋