my boyfren claims to love me and i believe him, but he does tell me loads of white lies and sometimes i get upset??? im afraid that he doesnt care and i has serious trust issues with him now! he first dumped me the day before valentines day but got back together a month later! he says that he only did it cause he loved me too much, and that he was scared to love me?? im just confused?!?
2006-09-28 02:55:48 · 25 answers · asked by red-poka-dot-joe-bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy is full with motives and i dunno what his motives are...I think you should be careful of this kin dof guy..If he still lies to you..dump him! that's the best way =)
2006-09-28 02:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, and Yes! If he can lie to you about anything then he can lie about loving you and I believe he is. Trust in a relationship is the biggest part and if it's not there, then you can't get it back, trust me I have tried. There is no such thing as loving you too much it is just his way of getting back in for the moment and telling you more lies! He is not scared to love you he is scared to loose you because you always take him back. Your not confussed you know in your heart what is right and what is wrong and you know this is wrong! Let him go and move on to something better, it will be hard at first but you will come to see that you made the right choice!
Good Luck!
Always Amy
2006-09-28 10:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately when the people we love lie to us it's really hard to get over it, whether they are small white lies or significantly huge lies. in my experience, they lie when they have their own issues such insecurity, inferiority, etc. to cover up the flaws they see in themselves. this makes them feel better and feel like they are perfect, if only they'd realise we don't need perfect, we love them for who they are.
the unfortunate thing here is that you'll always have trust issues, it's a matter of whether or not you can live with them and when the small lies become larger, what do you do then?
love is confusing, and remember it's always a risk we take, trust your instincts always... it will always steer you in the right direction! good luck my dear!
2006-09-28 10:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by asian chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him, because no matter what he lies about, its a lie, and I believe that he left you the day before Valentine's day because he didn't want to buy you anything or take you anywhere. Do yourself a favor and move on, you deserve so much better than that!
2006-09-28 09:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently it does happen. But dumping you before valentines, and getting back w/ you a month later, sounds like the guy had a fling... I suggest just go by your instinct. In these cases, one should think logically, not w/ your emotions..
2006-09-28 09:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who lies is always a liar. Why do you think so many people get divorced? Once a liar, always a liar. And he dumped you a day before Valentines Day. Get rid of him and find someone worthy of you.
2006-09-28 09:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay its true but yo should tell them that if they really love you..tell you the truth rather its big or small. White lies turn to huge lies later on done the road
2006-09-28 10:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad when you think someone loves you and then they lie to you. I've been there. How major are his 'white lies'? Is he lying about where he's been/going. Do you suspect he is cheating? I think a lot of people use the word 'love' wrong and they don't mean it.
2006-09-28 09:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you go back to him? He was an ex for a reason. I guess it took a month for you to forget about the reason. Never go back go go forward. Talk is cheap and actions speak louder then words. Dump this loser and move on for bigger and better things to come.
2006-09-28 10:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved my wife but lied to her regularly when I was cheating on her ... I still do occasionally tell a white lie or two as well
How's that for honesty?
2006-09-28 09:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shd not trust any1 fully in ur life.... u never know any1 can decieve u.. it takes juz a second... im not askin u to cut off the relation & dont trust ur Bf at all... may b he likes u ,not love u& not shows u.the way he thinks. well dont know fully so juz make a bit gap...give him time to think of u .. dont go onto him.... analize him & then go to any decision.. BEST LUCK!
2006-09-28 10:18:50 · answer #11 · answered by ur frnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋