2006-09-28 03:19:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
no i don't think you should get an identical puppy. because if you do that, your children will never learn.
tell them gently and explian to them that is part of life and that will make them aware that life isn't always easy and they have to accept things such as death.doindg so will build their self esteem.
good luck
2006-09-28 03:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by marine riz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should tell your kids. They need to learn about death and you will be amazed how resilient they are. My dog died in front of my child and she was 4 & handled it very well. Then our pet fish of 5 years dies when she was 11 & she cried for like 10 minutes and they was over it. Kids are not like adults they do not hold on to the pain they work through it and move on. They will probably ask you for a new dog. That is a whole other matter. I personaly would not rush out & buy another animal.
2006-09-28 04:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And lie to your kids? Is that the kind of lesson you want to teach them that lying is okay? Death is part of life, and it needs to be acknowledged even if the kids probably won't understand it fully. Explain to them that the puppy got sick and died, so God took the puppy to heaven so it could be happy and well again in heaven with the angels. They probably won't understand, but you can move on without lying to the kids. In a few days, weeks, months or whenever ... you can get a new dog/puppy (shelters have tons of them for adoption).
2006-09-28 03:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is better to tell them that the puppy died. While you can't replace one pet with another because each is individual. You can get another one to help them with their grief.
Our beloved daschund died of lymphomic cancer at the age of 1 year. It was a rare thing to happen to a young pup. My children were devastated as was I. We resolved ourselves never to have another pet. The sadness and void weighed heavily upon the kids and their was a light in their eyes that seemed to have dimmed until....My husband came home with another daschund only this time a female and laughter came back into the home. The kids still talk about our former pet and smile at the memories but they have grown to love the new one. That was 2 years ago. Getting another pet filled the void that was left when the first one died.
2006-09-28 03:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You may find a dog that looks like the one that you had but dogs are like people in the respect that all of them have different personalities. Your children will be much better off knowing the truth and being able to grieve for the lost pet before introducing a new one that they may end up resenting because it's just not the same.
2006-09-28 04:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Chili_Pepper522 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the children! you may find that they will cope with it a lot better than you think, they need to learn to deal with it and as has been said before better a puppy than a relative.
Give the kids lots of hugs and let them come to you when they feel the need. The tears will not last long
2006-09-28 04:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by chelby666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to your kids, they will know the difference even if the new puppy looks the same.
When I was a kid, I went on vacation and left my step-father to look after my pets. He accidentally let my mouse out and it died, so he went and bought an identical mouse thinking I wouldn't notice. You'd think one mouse is just like another, right? But when I got back, I noticed that Phred was acting differently than he had before.
My step-father confessed to the switch when Phred had babies.....
2006-09-28 04:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by DaBasset - BYBs kill dogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT lie to your children. Sets a VERY dangerous precedent. Did you really think that would be a good idea? Much better to tell your children the truth, console them if they are sad, and then discuss the possibility of getting another dog.
but... how did the puppy die? Maybe you guys shouldn't have a dog?
2006-09-28 03:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is one of the hardest things to deal with as a child. Better a puppy then a relative. Dealing with my sadness of death from a puppy I think made me stronger for the day I had to hear my Grandparents died :(
2006-09-28 03:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids need to learn about death.. having a pet die is a good way for them to learn
also you need to explain why it died so you all can be better owners if and when you get another - did it die becuase it got out of the yard and was killed by a car?? this teaches that you need to make sure the dog is safely secure behind a fenced yard or dog run - not running loose
did it die because if illness? this teachs you need to vaccinate
did it die from being sick when you got it? this teachs you need to get a dog from a better source...
never get a dog that looks like your last one - it is unfair to the new dog to be picked soley on looks not personality, and its unfair for it to be constantly compared
plus its a lie to your kids.. you shouldnt lie to kids and then expect them to forgive you for it if they find out years later
NEVER NEVER get from a pet store or "free to good home" either get from a reputable breeder (never pay a cent if its not vaccianted) or SPCA - but firstly fix the problem as to why this one died so it doesnt happen again
2006-09-28 03:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not lie or try to protect your children about this. It is best to explain to the level of their understanding that their puppy has died. It really depends on their age what they will comprehend and how you should approach this.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/talk/death.html
This is a very difficult topic, but it is also a fact of life.
Sorry about your loss.
2006-09-28 03:30:38 · answer #11 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋