I am an attractive guy and should have someone I find attractive by my side. Should I use lap dancers/go after other women to get women I want until she iproves herself and gets hot again?
2006-09-28 02:08:44 · 41 answers · asked by Joe C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You're silly.
But, this is one of the BIG disappointments in life.
Girls look awesome --- until they become moms. It's a tradeoff. Kids are great. Fat wives aren't nearly as attractive as they had been before they became moms.
2006-09-28 02:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by junglejoe 2 · 0⤊ 11⤋
Joe! This woman willingly gave up her figure to have a child that is supposed to be a testimony to the love you have for eachother. A womans body goes through so many things when shes pregnant. Her body is the life of that baby when shes pregnant. That baby takes what it needs with no regard for her. For example, my sister was pregnant with twins... prior to her pregnancy she never had a cavity in her life... However the demands of the growing babies took all the calcium they needed from her. After she gave birth she had eight cavities...through no fault of her own. It was the sacrifice she made for her children.
What I'm trying to say is this. According to your post, your wife JUST gave birth! You can't expect her to just "bounce" right back to her pre pregnancy weight in days. She put on the weight slowly, it has to come off slowly and above all she needs your support. She probably feels self conscious enough right now without you pointing out her figure. My guess is that you already pointed it out to her which is totally tacky! I don't know if you are capable of giving her the support she needs if you are talking about getting other women to tickle your fancy in the meantime. You say that you deserve to have someone attractive by your side. Well, your wife deserves to have someone attractive by her side too. Looks are not all there is to being attractive. You could have all the "good looks" in the world but if you are a cheat than you are less attractive than Jabba the Hut in my book. Ask your self how you would feel if you got your rocks off with a few lap dances and she left you. Are you ready for that? I suggest you sit down and put your priorities down on paper. Is a meaningful relationship something that you want as part of your future or are you just going to go for a superficial relationship with little deep meaning.
Just a little more food for thought. What are you going to do when your hair starts graying and the hairs in your nose and ears get longer? What are you going to do when your hair starts falling out? What are you going to do when your skin starts wrinkling? What are you going to do when you start needing the little blue pill? Who will have you then? Is cheating on your wife really worth losing her and potentially the relationship with your new baby?
2006-09-28 02:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were kidding until I saw you already asked this and got 34 answers.
Lets see, you want an honest answer??? Stress, lack of free time, and having to eat for 2 for 9 months would do it and keep her heavier. SHE IS THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILD. If you really loved her, her weight wouldn't matter.
If you wonder why celebrities can drop the weight and your wife can't: Personal trainers and NANNIES. IF your wife is upset about the weight, and not just YOU, hire here a personal trainer and a babysitter 5 days a week and she will be pre-baby weight in no time - if her metabolism allows it.
In the meantime, examine your self. You see men and women all have things to them that the opposite sex can find unattractive. For example, you probably have a 70% chance of losing your hair in the next 10 years. I'm sure you and your wife won't find it very attractive, but I bet we won't find a thread from her saying "Help, my husband is losing his hair and I can't stand to look at him"!!
The important question, "DO YOU LOVE HER"?? Because if you do, you shouldn't need to ask this question among strangers.
Good luck with everything and Congrats on your new baby.
2006-09-28 02:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by sandy81676 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i hope you're not serious... but anyway, it may take a few weeks for the swelling to go down in her face. the rest of her body will gradually go down, but remember that loose belly skin has been stretched out for a long time and it won't go down overnight. why don't you take over the cooking until she gets back in shape? this way you can make sure you're preparing healthy meals. also keep the baby while your wife goes to the gym every day. and if you think you need strippers and lap dancers, then you'd better start making appointments with your accountant and attorney, cause if i was your wife i'd take you for 75%
2006-09-28 02:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be more supportive to your wife. She gained the weight and now that she has had the baby help her to loose the weight instead of thinking about being with other women. Do you still love your wife? If yes, give her the support and love and she will take the weight off. Congratulations by the way!!!!!
2006-09-28 02:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a butt. You my be attractive on the outside, but you seem pretty ugly to me. She deserves better and so does that baby. How will you love that child if it isn't pretty and thin? You should get professional help! And for goodness sake, keep your hands off other women. Have you ever heard of AIDS? Or are you planning on bringing it home to your wife and perhaps "lovely baby"?
2006-09-28 02:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by mrslititia 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Would you want your wife to ditch you for someone else if you gained weight and lost some hair? She JUST had a baby--my God__YOUR child----and guess what? YOU helped that baby get here....she didn't do it all by herself. So why should she stay at home and take care of the baby while you seek out lapdancers??? How stupid and insensitive can you be? My gosh! Life is not all about sex and looks. Would you want your daughter to be treated that way? Would you want your son to treat his wife that way? Your dad to treat your Mom that way? I can almost guess--someone in your life thinks the same way you do right now. I feel sorry for your wife and child.
2006-09-28 02:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by lucy p 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife is thinking I just gave birth to my lovely baby but my husband is a freaking JERK! Geez, I hope you are not serious but if you are ~ you need a serious A** kicking! You should be looking at your wife now in amazement of what her body done for you ~ gave you a beautiful, healthy baby. Your wife will regain her shape back, I just hope you get a better attitude!
2006-09-28 02:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your wife is beautiful and your just to shallow to see it. She needs someone that really loves her for who she is not what she looks like....u cannot give her that right know so u need to just try to do the man thing and tell her what your really thinking and get it over with before u do her and your child anymore damage. your the one who needs to prove yourself to her. U have no values, no loyalty, and no real love for this woman...the wife and child are better off without u....u will do more harm than good...be a real man for once and tell her before u cheat on her.....I'm sure your the one who will be lonely in the end anyway...ode to the deadbeat husband and more than likely a future deadbeat dad u betray your wife u betray your child....
2006-09-28 02:52:47 · answer #9 · answered by coopchic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh brother is all I can say. I have a better idea, why don't you tell your wife to leave you and find someone better for herself. Then you'll be free to mess around with all the women you want.
2006-09-28 03:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try squeezing something the size of a watermelon out of an opening the size of a lemon & see how hot YOU look!! You should be greatful & in awe of her right now. She is an amazing person & has just proven that she can do something no man can ever accomplish.
2006-09-28 02:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by Rob & Rach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋