My fiancee and myself have a four (4) year age gap, though he is 19 and im 23, we are getting married next year is that bad? I think as long as your happy thats the main thing, would like to hear your views thanks
2006-09-28 00:26:18 · 64 answers · asked by the mrs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not bad at all - good luck to you!
I think once your over the age of 18 age differences really dont matter - (unless it's something like 30 years) you know when something feels right - age is just a number.
2006-09-28 00:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kerri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is not really a big age gap. Other than love, which is obviously the first thing you need, I think the most important thing is to make sure that you're both at the same stage in life and have similar plans for the future. This is not necessarily an age issue but something all couples should consider and is usually more relevant where you are at different stages in life age-wise. Eg if your fiancee is an immature 19 yo who just wants to party and have a good time and you are a mature 23 yo who wants to settle down and have a family, you're obviously going to have problems, in the short term at least. If you're headed in the same direction though, why not head there together.
2006-09-28 01:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi age gaps have nothing to do with it and it is perfectly ok. As long as you love each other then there is nothing wrong with it. Dont let anyone tell you you are going to be doing something wrong, Its you and you fiancee in the relationship no one else and its between you hand your partener what you do and age has nothing to do with a relationship its the love and happiness that does. I hope you do decide to get married as im getting married next year also and i felt guity because of a few things but when i woke up and smelt the coffee. People will always have opinions on everything and the best thing to do is not listen to them and do what you want to do. Hold your head up high and be happy with your own decisions as its your life and you can do what you .
2006-09-30 03:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think a four year age gap is a problem. wow, you have a problem because four years is not a problem at all. you are in the same decade, generation, i.e. music, etc. what is the problem four years is nothing. I know people 15 18 years gap, and happy. Do not understand the same music tho...but can get over that hiccup.Four years, and you are worried. i would not even like to meet you, let alone marry one of you. You are stiff
2006-09-29 18:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't necessarily say it's BAD..but I think you're going to have to work very hard at it. 4 years is a not a big difference, if he's 30 and you're 34. But between 19 & 23 you mature and grow A LOT...you change a lot. My fiance and I have been dating for 4 years...we're now 23 & 24...and we've both changed in the last few years at different paces and in different ways. It's been very difficult and we've had to work hard to make it work. If you're willing to do that, then good for you! Just know it probably won't be easy. I'd honestly suggest waiting a couple of years before getting married-19/20 is very young in my opinion.
How long have you been dating? No matter what you decide, good luck! :)
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2006-09-28 06:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by abbya11111 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The gap itself isn't a big one and isn't therefore a problem. I do think though that your fiance is much too young to be getting married. You yourself are barely old enough, he is way too young, but if you are happy, that is all that matters, and I hope you will stay that way. Sometimes it works, and I hope for you it does.
I thought you were going to talk about big age gaps like 20 or 30 years - I want to be able to say they're fine as long as you're happy, but somehow I can't help wanting to throw up at the idea!
2006-09-29 07:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally some age gap is required between wife and husband, mainly to support each other.
The age gap brings certain responsibilities and the elder one is expected to take care of the family.
If the age gap is between 0 to 3 years, they are more like friends and there would be some ego issues.
If the age gap is between 4-6 years, the younger one tend to listen to the elder one.
If the age gap is more than 10 years, the older one need to pamper the younger one.
And if the age gap is more than 15-20 years, the neighbour will take care :-)
The younger one can take care of the elder in the old age. If both are of same age, and both fall sick, you are left with no one to take care of you.
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2006-09-28 00:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is an 11 yrs age gap between my husband and myself. He is 36 and i`m 25. We have been together for 5 years and married for 2 and we have never been happier!! Age does not matter at all and you shouldnt let it bother you either. If you and your boyfriend are happy and in love thats all that matters. Dont let anyone tell you other wise!
Be Happy :)
2006-09-29 05:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 years, to me, isn't really an age gap. My husband is 26 and I am 22 and we've been married almost a year and a half (been together for almost 6 years). I think as long as you have common ground, have a good time together, and are both mature enough to handle your relationship then all will be just fine. Good luck!
2006-09-28 04:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Blair T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is nothing! Try an age gap of 18 years. I'm 35 now and my wife is 53 and we're still happy after 16 years together.
2006-09-29 07:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋