Any tips on how not to be so insecure wen socailising with friends????????

Answer 1

One thing I find works, is to ask people lots of questions about themselves. EVERYONE likes to talk about themself. It takes the pressure off you to be a great conversationalist!!

Answer 2

A lot of people are normally shy when they socialize with friends that they don't know everything about. It's also natural to feel insecure for a while, so don't worry. Just realize that they aren't thinking anything bad about you and they're your FRIENDS! If they didn't like you, they wouldn't hang out with you. Try finding more out about them, go places with them, try going with them one-on-one for a chance to get to know each one of them better, etc.

Answer 3

practice. it takes some time for us to work through certain feelings such as insecurities. you need to be comfortable with the feeling, accept it, even share it with your friends, they may have insecurities too!! and you'll bond with them. just don't avoid the situation that you feel unsecure in, unless it leads to a panic attack, or something to that degree.

Answer 4

Social anxiety is an experience of fear, apprehension or worry regarding social situations and being evaluated by others. People vary in how often they experience anxiety in this way or in which kinds of situations. Anxiety about public speaking, performance, or interviews is common.

Social anxiety disorder (SAD), also referred to clinically as social phobia, is a psychiatric anxiety disorder involving overwhelming anxiety and excessive self-consciousness in everyday social situations. People experiencing social anxiety often have a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and being embarrassed or humiliated by their own actions. Often the triggering social stimulus is a perceived or actual scrutiny by others. Their fear may be so severe that it significantly impairs their work, school, social life, and other activities. While many people experiencing social anxiety recognize that their fear of being around people may be excessive or unreasonable, they encounter considerable difficulty overcoming it. This differs from shyness, in that the person is functionally debilitated and avoids such anxiety provoking situations by all means. At the same time, a person with social anxiety may only feel the fear of the disorder during certain situations. For example, an actor or singer may feel fine on stage, but afraid of social situations in everyday life.

Social anxiety is often part of only a certain situation—such as a fear of speaking in formal or informal situations, or eating, or writing in front of others—or, in its most severe form, may be so broad that a person experiences symptoms almost anytime they are around other people. Many people have the specific fear of public speaking, called glossophobia. In this case, the fear is not actually of public speaking, but a fear of doing or saying something which may cause embarrassment. Approximately 13.3% of the general population will experience social phobia at some point in their lifetime; with the male to female ratio being 1.4:1.0, respectively. Physical symptoms often accompany social anxiety, and include blushing, profuse sweating, trembling, nausea, and stammering. Panic attacks may also occur under intense fear and discomfort. An early diagnosis helps in minimizing the symptoms and having other mental illnesses such as depression. Some sufferers also use alcohol or drugs to reduce fears and inhibitions at social events.

A person with the disorder may be treated with therapy, medication, or both. Research has shown cognitive behavior therapy, whether individually or in a group, to be effective in treating social phobics. The cognitive and behavioral components seek to change thinking patterns and physical reactions to anxious situations. This may be done through a technique called role playing. Prescribed medication consists of a class of antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Such treatment has a high response rate and low risk of dependency but has been criticized for its adverse side-effects and possible increase in suicide risk.

more : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder

If you have SAD you need to consult a clinical psychiatrist. He may prescribe you Paroxetine or another SSRI. A combination of Psychotherapy and pharmacological management give maximum benefit.

Answer 5

Be the looker instead of the looked at. It's a simple balancing trick.

Answer 6

Realize that they have the same insecure feelings that you do (and everybody does)...only they might be better at covering them up.

Answer 7

only trust the ones u know very much

Answer 8

embrace ur flaws and make fun of yourself. and then u feel loosened up. try more-selfesteem.com and communicationconfidence.com.

Answer 9

learn to like your self and,keep your had up

Answer 10

if they are really your friends, why would you be insecure?