My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I am 26 years old and she is 25 years old. I can see she is the right one for me. We are madly in love with each other. When's the right time and the right age to marry someone?
2006-09-28 03:17:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The right time to marry someone is now if you are 26, do it now!
2006-09-28 11:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantastic question, but honestly, only you two can answer that. You have to make sure two important issue, one being ask your self why it is that you want to marry her, and what will that be like, and what can you do to make her a better person in life, in faith, and in her life outside of you or God. Another question would be, why do you want to get married in the 1st place. I have been married going on a year, and it is way different than dating, but it doesnt have to be. Love her more every single day, and make your life about her way before you. Dont look at what you should be getting out of every situation, look at what you and her, but more of all her. And when you do fight, just know that you are together because you arent a full person without her, and that you truly are a better person for being with her. And yes, have a finacial plan, who will handle the money, and how this will be done. Also look at if you want children, and how you will deal with it if you do or do not have them. If you are satisfied with the answer to all of this, then commit your life to her, you will never regret it, i promise.
2006-09-28 03:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by Hafeman 5000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your off to a good start! Your old enough --as for the right time---get things in order! Worst thing you could do is to marry if there are unresolved problems.(Have a decent job--finish school etc.........). Life throws at least a few loops at all of us,and your bound to have rough spots along the way---give yourselves the advantage of a smooth take-off.
A good mariage is a 50-50 deal,but rarely will things work that way. Something called life gets in there and sometimes you give 60%,sometimes you give 80%,sometimes your the one only carrying 10 or 20%--and there may be times when one or the other of has to carry the whole load. Its how it averages out that counts--so at least start off on an even footing.
2006-09-28 03:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by patlrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now! :o)
You have to wonder what might be keeping you from getting married. Are you ready financially? Are you set in your careers? Do you know you both love one another and can't live without one another? If the answer is "yes" to these questions then I say go for it now. Propose to her! Let her know that the last 4 years have been the best of your life and you are ready to start the rest of your life with her. You can have a long engagement... give yourselves some time if you want.
2006-09-28 03:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love and love that person, you're also best friends. It's important that you can be best friends since you'll be living together. Are you ready for those less attractive things: for example, when the other person is really sick and you have to take up all the responsibilities in the house and take care of your spouse, it can be taxing. When you wake up and the person isn't looking well groomed and has "dragon breath". Are you really ready for that?
Lastly, it's good to have time on your own after schooling/college is completed, to work in the workaday world. After a few years you'll find that many of your tastes change. That person may then still be a friend, but those feelings of love may also change.
2006-09-28 03:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Wanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know that you two are right for each other, you have open communication, not jealous as you feel secure in the relationship, honesty, never talk about your exs' or bring up past BS, financially secure (both have a job). Discuss problems as you will have differences. Don't try to change each other, improve on your qualities that attacted each other. Be open about your sexual wants and needs and be sensitive and understanding about differences. Share in responsibilites and find time for each other but don't neglect other friends in the process. Don't talk to your friends about specific items in your life as it is none of their business. If you want children make sure that you both agree that you do, how many and agree together how to bring up your child(ren). You can disagree on things that life brings you, respect those differences, see the why? behind them and don't tell each other that what you believe in are stupid! So if this helps you, let me know. There is so much too learn from each other as your relationship grows and your love for each other is never ending. Always remember what attracted you two in the beginning and enhance this. Too many couples forget this! Good luck and god bless in your decision!
2006-09-28 03:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by meleejoy2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man, I'm going to warn you now: WAIT TOO LONG AND SHE'LL BE GONE. You've been together for four years already, and I can chisel it in stone for you that she's already getting antsy/impatient. The decision about asking a woman to marry you should NEVER be based on anything other than the one most important question: Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Sounds to me like you have already answered that question, so my advice to you is to go buy her a nice diamond ring (READ: Make sure you get her a REAL diamond -- cubic zirconia absolutely will not cut it for an engagement ring), pick out a time and place, give her the ring, get down on one knee, and ask her to marry you.
2006-09-28 03:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are any doubts in your mind, then it is the wrong time. The right age and the right time are individual specific. For example, my parents married when they were 20 and 19. It was obviously the right time for them, as they have been married for 47 years. There would have been no way I would have been ready at that age. I married at 28 and it was perfect. It sounds like you and your girl may be at that ready point. Good luck and I hope you have a long happy life together!!
2006-09-28 03:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married if you both love each other. Make sure that you two get along well too. Remember you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Marriage is a time to grow together in wisdom and love. Be there for one another always and remember try not to change each other but rather grow together. If you love one another and like each other as well then i am throwing rice and good wishes your way..
2006-09-28 03:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age absolutly has NOTHING to do with it.
You need to be ready by having a steady job.
also you need to be mature enough to understand that those vows arent just said for "fun" They are meant to be taken seriously! "Till death do you part" Through sickness and health, this is FOREVER not until you get fat, or loose too much weight or until another pretty face comes in the picture.
You need to be mature enough to handle problems that you two with face on a daily basis. Marriage is a pact between two people that love and promise each other, care for and support each other also to be true to one another, Marriage is not easy nor is Love. But if you two feel qualified in these areas that I have mentioned, than marriage will be the most beautiful thing that you will ever go through. The bond between two people promising to be each other's partners and witnesses through life is DEEP and no one will ever know or understand like your spouse!! Good Luck in making your decision and know that If you allow God in your marriage there wont be anything that will come between the both of you,
2006-09-28 05:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by Social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋