am i a b*tch?

Question

I was really close to a guy online we have been friends for 2 years, we made plans to be together and had regular internet sex witch i know sounds sick but we were very close. I found out a few mths ago that he is married with a young child i didn't know about, this has really pissed me of because if i had known this i would never have gotten involved and wouldn't now have feelings for this man. So ive taken acton and put him on here http://dontdatehimgirl.com/search/cheate... he things im being unfair and wants it removed what do you all think? click the link if you want to see his pic and the profile!!

http://dontdatehimgirl.com/search/cheater.asp?ddh_id=28372

Answer 1

You rock, girl !!!
I will tell my friend to do the same ......

Answer 2

By definition, Yes.

Provided by wikipedia:
"The word ***** is often employed insultingly to describe a woman as malicious, spiteful, domineering, intrusive, unpleasant or sexually promiscuous. A ***** can also refer to somebody, usually a woman, who is mean or inconsiderate."

Now, put yourself in his shoes for just a second. He was probably talking to you because there is something he is missing from his homelife. It might be excitement, love, tenderness, change, etc - who knows. Ok, so with that said, you two found each and he slowly got a little something back to enjoy. So you should feel good that you were able to give him that.

Sometimes people get trapped in their lives, and they cant find the way out. Maybe this was the case with this guy, who knows.

Just understand that most likely he is looking for something he doesnt have now. If you were in his shoes, would you want to be publicly embarassed and degreaded because of this. Lets just say one day his wife/ or wifes friend is looking around and sees his picture. You have now just caused even more severe problems then he already has. Especially if he is trying to figure a way out, and now is thrown into a mess because of this. Would you like the same done to you?

Personally I think that site is horrible because it is a way for a woman to get back physically at a guy that hurt them emotionally. Sure it is under the guise that you are helping out your fellow woman, but really what do you owe someone you havent met? And, what if you meet your dream guy one day, and then your friend checks him out on this site, that would not make for a solid relationship because then you would be letting an outside influence effect you in this relationship. It doesnt matter what he did with someone else, just with you. You dont hear or see about any sites out there that geared for the emotionally distraught guys do you? And dont think, they arent out there because women havent been bad or hurt to men, becuase they have.

Nothing was ventured in this since you never met. Even if you did, still it wasnt like you were actually dating or boyfriend and girlfriend. Yes you gave up some feelings, but it was by your choice. I would take it down, and chaulk it up to a lesson learned. Dont let emotions rule your life.

Answer 3

how come I don't meet ppl like u? I always meet those females that live on a farm and are really fond of the city kid...not that there's anything wrong with that but come on already dude was married and u knew him for 2 years? as absurd as that's sounds seems like u didn't know him long enough and he was never gona come clean with u, just think why would he wanna end that? My question 2 u is...How did u find out?

Answer 4

The guy is a cheating dog and you are right to expose him.

Learn from this and know the man in person before you get involved. The Internet is full of perverts and cheaters.

Answer 5

I understand your hurt and anger and its hard on you but don't take revenage on him this way. In fact don't do anything, let him go he's not worth it. His wife would only find out if someone would tell her. This man needs counseling and why has he has gone astray its up to them to reconcile if there is any. I don't think he would be able to stay with his wife and continue to lie. What he did is wrong, but he had a choice. He lied to you and to her she is the innocent spouse and you the innocent other woman. Therefore no need to advertise his picture and profile. It makes you look jealous. Show him that you don't need him and you'll let him go he's not worth it!

Answer 6

It's a bit much just because you found out he's married ... most guys who like cyber sex are married and don't get any / enough at home!

So you're feeling a bit pi**ed and you have every right to be, but you went along with it - didn't you think he might have been married earlier in your friendship?

BTW I can't get to the link so maybe he's succeeded in getting it removed! lol

Answer 7

Woah- no you are NOT a b*tch-- you have been ROYALLY USED!!

This is why I no longer chat or have anything to do with people who I cannot meet within a month of first correspondence.

It is impossible to tell if someone is married or not.

It is a depressing lesson to learn, and I feel for you :(

Answer 8

lol --- thats funny.. and the website that you put it isnt complete so it doesnt work--anyway no ur not a *****. He played you out like you were stupid... and he needs to stop what he is doing, if he is so unhappy with his marriage that he is turning to internet s-e-x and love(nothing personal hun - no offence im sure ur nice) then he shouldnt be married at all, you know? just drop him ok? good luck hunni

Answer 9

Yes, you are a b*tch, aren't we all? He deserves whatever he gets, he was the one who was unfair! What a dog! By the way, the link worked fine for me, and thanx! for turning me on to a new site!

Answer 10

I think he should be exposed for the dog that he is. The internet fosters cheating behavior and people should be held accountable. I hope you learned a lesson too.

Answer 11

You should have just let it go. So your hurt, but it’s not your place to try and punish him. You never had a real relationship of any kind with this man. Move on and in time he will get what’s coming to him.