to support both of you. Would you get good paying job so you would be able to spend time together or would you just ignore it with the standard that a Male has to work more and make more to raise a family.
2006-09-28 02:07:05 · 12 answers · asked by Stevie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I had children to take care of at home then no, I wouldn't feel any guilt. If there were no children involved then yes I'd say I'd feel a little guilty and have to get a job that payed more.
2006-09-28 02:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by c3llar_door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, 40 hours a week isn't "busting one's hump" these days.
Listen, it's a societal given that the man is the breadwinner (not so much anymore these days because women insist on wanting some of that misery in exchange for a facade of equality - how silly). On the other hand, it is also a given that the woman should be the homemaker and child care provider. That IS her job. Kudos to the woman that can pull off both of those and still have a warm meal and a smile ready for her hard-working husband at the end of the day!
Honestly, I'd rather take 40 hours of the most rigorous work than trade places. Alas, it seems I am genetically predisposed to liking labor over nurturing. It is the nature of the beast. As a man, you must deal with it. :)
2006-09-28 09:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by English Master 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get a part time job 2-3 days a week...Like i have now but my fiance works 55 hours a week and he wants me to quit my job so we can have more time together because he works days and i work nights...
I think that the man should bring home 60-75 percent of the money..Because the women usually stays at home for a while while starting a family...And believe me that is a job in itself...
So Before you start a family people should make sure the man brings home most of the money..to pay for bills, Rent...Necessities
If the women is to work...Well this is how we do it..
I buy the groceries and gas..
But before deciding that she is going to give up her job for a while save some backup funds...
2006-09-28 09:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let's see...my husband works over 40 hours and so do i so we can afford to live where we do. we still have plenty of time to spend together and enjoy life
i don't believe that it is a man's job to support his family. it is both the man and woman's job to support the family. that doesn't just mean money though. you could always be a stay at home dad and she could be the one working 40 hours a week
2006-09-28 09:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these economically hard times few households are able to get by on one salary now. That aside---personally I could not stay home if I was able to work. I would want to help lighten his load .Everyone,and their circumstances are different ,but if working gave us more time together--more money to enjoy that time-raised the quality of our lives----I would be happy to do so. Seems it could only make a relationship better. He wouldn't be under as much stress,or as tired. You would feel good about yourself.
2006-09-28 09:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by patlrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't feel guilty. It's up to you to change this. Talk to him and tell him that you want to get a job so he doesn't have to work so hard. If that's what he wants to do is bust his butt to support the family then that's fine let him be.
2006-09-28 09:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in that double standard that men should work more and/or make more............I do believe that in order for a relationship to survive there has to be a BALANCE between work life and personal life. Much easier said.....than achieved. I know because I lived it with my ex spouse.
2006-09-28 09:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, we are set! If things get wacky and he has to start putting in a lot of overtime, just to make ends meet, then yes, absolutly, I will go back to work! All work and no play makes hubby grumpy and tired! And I wouldn't want him to tired to play!
2006-09-28 09:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by JETT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you have to assess what is important to you. Do you feel that you do not spend enough time with him? Do you want to spend more time with him? Do you want a job? If you feel that you are missing time with your husband then I think that you answered your own question.
If your relationship is important to you, then make it come first.
2006-09-28 09:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dr2B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better dump that gold digging *****.
2006-09-28 09:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋