Here's the problem:I have a boyfriend, we are together almost a month(I know that's not enough), but the problem is something else.Before my bf I loved one guy but between us didn't happen anything.I loved him so much and I still love him and I can't get over him.I love my boyfriend very much, but the love is not like with this first guy.What can I do?The worst thing is that I see this guy every day, we learn at the same school and every time I see him he also looks at me(always looks at me).I want to forget him and just be alone with my boyfriend.I think I am not grateful at all,I wanted boyfriend so much, now I have it, but I still can't get this guy out of my head.I don't want to like him.Please help!And without bad comments please, I am already too sad :(
2006-09-28 02:15:35 · 22 answers · asked by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there done that. It never gets any easier. When you give your heart to someone it's hard to get it back. You never forget your first love. Maybe your second, third , 20th but never your first. Even after you move on they will still be with you. It sounds like you haven't moved on and that could cause problems. If you really want to be with your new beau then your gonna have to accept you might not ever lose the soft spot you have for your ex. Take it in stride and enjoy your second chance at love- not many get that. Your young and have your whole life ahead of you and at the top of it all, school should be the most important thing to you. You finish that and life, with all its goodies, will amazingly fall into place. You'll see. Be good.
2006-09-28 02:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Fuel632 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would blast you on this but you caught me on a trasitional period. So here you go. YOU have to decide who is worth loving more your current boyfriend or the Ex. Then account for WHY you aren't together NOW. Is it really worth losing what you have now. IF you truly love your current boyfriend you won't HURT him. You treat people as you yourself would want to be treated. No love is ever exactly the same. We are all different people so the love is different. You have just have to decide what you really want. If you want the EX out of your head. you have to avoid the guy at all cost till the thoughts just go away. It's rough but hey that's what love is all about...
2006-09-28 09:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by Will Gotham 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll say one thing: The grass is always greener. What a lot of women do is spend all their lives wondering about the man she can't have. In the cases I've seen where the woman has divorced and run off with the other man, the minute they're together the "specialness" wears off. No doubt you'd be pining for the guy you left behind.
2006-09-28 09:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Xenophonix 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't deny your feelings of true love, i don't mean to make things more difficult for you than it already is but if i felt as strong a feeling as you are now about this other guy i would most definitely follow my heart. he does still like you right? do you know if he loves you? if so then no doubt about it, you need to be with him, i know i would, otherwise you're not really being fair to yourself. I do wish you much happiness and the best of luck in your current situation. :-)
2006-09-28 09:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
swty..i really do understand ur situation...let me ask u somthing...wat was the need of a new boy frnd when its not even one month since u broke up with the old one..wat u r doing is not at all rite...if u continue being like this , u will never be able to find true love in life...plz stop being like this and try and get bac to the old guy if u feel like u love him so much ...u r rly not doing justice to the new guy and i rly feel sorry for him because u say that he loves u truly...swty...this is really unfair on ur part and god will never forgive u if u cheat sombody who loves u truly...so just spk with the new guy and make him understand ur situation and tell him that u r not ready for these things now...try and keep ur self away frm all this **** and concentrate on ur studies which wud really help u in the long run...as u start concentrating on somthing else u wud easily forget the old guy, but if it was a true love the scar wud still remain which cannot be erased...u need peace of mind now...so get rid of all this things for somtime which wud really do gud to u...hope my advice to u has helped..take care and all the best swty...again...its really unfair to lie to smobody who loves u truly...so watever decision u take, make sure that nobody is hurt..
2006-09-28 09:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by bryan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you don't miss the first guy...you miss what you thought you had with him. Since it didn't work out, you need to grieve for the lost expectations you had and the future you had imagined...not the guy himself. You put a lot of emotion into it and it might take a while to feel better. You will feel better soon and be able to say goodby and put your energy into your new boyfriend.
2006-09-28 09:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by D.D. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, why don't you try helping someone else out. Volunteer, do some work for the needy, study more and get better grades, don't give yourself so much time for self pity. No sympathy, and the new bf ought to get way far away, too.
2006-09-28 09:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that you should leave you rboyfriend alone it's not hos fault that you still have feelings for this other guy,,,, you would'nt like it if someone did that to you,,, you need to learn to give you rself time brfore going out with someone
2006-09-28 09:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your imagination to solve this problem.
Just imagine the first boy despice you, that way you will forget him, and it may well be true, you never know.
2006-09-28 09:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by chp 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not fair to keep a person on the string, if you don't really love him. Let him go, and pursue your other love.
2006-09-28 09:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋