My boyfriend and I have known each other since I was 11 and I have liked him for years..we talked about us a few times in the past but never hooked up..we remain the best of friend..but 4 years ago we hooked up and life with him is wonderful we just had a baby.he was wonderful through out the pregnacy and still wonderful to me and our baby..but he isnt ready to get married and he really doesnt have a reason why, except he just isnt ready what should I do ...I love him and I know he loves me and he does anything for me he treats me and the baby like gold but I want more then anything to marry him what should I do
2006-09-27 09:19:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im just affraid he will never want to get married and sometimes I feel like I should just leave the subject alone cause he is a wonderful man
2006-09-27 09:23:46 · update #1
He spends the majority of his time with me he does go out and have fun but he isnt gone for hours. i know he is being faithful so dont respond to the question if your going to be negative and say he has someone on the side .
2006-09-28 00:07:28 · update #2
If you love him & things are great for all three of you, then just be patient. It took my husband 7 years, but it was bothe the wait. He & I are as happy as ever along with our son.
2006-09-27 09:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lo2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you under 22 - give it a little more time. Else see below
I don't get this whole - baby daddy thing. $50 bucks he's got someone on the side. Guys don't marry a girl until they find the person who they think they can't do better than. If he's going out with boyz more than 2 nights a week - you already know your answer. Sorry, I know the truth hurts. Be well - lots of great guys out there - just don't give them a baby before your married next time.
2006-09-27 09:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do you have to have that piece of paper over what you have with him now? Will being married make the relationship better? Given that 52% of marriages end in divorce the only reason to get married now would be for financial security and the benefits you'd receive if you did divorce him.
As to why he won't marry, why should he? He has everything he wants now without being financially tied to you, save for the baby.
2006-09-27 09:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Muffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you two had a baby doesn't mean that marriage is the appropriate step right now. Maybe he wants to take his time and see how you both will do as parents before trying it as a "couple." You don't want him to marry you out of obligation, but out of love for you and your child. If you pressure him into making a decision, it won't be the right one. Good luck to you and congrats on the baby.
2006-09-27 09:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Angela N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he told you he is not ready so leave it at that. you are doing fine together even with the baby .. If he doesn't marry you . be thankful he has been as wonderful to you and the baby the way you say he is. being married doesn't guarantee anything anyway. IT would only be good for your baby , but you are Happy now so that is great,
2006-09-27 09:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes told you he's not ready ... thats why he wont marry you. He is seeing the big picture. How important and sacred a marriage is, he knows what a big deal it is, and wants to wait. It's ok, i mean marriage isn't something small. (some) people are intimidated by the whole thing. not because they are not in love but simply because they know how important it is, and are just not ready for such a gigantic step.
2006-09-27 09:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are not dominating the relationship he should have asked since, or if he is not thinking of anything bad that has happened to his fellow brothers concerning marriage, i see no reason why he shouldn't have since. ask him about things u think might be worrying him concerning marriage, u have leaved with him for two years u should know one or two things he must have mentioned before. so try to ask him. but never never ask him why he has not ask your hand in marriage u have to wait for that if u really love him, unless he is just using u.
2006-09-27 09:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by diji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like you have everything you need i total understand things will make its way to marriage, I'm sure of it like last night my bf and i were in bed he was like i wanna have baby's with you an d i would love to but i wanna wait until i get married but, if it happens it happens, i love him with all my heart we just brought a house together its a big step for us but we are doing it its very hard .... we have been together only for 1 and half but it feel like forever its crazy i sit and wounder whats going to happen next for us in the future i would wait and see how things go things will happen if you let them, im sure just hold on
2006-09-27 10:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by D&G girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere in his life, he has seen problems. Some people just have a problem commiting, suggest a couples counselor to bring out his fears.
2006-09-27 09:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by helper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush marriage. Give him the chance to open up. Mention marriage but don't push it over the limit.
2006-09-27 09:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by big_strong_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋