whats the best way to get over this and start fresh,i only have one bro and i'd like to repair the damage!
2006-09-28 00:55:18 · 20 answers · asked by shimkel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you are already on the way to doing that, "I only have one bro and I'd like to repair the damage". I would say, clearly talkling things out between the two of you with the agreement that both are going to listen ONLY to eachother's side. That way you do start off with an understanding where you both stand.
ONE way to try and get on is to put yourself in your brother's shoes as well. SEE things from his side under his situations. What he has done or said, may not have been what you would have, but remember you are going to have to think like he does and understand that maybe he has some issues that are more difficult for him to deal with than yourself.
Good luck
2006-09-28 00:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by sheristeele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, what I would do is just take a long break from each other....like months. You need a fresh outlook on things. After you have been apart, you may gain some perspective. Afterward, get together and make sure you talk about what it was that was keeping you at odds. You have to get to the bottom of that and apologize even if he doesn't. Show him you can be the bigger man.
2006-09-28 01:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question above is a great place to start. Ideally, when you can push the pride away far enough go to your bro and ask the same question to him. Get the communication lines open, talk to him about why you feel this way and that you're ready to move onward and upward. Life is way too short to exclude family members.
Good luck . . .
2006-09-28 00:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to look at the big picture.Why are you at odds?Sometimes we don't get along with our siblings because they are to different from us or because they are too much like us.Sometimes it is because the parents put too much pressure on an older sibling to feel responsible for the younger.Sometimes it is because the younger is felt that they can't measure up to the older.What ever it is do what you can to accept and appreciate the differences or similarities in you and your brother.
2006-09-28 01:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by STACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent years ignoring my elder brother because of his various things and it's only recently we've begun to get on better. Write down why you resent him so much then try and talk to him about the issues. If he wants to get on better with you, sit down, adult to adult and start communicating. You have to be realistic though, that you might not always see eye to eye on things. As the old saying goes, you can choose your friends but not your family.
2006-09-28 01:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by feebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to bug him for money all the time.
Try not to get pissed off when he refuses to give you money.
Try not to get too smart with his girlfriends.
Try not to do things in the house which he dislikes when he is around.
Try to spare some beer for him and leave some food in the fridge for him.
Try to behave like younger brother and give him some respect for his words eventhough you might not agree with everything.
Try to smile at him whenever you see him...But make sure it doesnt annoy him.
Try to buy him something nice which he has wished but have got it. (It can even be small things like a DVD, music CD, etc)
Try to Remember his B'day and wish him.
2006-09-28 01:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by mapleleafydude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on the right track. Be the bigger person and apologize to him and never let anything or anyone come in between you and your brother again. No matter what you and him do, no matter who's in your life now, you and him had each other first. Cherish him and always take his side whether he's right or wrong.
2006-09-28 01:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too fell out with my brother when my Mum died 20 years ago. I have spoken to them since but the resentment is always there and I dont speak to them apart from family wedding etc every couple of years. They are strangers to me, you may have family but you dont have to be friends with them!
2006-09-28 01:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find out what caused de problem,then talk it over with him and try to mend fences with him.if he acts a bit hard to please,then try getting him his favourite snack or pizza,and i believe he's gonna come around.remeber he is ur only brother,don't allow resentment deprive u of ur brother,and don't 4get to pray about it cos God can make it a whole lot easier 4 u
2006-09-28 01:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by glory o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the exact same problem i think the best way to sort this out is to sit him down and tell him how you feel and you want to start over why dont go out with him and do something you both enjoy
2006-09-28 01:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by lalalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋