ok i feel bad, for even feeling hurt that they forgot, but this is second year in row my wife forgot.,
do you think it is selfish to want someone to wish you happy bday?
or do you think that we should be hurt or it is a day for us to celebrate?
2006-09-28 03:34:59 · 42 answers · asked by boominz28 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Happy Birthday boominz28! I would be really hurt. 2 years in a row that's pretty bad. I wouldn't forget your birthday. SQUEEZE there that was a birthday hug from me!
2006-09-28 03:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Happy Birthday! Yes, you have every right to feel hurt that your wife forgot your birthday. My whole family forgot mine last year! It may seem childess, but it's your birthday! So, believe me I know how you feel. I don't want a big deal made over my birthday, but I do want something....at least a birthday hug or something.
I wonder how your wife would feel if you forgot her birthday! My husband doesn't like a fuss over his birthday, but I still do something...I bake a cake, wish a Happy Birthday. No parties, but some acknowledgement that it's a special day. I am so sorry, and it's not selfish to want to be wished a happy bday!
So, here's a birthday wish for you.....I hope next your next birthday isn't forgotten or ignored that you have so many well wishes and presents till you are tried of saying THANK YOU!
Happy birthday, and God bless us all!
2006-09-28 03:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be upset. I know I would be. I think family is most important in life, especially the immediate family. My husband, sister, and I talk about the upcoming birthdays as much as a week in advance and try and plan something (like going out for dinner). My parents (and in-laws) and even aunts also still give birthday cards and presents! I can't imagine not even being wished a happy birthday. It's saying that you're not on her mind (at least that's how it would feel to me). I'm not trying to make you feel worse, just that I understand how you feel-- especially a second year in a row! Talk to her and ask her how she would feel if no one acknowledged her birthday.
2006-09-28 03:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah OK. just dealt with this, this past weekend. Only 4 ppl remembered mine, My fiance, my mom, grandma, and step sister. I was in the house with my father and step mother all weekend and no mention at all until like midnight Sun, that it was my bday the next day, and only then b/c my fiance gave me a rose with happy bday. I am used to it by now, but i never ceases to hurt my feelings that they forget, that my father thinks my bday is in October, yet remembers his other two daughters. Yes, I think you have every right to be hurt, no one wants to not be remembered. And, if it is a case of being to busy, write it on her calendar, maybe she has too much on her plate and doesn't mean to forget.
2006-09-28 04:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by bigdaddysdoll05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset if my family forgot my birthday. Since this is the second year in a row, I would simply forget about hers and not do anything special, no gifts, nothing. As far as your concerned, birthdays are just another day of the week....I wonder what she'd do/say?
2006-09-28 03:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned long ago that you just drop a reminder a few weeks in advance....You could ask your wife if she'd like to celebrate with you ON your birthday day OR on the following weekend....You can post a sign that says "15 More Shopping Days until My Birthday!"....True, they should remember on their own, but life gets in the way sometimes!
2006-09-28 03:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt even if other people say not to be. A birthday is a important day and should be celebrated with family and friends.
2006-09-28 03:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little upset and surprised if that happen to me but some people do not care about celebrating birthdays but I do care about it as a celebration of life that God bless me with another year to get things right with Him and to help others to get to know Him and His son Jesus Christ
2006-09-28 03:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by valgal115 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on how previous he's...adult adult males are notorious for no longer remembering issues, somewhat dates. it really is only been a month, so see the way it is going. aspect out to him what you probably did on your birthday, and be conscious how he reacts. If he acts like "Oh my g-d, i will't trust I forgot"...then you actually can chalk it as a lot as him only being a guy...if he nevertheless would not say something, then you actually can likely wager he somewhat would not care. do not get annoyed...maximum adult adult males in this international, do no longer 100% pay interest to a lady at the same time as they talk. they conflict to get the significant theory of the communication...yet adult adult males's minds wander...somewhat if there are issues occurring round him. it really is only how we are.
2016-11-25 00:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this: "Today is my birthday. When you don't acknowledge my birthday, even by just saying 'Happy Birthday' it makes me feel like I don't matter to you as a person. I'd like to talk to you about why it is that you don't recognize my birthday. I know you're not usual forgetful, so I'm assuming there must be a reason you're not recognizing this as a special day.
In my family, we celebrated birthdays by (list what you grew up with - cake, special dinner, presents, whatever.) How were birthdays recognized in your family? I'd like for us to understand each others expectations so we don't make each other uncomfortable on our birthdays."
After the conversation, decide what it is that YOU want for your birthday. Then make it happen. "What I'd really like for my birthday, would be for us to go out to dinner. I'd like to plan to go to Geno's tonight at about 7pm. Does that work for you?" or: "What I'd really like for my birthday is a new golf club I saw at the pro shop, so I'm going to purchase that for myself as a gift."
If no one around you will make your day special, then you do it for yourself. It's possible that she grew up in a family where, once you were an adult, your birthday was not a big deal. It's entirely possible that when you give her a gift for HER birthday, it makes her feel weird... but you guys need to talk about it, know each other's comfort zone and expectations, and that way you can know what to expect and what to do for the other person to make their day special the way they want it to be.
It is not selfish to want someone to wish you a happy birthday. It is, however, not wise to allow yourself to be hurt by someone who may have no ill intent at all. Misunderstanding is the biggest reason for hurt in a marriage relationship. I don't know how long you've been married, but let's assume she's not a mindreader :)
It's REALLY okay and healthy to say "I enjoy celebrating my birthday... so I'd like to do something special to recognize the day."
2006-09-28 03:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋