my daughter is black and likes hanging out with white kids. The black kids always pick on her for that. What can I do to resovle this problem that is happening at school, without starting a BIG comotion that will have my only child the talk of the," middle school" she attends?
2006-09-28 01:16:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well Bonnie,
I guess other answerer's didn't understand that you weren't making a racial preference you just want to protect your daughter from being teased and out cast or even physically effected because of her acceptance of diversity at the hands of ignorant individuals. Here's the deal, as you know adolescence is something we all have to go through as a part of us becoming who we are. with that said I would have a talk with her to find out what her views are and if she tells me it effects her I would have a counselor speak with her, I would also request the principal and the primary students that tease to have a sit in with their parents to discus this matter to ensure her safety and security. Lastly, also take into consideration though that she will need thick skin in today's society, so I am sure she has developed and amount of immunity to this ignorance as well as the knowledge to let you or some other authoritative figure know when it's gone beyond her boundaries! Good Luck, it's sad that this type of behavior occurs in 2006 still!
2006-09-28 01:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Wow. That is tricky. My heart goes out to you because we want our kids to respect everybody, but in high school being part of your group is so important. You are right. You can't fight her battles for her and if you try to intervene too much it might only get worse. I think the best thing you can do is keep talking to your daughter about it. Help her and support her as she makes her choices as to how to respond to all of this. One thought for her: you can't always deal with several kids at once because they will go with the crowd, but try relating to one other black kid at a time. Let that other person see that you really are cool and they will be more likely to stand up for you in the group. I would only blow the whistle if the situation turned abusive or if your daughter is really getting depressed. She has chosen to walk between two cultures. That is not an easy thing to so. But it is the most mature choice she could make, so stand by her all that you can.
2006-09-28 08:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U.S.A I presume? Happens here aswell, I should think your Educational goverments department is aware of the problems there are, so many sad stories where, children just for one reason or another, cannot live & let live. We have a long way to go before attitudes change, maybe as a parent? you could test the water & start a community group up, to find out why there is so much hatred around ? & how best to deal with the issues it`s all to do with communication. Good Luck I don`t care what colour you are,you have as much right as the person next to you to hang out .
2006-09-28 08:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you daughter like to hang with white kids so what as long as you teacher your child to have high self esteem and to not worry what others think then she will be find she probably dont want to hang with the black kids because they act ignorant look how they treat her she dont want to be around no one like that. im black and i use to hang with some white kids when i was in school there is nothing wrong with that and if you actually look at the bigger picture we are all one color in the inside and that is red from blood although today generation dont see it that way
2006-09-28 08:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Race really doesnt matter and the only reason they are makin fun of her hangin with white kids is because they were raised to hate or dis like white people if u dont want ur daughter around them go to a all black school
2006-09-28 08:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by gurly_girl16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame - Bullying is not on...and when it starts to involve the colour of peoples skin ..Action has to be taken.. Afraid to say but Your family are going to have to bite the bullet and kick up F'uck at the School .. let the Headmaster know about it ..then maybe you could arrange for the whole school to be told that Bullying is a horrible thing to do .Good Luck..
2006-09-28 08:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, I think you're only making an issu out of it. So what if she's black and likes to hang out with white kids? Don't be a racist or try to judge yourself on the basis of the skin color. We're all the same in God's eyes.
2006-09-28 08:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Harry thePotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend Ossie is black, and while we were in high school people would pick on him. His parents never said anything to the school just told him that no matter who he hangs out with or who he is friends with, all that matters is that he had true friends who loved him for who he was, and not by the color of his skin.
2006-09-28 09:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by jodeegurl79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support her in her decisions.
It's great that she doesn't care about the color of her friends skin.
You shouldn't want her to change that about her.
If things get hard just listen to her feelings,be there to pick her up when she needs you.You should be very proud of your daughter.
I hope everything works out for the best for both you and your daughter.
2006-09-28 08:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a problem with it? Tell her that it is going to cause worse problems and if something happens at school then she should report it to an admistrator. kid has to fight her own battles as long as they dont get violent
2006-09-28 08:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋