My BF and I rarely have normal sex, like he always wants handjobs, or whacking off on my butt or chest, and things like that. I had to go buy a vibrator just because I miss having real sex. He says vibrators intimidate him and he gets mad because I use them. I have always had a hard time reaching orgasm and he tells me he has given up trying, so what am I suppose to do?
2006-09-28 03:22:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you've given up trying to teach him how to be a real man and you're movin on. such selfishness speaks volumes about his attitude toward you and your relationship with him. his behavior in the sack of degrading and denying you is his sadistic way of controlling you. i would guess that it's that way in other aspects of your relationship as well. he's not gonna change, he'll just become more of the same. life's too short and sex can be too good to waste it on this guy, sister.
2006-09-28 04:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump this guy yesterday. First off a guy being intimidated by a vibrator is something I just cant understand. But he doesn't want you to use it, he wont give you regular sex and he doesn't care if you ever c*m. What is the point of even having this guy around ?? He is totally selfish.
2006-09-28 10:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well find a way you can get an orgasim with him. Tell him if he isnt willling ti plz you then you will always use the vibrater beacuse you wanna have a good time too. He is being greedy. Why should he be the only one getting an orgasim. I hate it when men do this i mean i work untill my girlfriend has an orgy even if it takes a while even if i *** before she does
2006-09-28 10:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by unkown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off....whacking off on your butt or chest is not perverted. It's dirty! It's a good dirty! That should turn you on. You must not like dirty sex, so you probably need to find someone that's more like you. But on the other hand, you need to talk to your man about having sex with you and not on you.
2006-09-28 10:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise words from sneaky. Sex is just as much about what you want as what he wants. Try watching a porno that has that stuff while you have sex. Or just tell him to do what you want for a change.
2006-09-28 10:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no! thats bad:( asure him that he is a rock star lover when he wants to be. guide him into positoions that could make you come.. once he sees that he can make you come by love making he'll want to do it more and more... as for the toy... let him try to use it on you.. show him how you like it... i feel most women that dont come durning sex are afraid to show their man how to do things that work for them..
good luck
2006-09-28 10:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by JUSTIN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm, if he isn't willing to compromise on th whole sex issue, move on because it's gonna get worse. Oh yeah, and there's nothing perverted about hand jobs, or masturbation.
2006-09-28 10:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous poster that there's nothing perverted about what he's doing, but he clearly doesn't care about your sexual needs. I'd talk to him, and if he doesn't become more interested in satisfying you, I'd dump him.
2006-09-28 10:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Toga748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK SWEETIE .............. I THINK YOU NEED TO SPICE UP A BIT IN THE ROOM . AND WELL MY BF SOMETIMES DOES THE SAME AND WELL I REALLY ENJOY IT JUST MAKE IT ENJOYABLE BUT IF YOU WAN TTO HAVE REALL SEXX WELL THEN SPICE IT UP OK I HAVE TONS OF IDEAS JUST E-MAIL ME
GOOD LUCK IM HERE IF YOU NEED HELP
2006-09-28 10:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by lrl_gutierrez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. I'll stick you the regular way and get you off.
2006-09-28 10:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋