My girlfriend will not discuss real issues with me about our differences and future together (retiremenet, planning for vacations, raising children, et. al.) and it has affected our sex life. I cannot get amorous with a person when issues remain unresolved. I have been telling her how much it repels me that all issues are avoided and asked that we start dating again to rebuild, am I wrong or should I just accept her behavior? BTW, we are both in our 30s
2006-09-28 00:00:58 · 15 answers · asked by Michael P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
,maybe she can't talk to you about "cause" she isn't ready to, but if she loves you she would talk w/ you about this, love is communication, understanding, responsibility, & last but not least,it has it's ups and downs. Try telling her this is important to you & if she isn't interested in it then give her a dicision,your life together, or apart, & explain in details why you feel that way.
GOOD LUCK(we all need loving)
2006-09-28 00:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have probably scared her. All this retirement & children is too much sometimes. For some people planing ahead (from vacation to children & retirement) is like drawing a line between the life one has and the future which is unknown & therefore too scary.
Then along with these comittments come all the responsibilities some men & women are not willing to take because they are not mature enough or they do not want to grow up (& stop having fun)
Take it easy or else you will loose her. Some men would love being in your shoes. You don't have to work out your whole life now . Even planning for Christmas is too early!
2006-09-28 00:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by marissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not ready to talk about these issues, then she obviously is not as serious as you are. So you have a choice to make, you can drop the issues, and the sex gets better again. Or you can push the issues, and your relationship will most likely come to a halt. The choice is yours. i choose the first choice, for you. have sex, have fun, and see where this relationship goes.
2006-09-28 00:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. She's not ready to be that serious and two years is a good enough time to make up your minds either way so I don't think you're being unreasonable. There are plenty of women who want what you want,,,move on and find her.
2006-09-28 02:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by annisenior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to move on. If she hasn't tried to help resolve these issues, then they will never be resolved as long as the two of you are together. Find someone whom you can see eye to eye with.
2006-09-28 00:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be afraid of lifetime commitments.If she doesn't want to discuss then put some distance between the two of you.
2006-09-28 00:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by heavenly28001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the uptight B itch and move on I bet she doesn't even come over with the anal sex and stuff. Leave her, my guess is she could do with losing a few pounds anyway and this will be a wake up call
2006-09-28 00:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe she doesn't want to stay with u till she is retired? or maybe she doesn't want to think about retirement and death at all. my motto in life usually is: u don't like smth u know where the door is so u can always use it, instead of complaining. saves time
2006-09-28 00:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is effecting your love for her. And her love for you. And has that big of an impact. Then it is seriously time to move on.
2006-09-28 00:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 03:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by carrera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋